Questions abound regarding dry humping, dry sex and dry intercourse. It is most often a question asked by girls and women, wanting to know if they can be pregnant when engaging in "dry sex".
The terms has been defined in many ways, depending on the person asking, and I wanted to break through the barriers and actually talk about the "embarrassing" aspects of what these terms actually mean.
What are you actually doing with your partner when you are doing anything "dry" in the sex-realm? Let's take the slang out of our questions, and talk about these taboo topics in the name of sexual health and wellness.
Sexual Health Quiz: Test Your Knowledge on this "Dry" Subject!
1. How would you describe/define the following terms?
- Dry Humping
- Dry Sex
- Dry Intercourse
2. What specific behaviors am I engaging in if I do any of the following?
- Dry Humping
- Dry Sex
- Dry Intercourse
3. Can you "get" pregnant from any of the following sexual activities?
- Dry Humping
- Dry Sex
- Dry Intercourse
4. Can you spread or contract an STI/STD from any of the following sexual behaviors? (STI/STD = sexually transmitted infections or diseases)
- Dry Humping
- Dry Sex
- Dry Intercourse
ANSWERS:
1. Dry= No Bodily Fluid Contact
The word "dry" means that there is no bodily fluid exchange or contact, including fluids or lubrication from the penis, vagina, anus or mouth. These specifically can include pre-ejaculatory fluid ("pre-cum"), ejaculatory fluid or "ejaculation" or "cum", vaginal lubrication or vaginal secretions.
"Dry humping" and "dry sex" can be summed up by using the term: "outercourse".
There is actually no such thing as "dry intercourse", as penetration can never be considered a "dry" activity as there is natural lubrication from your body that is considered a "bodily fluid".
2. Outercourse can include:
- massaging, touching
- masturbation
- body rubbing, humping or "going through motions" of sex while fully clothed (genitals are fully covered)...most commonly called "dry humping"
Outercourse can not include:
- penetration of penis into vagina, anus or mouth
- body rubbing while clothed, but some "slippage" of clothing (underwear, specifically)
- ejaculation near vagina, even while covered, with chance of semen spilling over clothing
3. No, Outercourse would not lead to pregnancy
As explained above, outercourse does not involve the contact or exchange of any bodily fluids, and therefore, would not create a risk for pregnancy
4. Yes, Outercourse may still carry the risk of spreading or contracting an STI/STD
The word "dry" is important when talking about pregnancy and STIs/STDs, as Outercourse is a Good Safer Sex Option, but is not 100% "safe".
Safer Sex is any sexual behavior that reduces your risk for infection or pregnancy. Although most STDs/STIs are spread through exchange of bodily fluids, some are transmitted from skin-to-skin contact (meaning: you don't have to have intercourse/penetration to become infected with an STD/STI). The skin-to-skin contact through outercourse can be a risk for STD/STI.
Lastly,
What are the Benefits of Outercourse (for two consenting adults?)
- Pleasurable form of sexual expression and intimacy
- Type of "safer sex" without need for contraception (for pregnancy prevention)
- Lower risk for contracting or spreading STIs or STDs (sexually transmitted infections or diseases)
- No risk for pregnancy
- It can be a sexual behavior that is pleasurable, exciting and not stress-inducing (from the point of view of women, wondering if they are pregnant)
Let us know your thoughts on these terms "dry humping" and "outercourse".
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Hi! My bf and I were fooling around. He was in his shorts and underwear and I was in my shorts and panty. Our genitals were pressed against each other with clothing in between. He ejaculated wetting his underwear some droplets of which I could also see on my panty. I am feeling a little weak and nauseus since then. I also vomitted once. Is there any chance of pregnancy?
February 9, 2017 - 8:05amThis Comment
Hello Anonymous,
There was no chance of becoming pregnant because you were both wearing underwear and shorts.
Regards,
February 9, 2017 - 9:46amMaryann
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Hello, about 11 days ago my boyfriend and I were dry humping. I thought I would get my period 4-5 days after but I didn't - I only got dark-brown spotting (I know it can be an early sign of pregnancy) Now my normal period is late, my breasts are a bit sore, I want to pee more often (which sometimes happens before my period). Could all of this happen because I had a really difficult month and that's why my period is late? I've never had spotting before. By the way, my boyfriend didn't ejaculate, he had his underwear on, I didn't. On the 10th day after spotting a pregnancy test showed negative.
February 8, 2017 - 10:45amThis Comment
Hello Anonymous,
The stress associated with a difficult month is enough to cause a delay in the start of your period. A negative pregnancy test was proof.
Regards,
February 9, 2017 - 9:50amMaryann
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What is the point..it just seems crazy..and honestly what happened to men and women getting naked and just making love....u know sex pleasurable sex. Dry humping I just don't get it.and I never heard of it!!!!
January 12, 2017 - 10:43pmThis Comment
Hello, me and my gf dry humped about a month ago and she had her period in the same month like a week later but she has been feeling quite nauseous and been getting more and more tired. I precumed and it went through to my tracksuit bottoms, but she did have tights and underwear on as did I. Help me please as I'm very very worried.
January 8, 2017 - 12:35pmThis Comment
There is nothing to worry about your good :) that's impossible to pass through so many layers.
January 30, 2017 - 6:52pmThis Comment
Hi,
I have never had sex but my boyfriend and I were fooling around around the time when I would have been ovulating. I did not have underwear on, but he did have them on, and his penis was rubbing on my vagina. He did not evacuate, but his underwear seemed wet and I think he might have pre-evacuated. He said that he knows when this happens and that he becomes sweaty and hot when he's excited, but I am worried that wasn't true. I am due for my period anytime starting today and my breasts have been tender for about three days. Also, I have been getting short periods of cramps and back aches for the same amount of time, usually after I go to the bathroom. I have been so very stressed out and I am terrified of being pregnant. I took a test two days ago, somewhere between 2-4 days before I expected my period, and it was negative but I am concerned about it being false because It wasn't first thing in the morning and I had been drinking water. Help! I am desperate for some relief.
-anonymous scared girl
January 6, 2017 - 5:08pmThis Comment
Hi, my boyfriend and I were spooning + dry humping and I felt him get aroused where he got really hard. I'm unsure if he came but I was feeling quite moist in my underwear area. I was wearing pyjama pants and so was he so there were about 4 layers between us. I also had a pad on. I was wondering what are the risks of pregnancy if any?
December 30, 2016 - 4:50pmThis Comment
Hi Maryann and Susan two days before I had a dry sex with my gf we just lying naked and iam sure I didn't ejalcuate and also idnt insert my penis in her ..But iam afraid of my precum and also tat day morning I masturbate and I urinates 3 times after 8hrsonly we had drysex .Pls help me to clarify in this iam really stressed pls
December 30, 2016 - 11:15amThis Comment