Questions abound regarding dry humping, dry sex and dry intercourse. It is most often a question asked by girls and women, wanting to know if they can be pregnant when engaging in "dry sex".
The terms has been defined in many ways, depending on the person asking, and I wanted to break through the barriers and actually talk about the "embarrassing" aspects of what these terms actually mean.
What are you actually doing with your partner when you are doing anything "dry" in the sex-realm? Let's take the slang out of our questions, and talk about these taboo topics in the name of sexual health and wellness.
Sexual Health Quiz: Test Your Knowledge on this "Dry" Subject!
1. How would you describe/define the following terms?
- Dry Humping
- Dry Sex
- Dry Intercourse
2. What specific behaviors am I engaging in if I do any of the following?
- Dry Humping
- Dry Sex
- Dry Intercourse
3. Can you "get" pregnant from any of the following sexual activities?
- Dry Humping
- Dry Sex
- Dry Intercourse
4. Can you spread or contract an STI/STD from any of the following sexual behaviors? (STI/STD = sexually transmitted infections or diseases)
- Dry Humping
- Dry Sex
- Dry Intercourse
ANSWERS:
1. Dry= No Bodily Fluid Contact
The word "dry" means that there is no bodily fluid exchange or contact, including fluids or lubrication from the penis, vagina, anus or mouth. These specifically can include pre-ejaculatory fluid ("pre-cum"), ejaculatory fluid or "ejaculation" or "cum", vaginal lubrication or vaginal secretions.
"Dry humping" and "dry sex" can be summed up by using the term: "outercourse".
There is actually no such thing as "dry intercourse", as penetration can never be considered a "dry" activity as there is natural lubrication from your body that is considered a "bodily fluid".
2. Outercourse can include:
- massaging, touching
- masturbation
- body rubbing, humping or "going through motions" of sex while fully clothed (genitals are fully covered)...most commonly called "dry humping"
Outercourse can not include:
- penetration of penis into vagina, anus or mouth
- body rubbing while clothed, but some "slippage" of clothing (underwear, specifically)
- ejaculation near vagina, even while covered, with chance of semen spilling over clothing
3. No, Outercourse would not lead to pregnancy
As explained above, outercourse does not involve the contact or exchange of any bodily fluids, and therefore, would not create a risk for pregnancy
4. Yes, Outercourse may still carry the risk of spreading or contracting an STI/STD
The word "dry" is important when talking about pregnancy and STIs/STDs, as Outercourse is a Good Safer Sex Option, but is not 100% "safe".
Safer Sex is any sexual behavior that reduces your risk for infection or pregnancy. Although most STDs/STIs are spread through exchange of bodily fluids, some are transmitted from skin-to-skin contact (meaning: you don't have to have intercourse/penetration to become infected with an STD/STI). The skin-to-skin contact through outercourse can be a risk for STD/STI.
Lastly,
What are the Benefits of Outercourse (for two consenting adults?)
- Pleasurable form of sexual expression and intimacy
- Type of "safer sex" without need for contraception (for pregnancy prevention)
- Lower risk for contracting or spreading STIs or STDs (sexually transmitted infections or diseases)
- No risk for pregnancy
- It can be a sexual behavior that is pleasurable, exciting and not stress-inducing (from the point of view of women, wondering if they are pregnant)
Let us know your thoughts on these terms "dry humping" and "outercourse".
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week before that happened it's hard for me to stool. And I try to push it to out. It can be an ulcer? How about the pain in my lower left abdominal? It's still connected?
February 27, 2017 - 3:33pmThis Comment
Hello Remy.
It sounds like you are suffering with constipation. Drink at least eight glasses of water a day. Add more fiber to your diet. Eat more fruits and vegetables, along with whole grains products, like oatmeal.
If you still have problems, talk with your doctor about stool softeners or a laxative.
Regards,
February 28, 2017 - 9:28amMaryann
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Hi, I am 16 years old and a virgin. About two weeks ago the side my boyfriend's penis rubbed on my vagina for about 20 seconds. It was completely dry. For a few days now I have been having lower abdominal cramps and light spotting. My next period starts in a little over a week. Also, I am on birth control. I am very worried that I may be pregnant but knowing the circumstances, the chance would be very low if any.
February 26, 2017 - 4:51pmThis Comment
Hello Anonymous,
You were protected from becoming pregnant because you are taking birth control pills.
Regards,
February 27, 2017 - 10:14amMaryann
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Hi! On february 14th me and my boyfriend are making out. And i'm only wearing my underwear and he is fully clothes and the posistion is me on the top and one things lead to another i rub my clit(still wearing underwear) to his penis (still fully clothes) for 2 times. And i saw his pants is wet from precum after i move away from him. And the next day i felt cram on my left abnominal for 2 days. I'm using an app to detect your period and it says i'm on my fertility window form 14th feb to 19feb. Could i be pregnant ?
February 23, 2017 - 5:07amThis Comment
Hey, my bf and i did the dry humping 2 weeks ago. We fully use our clothes on.. he ejaculated and wet his panties and jeans and i feel that my short was also wet from his semen. I dont know if my panties was wet as well since i forgot. But now i'm 5 days late from my period. Could i be pregnant?
February 22, 2017 - 10:13pmThis Comment
Last February 12, my partner and I had a dry humping. I am wearing cycling short and panty and he is wearing brief. There's ejaculation outside. I feel my panty was wet and he's brief is not. After 2 days, February 14 I go to bathroom to defecate. There's something on it there's a red blood on my defecate and it lasts 3 days (until Feb. 16). I don't know what it happened because my defecate is wet and after that my stomach and left part of my abdominal and sometimes my right part ache. Now, my heart and neck pulpitate fast. I'm so worried about it. It is possible that I am pregnant? I don't event think that I get pregnant because were both clothed but there's always a 1% possible? Now I also have a dry white menstruation.
February 21, 2017 - 1:46pmThis Comment
Hello Remy,
No, I doubt that you are pregnant if all that you did was dry humping with clothes on.
I am concerned about blood in your stool. Are you constipated? Do you strain when you have a bowel movement? If this continues, please speak with your primary care physician. There should not be blood in stool.
Anxiety may be causing your heart to beat faster than normal. Try your best to calm down.
Regards,
February 22, 2017 - 9:32amMaryann
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week before that happened it's hard for me to stool. And I try to push it to out. It can be an ulcer? How about the pain in my lower left abdominal? It's still connected?
February 23, 2017 - 6:39amThis Comment
Hi, my girlfriend and I were'fooling around' or dry humping. I was wearing a tracksuit while she's wearing underwear and short pants. i had ejaculated on my pants during that time, my tracksuit was wet so do her pants and underwear( i'm not sure if it was because of me ejaculating in my tracksuit that caused them to be wet. ) But in case, if the wet area was because of the ejaculation, are there any possibility that she will get pregnant? and if before the ejaculation i tried to rub my penis around hers with both of us covered with the clothes as mentioned, but no penetration, are there any possibility of her getting pregnant?
February 13, 2017 - 10:02amThis Comment