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We've been dating for over a yer now but in the last few months our sex has drastically decreased at first started to go down from at least 1-2 times a day for at least 5 months and then it went down to 1-2 times a week and then to 1-2 times a month and now it's been a month and a half since we've had sex. I've read a few articles about this allready, but none seem to fit my problem exactly. I was worried for a while that it might be me that was the problem and but he told me it wasn't and i know he wouldn't lie to me. I've asked him about it but he says theres nothing wrong. I just don't know what to do anymore. He's only a year older than me and he's suppose to be in hes prime. Is there anything I can do? I Haven't pressured him or anything because I dont want him to do it just to shut me up. I want him to want to. and I'm just not satistied anymore and im not asking for everyday, at this point once or twice a week would be nice. A far as I know there's nothing he's stressed about at work or school, could it be a cobination of the 2? or something else going on that I don't know about? and please keep in mind that im am searching for help and advice and I don't want to hear find a new boyfriend. I love him and im not leaving him, even if it means were not going to have sex anymore. But it's frustration for the time being as I find it a tad odd that I want it more than he does. and I don't really want to talk to any of my friends abotu it because I live in a small town and this is personal and I don't need everyone talking about it. and the last thing I want him to feel is embarassed. I havn't told anyone of my friends but I'm in need of some advice. Any Ideas?
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Me and My boyfriend will be going on 6 yrs in a few days and in the begininnng we had sex a few times a day and now i cant tell you the last time it had to be a few months a go and we live together so i know hes not cheating it just doesnt happen and when i ask about it he says he isnt in the mood, and we are both still young im only 22 and hes 24 so we should be very sexually active. any ideas on how i could get him to want me again
February 18, 2012 - 8:18pmThis Comment
what is wrong with you people? have you not ever met a man that was loyal? i feel so bad for you. men cheat, not all. fact. anyone, man or woman, will cheat on a person if they don't care. especially if you are young. you want to live your life and have fun. get it. but if you are not serious, or if someone cheats. get over it. Done. eventually, you will find someone (hopefully) who will not cheat or hurt you.It may take you a long time and maybe, it won't. either way, you will find where you belong. Depends who you are and who you date. all on you. and to who is talking to the other one like she is a little girl...you sound like a little girl yourself and very ignorant. Get your own life, hun.
February 16, 2012 - 9:39pmThis Comment
Someone please help! I am engaged for 7months now to my best friend. I love him and care for him very much. He is still really sweet and does sweet things for me, but the sex is gone! I have tried everything! And the maybe once a month that we do have sex, I never finish. he acts like its such a task, but its not like im making him do all the work in bed! He tells me he loves me, I know he isnt cheating, and he tells me how beautiful and sexy I am, but whenever I try to seduce him or initiate sex, he blows me off with excuses. "im tired," "im too full." What the hell kind of excuse is "im too full"!? i cant help but feel like its my fault, maybe im too horny. i hate being a begger, but im so lost! and the duration is getting shorter too. it wasnt like this when we started being intamite with eachother. but i feel like he doesnt want me anymore and everytime i bring it up he just gives me "im tired". im sorry but i work 30hrs a week, go to school full time to major in chemirty and im trying to plan a wedding, that is a terrible excuse. and the one day off i have a week, i spend cleaning our place or studying. No sex is killing me! he acts like im a horn-dog, but thats not it. sex helps feel connected to him, it helps me reslease the stress from all the other things i have going on too. this is lowering my self esteem and i know i am a sexy woman. its not right, what do i do!!!!!
February 15, 2012 - 10:31pmThis Comment
Someone please help! I am engaged for 7months now to my best friend. I love him and care for him very much. He is still really sweet and does sweet things for me, but the sex is gone! I have tried everything! And the maybe once a month that we do have sex, I never finish. he acts like its such a task, but its not like im making him do all the work in bed! He tells me he loves me, I know he isnt cheating, and he tells me how beautiful and sexy I am, but whenever I try to seduce him or initiate sex, he blows me off with excuses. "im tired," "im too full." What the hell kind of excuse is "im too full"!? i cant help but feel like its my fault, maybe im too horny. i have being a begger, but im so lost! and the duration is getting shorter too. it wasnt like this when we started being intamite with eachother. but i feel like he doesnt want me anymore and everytime i bring it up he just gives me "im tired". im sorry but i work 30hrs a week, go to school full time to major in chemirty and im trying to plan a wedding, that is a terrible excuse. the one day off i spend cleaning our place or studying. No sex is killing me! he acts like im a horn-dog, but thats not it. sex helps feel connected to him. this is lowering my self esteem and i know i am a sexy woman. its not right, what do i do!!!!!
