Questions abound regarding dry humping, dry sex and dry intercourse. It is most often a question asked by girls and women, wanting to know if they can be pregnant when engaging in "dry sex".
The terms has been defined in many ways, depending on the person asking, and I wanted to break through the barriers and actually talk about the "embarrassing" aspects of what these terms actually mean.
What are you actually doing with your partner when you are doing anything "dry" in the sex-realm? Let's take the slang out of our questions, and talk about these taboo topics in the name of sexual health and wellness.
Sexual Health Quiz: Test Your Knowledge on this "Dry" Subject!
1. How would you describe/define the following terms?
- Dry Humping
- Dry Sex
- Dry Intercourse
2. What specific behaviors am I engaging in if I do any of the following?
- Dry Humping
- Dry Sex
- Dry Intercourse
3. Can you "get" pregnant from any of the following sexual activities?
- Dry Humping
- Dry Sex
- Dry Intercourse
4. Can you spread or contract an STI/STD from any of the following sexual behaviors? (STI/STD = sexually transmitted infections or diseases)
- Dry Humping
- Dry Sex
- Dry Intercourse
ANSWERS:
1. Dry= No Bodily Fluid Contact
The word "dry" means that there is no bodily fluid exchange or contact, including fluids or lubrication from the penis, vagina, anus or mouth. These specifically can include pre-ejaculatory fluid ("pre-cum"), ejaculatory fluid or "ejaculation" or "cum", vaginal lubrication or vaginal secretions.
"Dry humping" and "dry sex" can be summed up by using the term: "outercourse".
There is actually no such thing as "dry intercourse", as penetration can never be considered a "dry" activity as there is natural lubrication from your body that is considered a "bodily fluid".
2. Outercourse can include:
- massaging, touching
- masturbation
- body rubbing, humping or "going through motions" of sex while fully clothed (genitals are fully covered)...most commonly called "dry humping"
Outercourse can not include:
- penetration of penis into vagina, anus or mouth
- body rubbing while clothed, but some "slippage" of clothing (underwear, specifically)
- ejaculation near vagina, even while covered, with chance of semen spilling over clothing
3. No, Outercourse would not lead to pregnancy
As explained above, outercourse does not involve the contact or exchange of any bodily fluids, and therefore, would not create a risk for pregnancy
4. Yes, Outercourse may still carry the risk of spreading or contracting an STI/STD
The word "dry" is important when talking about pregnancy and STIs/STDs, as Outercourse is a Good Safer Sex Option, but is not 100% "safe".
Safer Sex is any sexual behavior that reduces your risk for infection or pregnancy. Although most STDs/STIs are spread through exchange of bodily fluids, some are transmitted from skin-to-skin contact (meaning: you don't have to have intercourse/penetration to become infected with an STD/STI). The skin-to-skin contact through outercourse can be a risk for STD/STI.
Lastly,
What are the Benefits of Outercourse (for two consenting adults?)
- Pleasurable form of sexual expression and intimacy
- Type of "safer sex" without need for contraception (for pregnancy prevention)
- Lower risk for contracting or spreading STIs or STDs (sexually transmitted infections or diseases)
- No risk for pregnancy
- It can be a sexual behavior that is pleasurable, exciting and not stress-inducing (from the point of view of women, wondering if they are pregnant)
Let us know your thoughts on these terms "dry humping" and "outercourse".
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My boyfriend and I were fully clothed and I'm on the pill. I definitely don't want to do it again but is everything okay?
September 7, 2017 - 10:00pmThis Comment
Hello Anonymous,
Yes.
Maryann
September 8, 2017 - 9:04amThis Comment
my boyfriend and i both were dry humping with our swimsuits on. we both came and our swimsuits got wet.. is there a possibility i could get pregnant? because i was wearingn a tampon too and i dont know if that helps or not?
August 30, 2017 - 12:17amThis Comment
Hello Anonymous,
No possibility for becoming pregnant.
Maryann
August 30, 2017 - 9:37amThis Comment
I made out with my partner, four times (before my period, while on period, my last day of period and my ovulation day) we had our clothes on. While I was on my last day of period, he didn't ejaculate but precum was present.... It seemed like a small amount of the precum was leaked out from his undies and onto his shorts... As far as I am aware, I didn't touch his shorts. I am concerned though that I might be pregnant. I made sure I wash my hands after we are done making out before cleaning myself up. Am I paranoid? Also, there was once where I touched his P (while he had his undies) and he had not cummed yet at that point of time. Should I be worried about anything?
July 6, 2017 - 7:57amThis Comment
Hello Anonymous,
If you both had clothes on, there was no risk.
Maryann
July 18, 2017 - 9:47amThis Comment
My boyfriend and I dry humped yesterday. He had no brief no boxers on but I was wearing an underwear and shorts. He ejaculated that made my shorts AND underwear wet. Is there a chance I'd get pregnant by this?
June 26, 2017 - 9:12amThis Comment
Hello dldl977
No risk because you were wearing underwear and shorts.
Maryann
June 27, 2017 - 9:49amThis Comment
My bf and I does dry sex. but he has his boxers on while I don't, im naked down there. and there was a time where everything got intense and he went inside me ( with his boxers on). Can that cause UTI or something? Because earlier when I peed, it was really painful towards the end of the pee. Someone help please.
June 20, 2017 - 12:46pmThis Comment
I assume you already got an answer but you may have a blister from the friction of dry humping. It's very common and pee makes them burn
July 12, 2017 - 1:13pmThis Comment