Questions abound regarding dry humping, dry sex and dry intercourse. It is most often a question asked by girls and women, wanting to know if they can be pregnant when engaging in "dry sex".
The terms has been defined in many ways, depending on the person asking, and I wanted to break through the barriers and actually talk about the "embarrassing" aspects of what these terms actually mean.
What are you actually doing with your partner when you are doing anything "dry" in the sex-realm? Let's take the slang out of our questions, and talk about these taboo topics in the name of sexual health and wellness.
Sexual Health Quiz: Test Your Knowledge on this "Dry" Subject!
1. How would you describe/define the following terms?
- Dry Humping
- Dry Sex
- Dry Intercourse
2. What specific behaviors am I engaging in if I do any of the following?
- Dry Humping
- Dry Sex
- Dry Intercourse
3. Can you "get" pregnant from any of the following sexual activities?
- Dry Humping
- Dry Sex
- Dry Intercourse
4. Can you spread or contract an STI/STD from any of the following sexual behaviors? (STI/STD = sexually transmitted infections or diseases)
- Dry Humping
- Dry Sex
- Dry Intercourse
ANSWERS:
1. Dry= No Bodily Fluid Contact
The word "dry" means that there is no bodily fluid exchange or contact, including fluids or lubrication from the penis, vagina, anus or mouth. These specifically can include pre-ejaculatory fluid ("pre-cum"), ejaculatory fluid or "ejaculation" or "cum", vaginal lubrication or vaginal secretions.
"Dry humping" and "dry sex" can be summed up by using the term: "outercourse".
There is actually no such thing as "dry intercourse", as penetration can never be considered a "dry" activity as there is natural lubrication from your body that is considered a "bodily fluid".
2. Outercourse can include:
- massaging, touching
- masturbation
- body rubbing, humping or "going through motions" of sex while fully clothed (genitals are fully covered)...most commonly called "dry humping"
Outercourse can not include:
- penetration of penis into vagina, anus or mouth
- body rubbing while clothed, but some "slippage" of clothing (underwear, specifically)
- ejaculation near vagina, even while covered, with chance of semen spilling over clothing
3. No, Outercourse would not lead to pregnancy
As explained above, outercourse does not involve the contact or exchange of any bodily fluids, and therefore, would not create a risk for pregnancy
4. Yes, Outercourse may still carry the risk of spreading or contracting an STI/STD
The word "dry" is important when talking about pregnancy and STIs/STDs, as Outercourse is a Good Safer Sex Option, but is not 100% "safe".
Safer Sex is any sexual behavior that reduces your risk for infection or pregnancy. Although most STDs/STIs are spread through exchange of bodily fluids, some are transmitted from skin-to-skin contact (meaning: you don't have to have intercourse/penetration to become infected with an STD/STI). The skin-to-skin contact through outercourse can be a risk for STD/STI.
Lastly,
What are the Benefits of Outercourse (for two consenting adults?)
- Pleasurable form of sexual expression and intimacy
- Type of "safer sex" without need for contraception (for pregnancy prevention)
- Lower risk for contracting or spreading STIs or STDs (sexually transmitted infections or diseases)
- No risk for pregnancy
- It can be a sexual behavior that is pleasurable, exciting and not stress-inducing (from the point of view of women, wondering if they are pregnant)
Let us know your thoughts on these terms "dry humping" and "outercourse".
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Hello Anonymous,
You could not have become pregnant during dry humping because both of you were wearing underwear and pants.
Your period is late because you are stressing out about this. Relax and it should start soon.
Regards,
December 9, 2016 - 9:22amMaryann
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Thank you for your replay. I tried to relax and waited for the period to be assured. This morning I had a brownish discharge!! I checked online, some say its a strong indicator of pregnancy, others say it could be normal when having a delayed period. Can you help me please? I am scared.
December 12, 2016 - 5:03amThis Comment
Hello Anonymous,
As I said, from what you shared, there was never a risk for becoming pregnant. Brownish discharge is not a strong indicator of pregnancy. A missed period and positive pregnancy test results, followed by an ultrasound showing a developing fetus, are strong indicators of pregnancy.
Only you can help yourself by trying very hard to relax and realize you could not have become pregnant.
Regards,
December 12, 2016 - 11:05amMaryann
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while dry humping with my gal, rubbing etc and it was the 2nd day of her period while fully clothed both of us. I ejeculated in my own clothes and then instantly left the place but the girl were stressed and now her period is delayed more than ten days.. any Risk?
December 2, 2016 - 5:22amThis Comment
Hello Anonymous,
There was no risk for pregnancy during dry humping on the second day of her period and while fully clothed.
Stress can be the reason her period is delayed now. There would only have been a risk of pregnancy if she engaged in unprotected intercourse since that last period.
Regards,
December 9, 2016 - 9:20amMaryann
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Thanks for the comment.. the other thing is that.. she has that history of irregular periods most often.. she did a toothpaste pregnancy test which comes negative... is this accurate or still we must confused ?
December 10, 2016 - 4:16amThis Comment
Hi! My gf and I dry humped the other night and I ejaculated a little bit. We were both fully clothed with each of us in underwear and jeans. She's felt nauseous the last two days however. Is it just stress or should we be worried??
November 20, 2016 - 9:40amThis Comment
Hello Anonymous,
No need to stress because there was no risk for pregnancy. Your clothes acted as protective barriers.
Regards,
December 2, 2016 - 10:07amMaryann
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Me and my girl friend were dry humping.. I wore jeans nd breifs. She wore night pant and panties. During that time my semon was released and wetted her pant and panties also. Is there possibility to get pregnant in this way? Her usual period is today. But she didn't get any symptoms for her period? Thanks in advance. Ping me soon.
November 17, 2016 - 6:02amThis Comment
Hello Anonymous,
There was no risk for pregnancy because she was wearing pants and underwear, which acted as protective barriers. No way for semen to enter her.
Regards,
November 17, 2016 - 9:08amMaryann
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