Questions abound regarding dry humping, dry sex and dry intercourse. It is most often a question asked by girls and women, wanting to know if they can be pregnant when engaging in "dry sex".
The terms has been defined in many ways, depending on the person asking, and I wanted to break through the barriers and actually talk about the "embarrassing" aspects of what these terms actually mean.
What are you actually doing with your partner when you are doing anything "dry" in the sex-realm? Let's take the slang out of our questions, and talk about these taboo topics in the name of sexual health and wellness.
Sexual Health Quiz: Test Your Knowledge on this "Dry" Subject!
1. How would you describe/define the following terms?
- Dry Humping
- Dry Sex
- Dry Intercourse
2. What specific behaviors am I engaging in if I do any of the following?
- Dry Humping
- Dry Sex
- Dry Intercourse
3. Can you "get" pregnant from any of the following sexual activities?
- Dry Humping
- Dry Sex
- Dry Intercourse
4. Can you spread or contract an STI/STD from any of the following sexual behaviors? (STI/STD = sexually transmitted infections or diseases)
- Dry Humping
- Dry Sex
- Dry Intercourse
ANSWERS:
1. Dry= No Bodily Fluid Contact
The word "dry" means that there is no bodily fluid exchange or contact, including fluids or lubrication from the penis, vagina, anus or mouth. These specifically can include pre-ejaculatory fluid ("pre-cum"), ejaculatory fluid or "ejaculation" or "cum", vaginal lubrication or vaginal secretions.
"Dry humping" and "dry sex" can be summed up by using the term: "outercourse".
There is actually no such thing as "dry intercourse", as penetration can never be considered a "dry" activity as there is natural lubrication from your body that is considered a "bodily fluid".
2. Outercourse can include:
- massaging, touching
- masturbation
- body rubbing, humping or "going through motions" of sex while fully clothed (genitals are fully covered)...most commonly called "dry humping"
Outercourse can not include:
- penetration of penis into vagina, anus or mouth
- body rubbing while clothed, but some "slippage" of clothing (underwear, specifically)
- ejaculation near vagina, even while covered, with chance of semen spilling over clothing
3. No, Outercourse would not lead to pregnancy
As explained above, outercourse does not involve the contact or exchange of any bodily fluids, and therefore, would not create a risk for pregnancy
4. Yes, Outercourse may still carry the risk of spreading or contracting an STI/STD
The word "dry" is important when talking about pregnancy and STIs/STDs, as Outercourse is a Good Safer Sex Option, but is not 100% "safe".
Safer Sex is any sexual behavior that reduces your risk for infection or pregnancy. Although most STDs/STIs are spread through exchange of bodily fluids, some are transmitted from skin-to-skin contact (meaning: you don't have to have intercourse/penetration to become infected with an STD/STI). The skin-to-skin contact through outercourse can be a risk for STD/STI.
Lastly,
What are the Benefits of Outercourse (for two consenting adults?)
- Pleasurable form of sexual expression and intimacy
- Type of "safer sex" without need for contraception (for pregnancy prevention)
- Lower risk for contracting or spreading STIs or STDs (sexually transmitted infections or diseases)
- No risk for pregnancy
- It can be a sexual behavior that is pleasurable, exciting and not stress-inducing (from the point of view of women, wondering if they are pregnant)
Let us know your thoughts on these terms "dry humping" and "outercourse".
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Hello.
You can't get pregnant with clothes on. A woman has to have unprotected sex with ejaculate that enters the vagina in order to become pregnant. You would also have to be ovulating at that time. Your period is late for other reasons, stress, illness, or a change in body chemistry can often cause a delay.
Helena
March 17, 2018 - 4:57amThis Comment
Hey, this is CR...I have a quick question...my girlfriend and I had a dry humping session for about a min, fully clothed... She had two layers of clothing while i had 3... I did have precum present and rubbed my private area with hers fully clothed...is there a chance of pregnancy??
February 5, 2018 - 5:30pmThis Comment
me and my girl was dry humping with her underwear on and i was naked,i have not ejaculated on her, i have touched vagina opening few time before ejaculation,her periods date are 7-10 of month this was our first sexual activity and we both are virgin. please tell me is this was safe.
January 24, 2018 - 6:34amThis Comment
Hi me and my boyfriend were in the car basically making out and stuff then he took out his penis i touched it he touched it also it was dry all dry and i made him put it back in his underwear but still I put hand sanitizer ALOT on his hands and mine. Then after some minutes we started dry humping and making out fully clothed we both were wearing sweatpants which are usually pretty thick and I think he put his hand in my underwear for some seconds to rub my vagina but His hands were sanitized and nothing was on them to begin with after that i just told him to rub it from outside my sweatpants rather in. My underwear was a little wet from me being "aroused" in general. After we were done he said he got done and i just got out the car when he started cleaning his penis and then again i sanitized his hands just for them to be clean after that he didnt come near my vaginal area it was fully covered anyways nor did he touch my vaginal area. Can you become pregnant from this? I doubt it but I just kindly want to know from someone experienced. Thank You ❤️
January 20, 2018 - 11:20amThis Comment
Hello Anon
There is no risk, based on what you describe.
January 22, 2018 - 5:22amA woman has to have unprotected intercourse an be ovulating in order to get pregnant.
Best,
Susan
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Thank You This happened the day i started spotting for my period and I can remember pretty clearly his fluids never got in contact with my vagina. It cant be possible right?
January 24, 2018 - 10:41amThis Comment
Hey,
January 14, 2018 - 12:17pmSo my bf ejaculated near my vagina (while I was wearing leggings and panties while he was naked) I was a little wet and this was 3 days before my last period and I was expecting my next period on 8th January and I'm 7 days late..
I should also mention here that I experienced a lot of white vaginal discharge with the littlest amount of blood on 9th of January
Any chances of me being pregnant?
Thank you.
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Hello Anon
January 15, 2018 - 11:59amYou can't get pregnant with clothes on and no intercourse, you must be late for other reasons including a change in hormones or even stress. A pregnancy test can confirm this for you.
Susan
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I was hvg dry sex with my bf on new year’s (2018). I had my panty and leggings on, he had shorts and jeans on. I’m not sure if he cm or not. But, my leggings were dry, my panty was wet. Note that, we were standing against a wall. At one point where he carried me, but I almost fell, so he leaned me against the wall (I was sitting/resting on him, but I could feel his penis) and during this time we were still fully clothed till the end, never naked. Though I never felt my leggings get wet, only the panty (probably my fluid). Is there a risk of me getting pregnant?
January 11, 2018 - 3:17amThis Comment
one day before her periods my gf gave me a hand job and one or two drops fall on her hand after that she wiped her hands to cloth then started rubbing her clit and next day she got regular periods is there any chances of getting pregnant?
January 11, 2018 - 12:33amThis Comment