Questions abound regarding dry humping, dry sex and dry intercourse. It is most often a question asked by girls and women, wanting to know if they can be pregnant when engaging in "dry sex".
The terms has been defined in many ways, depending on the person asking, and I wanted to break through the barriers and actually talk about the "embarrassing" aspects of what these terms actually mean.
What are you actually doing with your partner when you are doing anything "dry" in the sex-realm? Let's take the slang out of our questions, and talk about these taboo topics in the name of sexual health and wellness.
Sexual Health Quiz: Test Your Knowledge on this "Dry" Subject!
1. How would you describe/define the following terms?
- Dry Humping
- Dry Sex
- Dry Intercourse
2. What specific behaviors am I engaging in if I do any of the following?
- Dry Humping
- Dry Sex
- Dry Intercourse
3. Can you "get" pregnant from any of the following sexual activities?
- Dry Humping
- Dry Sex
- Dry Intercourse
4. Can you spread or contract an STI/STD from any of the following sexual behaviors? (STI/STD = sexually transmitted infections or diseases)
- Dry Humping
- Dry Sex
- Dry Intercourse
ANSWERS:
1. Dry= No Bodily Fluid Contact
The word "dry" means that there is no bodily fluid exchange or contact, including fluids or lubrication from the penis, vagina, anus or mouth. These specifically can include pre-ejaculatory fluid ("pre-cum"), ejaculatory fluid or "ejaculation" or "cum", vaginal lubrication or vaginal secretions.
"Dry humping" and "dry sex" can be summed up by using the term: "outercourse".
There is actually no such thing as "dry intercourse", as penetration can never be considered a "dry" activity as there is natural lubrication from your body that is considered a "bodily fluid".
2. Outercourse can include:
- massaging, touching
- masturbation
- body rubbing, humping or "going through motions" of sex while fully clothed (genitals are fully covered)...most commonly called "dry humping"
Outercourse can not include:
- penetration of penis into vagina, anus or mouth
- body rubbing while clothed, but some "slippage" of clothing (underwear, specifically)
- ejaculation near vagina, even while covered, with chance of semen spilling over clothing
3. No, Outercourse would not lead to pregnancy
As explained above, outercourse does not involve the contact or exchange of any bodily fluids, and therefore, would not create a risk for pregnancy
4. Yes, Outercourse may still carry the risk of spreading or contracting an STI/STD
The word "dry" is important when talking about pregnancy and STIs/STDs, as Outercourse is a Good Safer Sex Option, but is not 100% "safe".
Safer Sex is any sexual behavior that reduces your risk for infection or pregnancy. Although most STDs/STIs are spread through exchange of bodily fluids, some are transmitted from skin-to-skin contact (meaning: you don't have to have intercourse/penetration to become infected with an STD/STI). The skin-to-skin contact through outercourse can be a risk for STD/STI.
Lastly,
What are the Benefits of Outercourse (for two consenting adults?)
- Pleasurable form of sexual expression and intimacy
- Type of "safer sex" without need for contraception (for pregnancy prevention)
- Lower risk for contracting or spreading STIs or STDs (sexually transmitted infections or diseases)
- No risk for pregnancy
- It can be a sexual behavior that is pleasurable, exciting and not stress-inducing (from the point of view of women, wondering if they are pregnant)
Let us know your thoughts on these terms "dry humping" and "outercourse".
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Hello, Anon.
Please take the time to fully read this thread. There is a lot of information here that can help educate you about sex. You cannot get pregnant this way. There was no penetration or ejaculation within you. Your clothes prevent this from happening.
Helena
November 25, 2018 - 7:09amThis Comment
My girlfriend and I were making out and she was on top of me. I was wearing compression shorts and athletic shorts and she was wearing sweat shorts and underwear. I came while she was on top of me. Is there any chance sperm could have gotten through the 4 layers of clothes and gotten her pregnant? She says she didn’t feel and wetness. Her period was supposed to come 7 days ago but it still hasn’t. She isn’t worried but I am.
August 10, 2018 - 5:59pmThis Comment
Hello.
If you take the time to read the article and comments in this thread you will see that pregnancy is not possible this way. You had clothes on and therefore didn't have sex (intercourse with ejaculation). A late or missed period can happen occasionally and is not a cause for concern, especially in teens.
Helena
August 11, 2018 - 5:33amThis Comment
HI, me and my boyfriend were dry humping with him in boxers and cotton shorts and me with gym leggings lacy underwear and a panty liner on. He ejaculated on top of me, and it could be seen through his shorts with my leggings being wet on the outside too. Is there any chance I could be pregnant if I was on top or at all?
July 23, 2018 - 2:50pmThis Comment
Hi.
Take the time to fully read this thread. There is a lot of information here that can help educate you about sex. In short, you cannot get pregnant this way. There was no penetration or ejaculation. Therefore, there was no way for the ejaculate (which contains the sperm) to enter the vagina. Sperm can't penetrate clothing to impregnate.
July 23, 2018 - 4:46pmBest,
Sisan
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Hi, yesterday my boyfriend and I were dry humping, he had boxers on and I had lacy underwear. He didn’t ejaculate anywhere near my vagina but he did precum in his boxers while i was on top of him. I know the chances of me being pregnant are very slim but is it worth taking a pregnancy test??
May 12, 2018 - 12:12pmThis Comment
Hi.
Take the time to fully read this thread. There is a lot of information here that can help educate you about sex. In short, you cannot get pregnant this way. There was no penetration or ejaculation. Therefore, there was no way for the ejaculate (which contains the sperm) to enter the vagina.
Helena
May 12, 2018 - 2:10pmThis Comment
Hi, are there any comments (so many to look through here) or articles about dry humping affects on the male? I found my dry humping experience with both of us clothed (I in nylon silky underwear, she in underwear + shorts or pants) to sometimes be problematic, seems the experience is easier for her. I have the following issues at times during dry hump: my testicles feel squished (not sure if that's good long term); my penis is squished and kinda scratched from the humping and being held in underwear while towards max erection; my pubic bone rubs against/near hers, which can hurt a bit over time, especially when I'm not that erect to counter that bone rubbing; I fail to maintain the erection and have to re-energize it since I'm not well aligned to stimulate her from dry humping (wrong alignment where it's good for me rubs her the wrong way) - her hand job on me has better effect on erection. I'm just looking for ways where the dry hump experience can be better for both of us. I wear the nylon silky underwear to minimal rub damage on my part, and to provide max stimulation while clothed.
April 11, 2018 - 9:33amThis Comment
Hi.
There may be some comments (and tips) from other men here. You will need to read through the comments and see. And yes, there are many! I can share this link with you.
Copy/paste: http://thestallionstyle.com/what-the-heck-is-dry-humping/
Hope it helps!
Helena
May 12, 2018 - 2:28pmThis Comment
I had dry sex on my 4th day of periods i was wearing 3 layers one of which was sanitary pad and my bf was wearing 2 layers can i get pregnant?? As i was supposed to get my periods on 14 march but its been 17 today n there are no signs of bleeding
March 17, 2018 - 1:27amThis Comment