February 15, 2012 - 10:26pmThis Comment
i am 22 he is 23, i know hes not cheating, hes wth me every spare sec of the day, we have lived together for five years, at first it was 3 times a day then by 2 years it slowed down , then it was once a day - then it was 3 times a week, i am a very sexual person so naturaly i got depressed i looked at it in the long run, in 10 years once a month -20 years different beds -30 years different rooms all together, i know im the only girl 4 him , ive tred being suductive and adding spice to our love making i watch porn with him, and im pretty open sexually to discuss our sex life- he tells me his back hurts or hes tired and i guilt trip him till we do have sex but at that time, i just want it over an done with ive lost my mood. and 80 percent of the time its me who asks- he never asks anymore he says that i used to refuse him all the time so he doesnt ask anymore and its been years since we had morning sex---- buut too understand the whole picture i am not upset about how many times ive climaxed hes kept me very happy that way, and hes a good size down there and can keep t up 4 hours if he wants to, i perfer 30 min quickys hes used that as an excuse too- that he wants to enjoy it an take his time and i always want to rush, i do lke it sometimes but i hate getting super sweaty and ichy i think hes depressed, maybe about me but ive told him if he ever wanted to break up i love him sooooo much i just want to see him happy- even if its not with me but he fights tooth and claw sayin im only for him- i took his virginty years ago and hes very prude- and shy if a girl hit on him he wouldnt waste a sec to tell me\\\\\ anyways unlike the other posts about cheating spouses and immuture teenagers my reason for posting s to make my bf an my life together better for years to come -------- to most of you girls out there i know men are asses thats cuz u havnt found the right one but its not inpossible-
February 15, 2012 - 7:12pmThis Comment
Listen women and I'll tell you how to keep a guy forever interested in you and make him want to marry you...... The most important thing he needs to know is that you're not going anywhere else for sex.. Here is the BIG one... make his every fantasy come true... If he likes when you swallow, then by god, do it... He wants you to try anal - just bite the pillow for the first few times until you get used to it... etc... It's this type of thing that will keep him wanting more and more and more -- if you follow these steps, you're next post will be how to calm him down from wanting it all the time :)
February 15, 2012 - 8:25amThis Comment
i am having issues with my fiancee not wanting sex with me we used to have sex all the time. he says its cuz of his health he gets chest pain or he doesnt feel good. i have tried naughty undies and ligerie. i've tried to start the sex at different times of the day and i get shot down. we use to have aggressive passionate sex. i love him with all my heart. he tells me he loves me and calls me beautiful. any advise???
February 10, 2012 - 6:39amThis Comment
Hi Anon,
Maybe he really does have a health condition. Has he been to the doctor? If he suffers from something as serious as chest pain then perhaps you should drag him to his PCP and find out what is really wrong with him. Chances are this trip to the doctor will determine whether or not he's telling the truth.
Best of luck,
Rosa
February 10, 2012 - 8:47amThis Comment
yes we hve been to the doctors and he takes meds and he is allowed to have sex . but since we moved in to gether our sex life is basically not there any more. before we moved in together our sex was amazing . im 29 and he is 37 does he need a pill or is he just getting old..?? would love to hear some opinions
February 14, 2012 - 6:37amThis Comment
My boyfriend is 28 and I'm 20 and we used to have sex all the time but lately he hasn't been wanting to have sex or even cuddle or anything. He has never been very romantic or touchy feel, and I'm not either but you need something to make you feel like a woman. Ive lost weight since we started dating and i don't think its really a problem with me because i haven't been pestering him or anything but i really miss the sex and i can feel myself pulling away from him emotionally because i don't feel that close to him unless we have a physical connection. I'm not saying that we have to have sex to be emotional but he isn't a very emotionally vocal person either. I love him and everything but I'm starting to feel like this may be a deal breaker. he didn't grow up with a dad or a stable home life so its understandable that his communication skills are sub par but it seems like he wants a relationship that takes literally no effort on his part. i just really miss having sex and i miss him. is it just because he is older? am i doomed to taking cold showers forever?
February 5, 2012 - 12:49pmThis Comment