Questions abound regarding dry humping, dry sex and dry intercourse. It is most often a question asked by girls and women, wanting to know if they can be pregnant when engaging in "dry sex".
The terms has been defined in many ways, depending on the person asking, and I wanted to break through the barriers and actually talk about the "embarrassing" aspects of what these terms actually mean.
What are you actually doing with your partner when you are doing anything "dry" in the sex-realm? Let's take the slang out of our questions, and talk about these taboo topics in the name of sexual health and wellness.
Sexual Health Quiz: Test Your Knowledge on this "Dry" Subject!
1. How would you describe/define the following terms?
- Dry Humping
- Dry Sex
- Dry Intercourse
2. What specific behaviors am I engaging in if I do any of the following?
- Dry Humping
- Dry Sex
- Dry Intercourse
3. Can you "get" pregnant from any of the following sexual activities?
- Dry Humping
- Dry Sex
- Dry Intercourse
4. Can you spread or contract an STI/STD from any of the following sexual behaviors? (STI/STD = sexually transmitted infections or diseases)
- Dry Humping
- Dry Sex
- Dry Intercourse
ANSWERS:
1. Dry= No Bodily Fluid Contact
The word "dry" means that there is no bodily fluid exchange or contact, including fluids or lubrication from the penis, vagina, anus or mouth. These specifically can include pre-ejaculatory fluid ("pre-cum"), ejaculatory fluid or "ejaculation" or "cum", vaginal lubrication or vaginal secretions.
"Dry humping" and "dry sex" can be summed up by using the term: "outercourse".
There is actually no such thing as "dry intercourse", as penetration can never be considered a "dry" activity as there is natural lubrication from your body that is considered a "bodily fluid".
2. Outercourse can include:
- massaging, touching
- masturbation
- body rubbing, humping or "going through motions" of sex while fully clothed (genitals are fully covered)...most commonly called "dry humping"
Outercourse can not include:
- penetration of penis into vagina, anus or mouth
- body rubbing while clothed, but some "slippage" of clothing (underwear, specifically)
- ejaculation near vagina, even while covered, with chance of semen spilling over clothing
3. No, Outercourse would not lead to pregnancy
As explained above, outercourse does not involve the contact or exchange of any bodily fluids, and therefore, would not create a risk for pregnancy
4. Yes, Outercourse may still carry the risk of spreading or contracting an STI/STD
The word "dry" is important when talking about pregnancy and STIs/STDs, as Outercourse is a Good Safer Sex Option, but is not 100% "safe".
Safer Sex is any sexual behavior that reduces your risk for infection or pregnancy. Although most STDs/STIs are spread through exchange of bodily fluids, some are transmitted from skin-to-skin contact (meaning: you don't have to have intercourse/penetration to become infected with an STD/STI). The skin-to-skin contact through outercourse can be a risk for STD/STI.
Lastly,
What are the Benefits of Outercourse (for two consenting adults?)
- Pleasurable form of sexual expression and intimacy
- Type of "safer sex" without need for contraception (for pregnancy prevention)
- Lower risk for contracting or spreading STIs or STDs (sexually transmitted infections or diseases)
- No risk for pregnancy
- It can be a sexual behavior that is pleasurable, exciting and not stress-inducing (from the point of view of women, wondering if they are pregnant)
Let us know your thoughts on these terms "dry humping" and "outercourse".
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Hi, I have a question.
January 10, 2018 - 9:51amYesterday, me and my boyfriend were dy-humping, only he was wearing underwear. He says I was sitting on the buttom of his penis. He didn't eyaculate near my vagina and according to my menstrual app, I'm on the "low chance of getting pregnant" days. Can I still get pregnant if he pre-cum? Should I do something about it today?
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Hello Anon-
January 10, 2018 - 5:10pmPre-ejaculate itself does not contain any sperm. Sperm may be inside the urethra if a man ejaculated recently and did not urinate since. If he urinated since he last ejaculated, there is no sperm at all. Pregnancy is very uncommon from pre-ejaculate and the urethra would have to contain sperm at the same time. A woman would also have to be ovulating and engage in unprotected intercourse with ejaculation. There is no risk in your case.
Susan
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Hi Susan. I was wondering if you could help me
January 9, 2018 - 3:29amThis Comment
my bf and I were dry humping on 1/01/18, I had my panty and leggings on while he had shorts and jeans on. I’m pretty sure I never felt anything wet when I touched his penis (as in touched it from the his jeans).. I only felt wet in my pants, probably my fluid. Anyway, I’m just concerned if there’s any risk of being pregnant?
January 3, 2018 - 7:56amThis Comment
No, there is no risk. You have to have ejaculation/intercourse and be ovulating to get pregnant. Nobody can get pregnant with clothes on.
January 3, 2018 - 2:58pmSusan
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Hi i was humping this Women i was wearing underwear and jeans and she was wearing underwear and shorts can she get pregnant
December 26, 2017 - 11:46pmThis Comment
Hello Anon
A pregnancy can't occur this way. A woman cannot get pregnant unless she has unprotected sex (naked) with ejaculation. She would also have to be ovulating. Sperm will not travel through a layer of clothing to impregnate.
So a pregnancy cannot occur from what you did.
Best,
December 27, 2017 - 12:19pmSusan
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Hi,
December 7, 2017 - 10:44amSo this guy and I had outercourse about a little over a month now. I was fully clothed (leggings and underwear) but he was naked. I have not had any pregnancy symptoms, but i have been a bit more gassy lately i think because of my anxiety. I also took four pregnancy tests after, all negative. Two were done two weeks after outercourse, one was three weeks after and one was four weeks after. I also got my period three days after outercourse, but i did not get my period the next month. I also am on the pill but am bad at taking it exactly at the same time each day, but i do make sure to take it within the same hour each day. I’m just freaking out that i may be pregnant is there any chance that i could be?? Please let me know thanks!!
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My boyfriend and I have been dating for seven years. About a year ago, we began dry humping with clothes on. From that point, we've progressed to no clothing. I take contraception pretty regularly (though I have missed some doses). We also don't do this very often.
Last month, I had spotting 11 days before my next period was due. It was dark brown and lasted for about 4-5 days; I wore pads during that time because it would get on my clothes. My period, however, did not come. Around the time my period should have been due, I took a pregnancy test and it came back negative. I then visited with my OBGYN who told me it is best to ask my BF to use a condom to be the safest. He also switched my birth control.
When I switched birth control, I started light bleeding again. I didn't really wear a pad for this spotting because it was so light. It was also dark brown/black. My period still hasn't come. Should I take another pregnancy test? Is it possible I could be pregnant? I hate the anxiety surrounding this. Thank you for any help you might offer to me.
November 24, 2017 - 9:00pmThis Comment
Hello Anon
You don't take birth control pills "pretty regularly" - they are to be taken at the same time every day during the active phase - your spotting is a result of this. Spotting on this new brand may be due to your body getting used to it. If you are on new pills, you won't get your period until the inactive week.
November 28, 2017 - 4:04pmSusan
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