Questions abound regarding dry humping, dry sex and dry intercourse. It is most often a question asked by girls and women, wanting to know if they can be pregnant when engaging in "dry sex".
The terms has been defined in many ways, depending on the person asking, and I wanted to break through the barriers and actually talk about the "embarrassing" aspects of what these terms actually mean.
What are you actually doing with your partner when you are doing anything "dry" in the sex-realm? Let's take the slang out of our questions, and talk about these taboo topics in the name of sexual health and wellness.
Sexual Health Quiz: Test Your Knowledge on this "Dry" Subject!
1. How would you describe/define the following terms?
- Dry Humping
- Dry Sex
- Dry Intercourse
2. What specific behaviors am I engaging in if I do any of the following?
- Dry Humping
- Dry Sex
- Dry Intercourse
3. Can you "get" pregnant from any of the following sexual activities?
- Dry Humping
- Dry Sex
- Dry Intercourse
4. Can you spread or contract an STI/STD from any of the following sexual behaviors? (STI/STD = sexually transmitted infections or diseases)
- Dry Humping
- Dry Sex
- Dry Intercourse
ANSWERS:
1. Dry= No Bodily Fluid Contact
The word "dry" means that there is no bodily fluid exchange or contact, including fluids or lubrication from the penis, vagina, anus or mouth. These specifically can include pre-ejaculatory fluid ("pre-cum"), ejaculatory fluid or "ejaculation" or "cum", vaginal lubrication or vaginal secretions.
"Dry humping" and "dry sex" can be summed up by using the term: "outercourse".
There is actually no such thing as "dry intercourse", as penetration can never be considered a "dry" activity as there is natural lubrication from your body that is considered a "bodily fluid".
2. Outercourse can include:
- massaging, touching
- masturbation
- body rubbing, humping or "going through motions" of sex while fully clothed (genitals are fully covered)...most commonly called "dry humping"
Outercourse can not include:
- penetration of penis into vagina, anus or mouth
- body rubbing while clothed, but some "slippage" of clothing (underwear, specifically)
- ejaculation near vagina, even while covered, with chance of semen spilling over clothing
3. No, Outercourse would not lead to pregnancy
As explained above, outercourse does not involve the contact or exchange of any bodily fluids, and therefore, would not create a risk for pregnancy
4. Yes, Outercourse may still carry the risk of spreading or contracting an STI/STD
The word "dry" is important when talking about pregnancy and STIs/STDs, as Outercourse is a Good Safer Sex Option, but is not 100% "safe".
Safer Sex is any sexual behavior that reduces your risk for infection or pregnancy. Although most STDs/STIs are spread through exchange of bodily fluids, some are transmitted from skin-to-skin contact (meaning: you don't have to have intercourse/penetration to become infected with an STD/STI). The skin-to-skin contact through outercourse can be a risk for STD/STI.
Lastly,
What are the Benefits of Outercourse (for two consenting adults?)
- Pleasurable form of sexual expression and intimacy
- Type of "safer sex" without need for contraception (for pregnancy prevention)
- Lower risk for contracting or spreading STIs or STDs (sexually transmitted infections or diseases)
- No risk for pregnancy
- It can be a sexual behavior that is pleasurable, exciting and not stress-inducing (from the point of view of women, wondering if they are pregnant)
Let us know your thoughts on these terms "dry humping" and "outercourse".
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what happen??
January 6, 2019 - 1:34amThis Comment
did her period come? I had the same situation and was wondering.
December 30, 2018 - 6:33amThis Comment
what happen sir?? same situation. im so scared
January 5, 2019 - 12:57amThis Comment
Anon.
If you take the time to read through the comments, you will see that getting pregnant this way is not possible. If you still have doubts, a pregnancy test can easily be taken.
Helena
January 5, 2019 - 7:14amThis Comment
maam, actually we have a underwear that time when we have fun,but theres a precum in my underwear. is it possible she can be prenant>?? 3 layers clothing btw....shes delay now.and im so scared.. and im scared to take pt...
January 6, 2019 - 1:31amis it possible?\
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Hello,
You can't get pregnant this way. Wearing 3 layers of clothing. Pre-ejaculate fluid in itself does not contain sperm. Sperm can be picked up the urethra if a man has not urinated since ejaculation. But once he urinates, any sperm would be flushed out.
There is a risk of pregnancy when a woman has unprotected sexual intercourse with ejaculation (which contains the sperm) that enters the vagina.
Helena
January 6, 2019 - 7:28amThis Comment
Hello.
December 24, 2018 - 7:35amThere is no chance of pregnancy if her period is due and you didn't have intercourse - sperm will not pass through a layer of clothing. Her period will confirm she is not pregnant.
Best,
Susan
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On my fertile window, my bf and I dry humped just in our underwear, and I'm pretty sure he ejaculated on me because I felt the fluid on my thigh and some of it even got on my underwear from his. I've never had penetrative sex and can't remember if I felt the fluid go on top of my vagina or if it mixed in with my fluid on my underwear.
Am I pregnant? Should I take a test? My period isn't due until Jan 1, and this was Dec 16 (Sunday) on my Day 15.
I'm not sure when I ovulated, but I remember that on the Friday before that, I had the heavy egg-white discharge for the whole day.
I hope you can help me.
December 18, 2018 - 2:07amThis Comment
Hello Anon
We can't predict if a person will get pregnant or not. It doesn't sound like you could get pregnant, based on what you did. Sperm on the thigh or underwear is not going to get a person pregnant as sperm can't penetrate fabric.
December 18, 2018 - 4:58amA test would not be accurate for 12-14 days after sex.
Susan
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Hello,
November 24, 2018 - 8:24pmSo my boyfriend and I were dry humping earlier today, we were both wearing clothes on (pants and underwear). My concern is, Can I get pregnant dry humping while I’m ovulating? When I went to the restroom, I had discharge and got kind of scared. Please help.
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