Questions abound regarding dry humping, dry sex and dry intercourse. It is most often a question asked by girls and women, wanting to know if they can be pregnant when engaging in "dry sex".
The terms has been defined in many ways, depending on the person asking, and I wanted to break through the barriers and actually talk about the "embarrassing" aspects of what these terms actually mean.
What are you actually doing with your partner when you are doing anything "dry" in the sex-realm? Let's take the slang out of our questions, and talk about these taboo topics in the name of sexual health and wellness.
Sexual Health Quiz: Test Your Knowledge on this "Dry" Subject!
1. How would you describe/define the following terms?
- Dry Humping
- Dry Sex
- Dry Intercourse
2. What specific behaviors am I engaging in if I do any of the following?
- Dry Humping
- Dry Sex
- Dry Intercourse
3. Can you "get" pregnant from any of the following sexual activities?
- Dry Humping
- Dry Sex
- Dry Intercourse
4. Can you spread or contract an STI/STD from any of the following sexual behaviors? (STI/STD = sexually transmitted infections or diseases)
- Dry Humping
- Dry Sex
- Dry Intercourse
ANSWERS:
1. Dry= No Bodily Fluid Contact
The word "dry" means that there is no bodily fluid exchange or contact, including fluids or lubrication from the penis, vagina, anus or mouth. These specifically can include pre-ejaculatory fluid ("pre-cum"), ejaculatory fluid or "ejaculation" or "cum", vaginal lubrication or vaginal secretions.
"Dry humping" and "dry sex" can be summed up by using the term: "outercourse".
There is actually no such thing as "dry intercourse", as penetration can never be considered a "dry" activity as there is natural lubrication from your body that is considered a "bodily fluid".
2. Outercourse can include:
- massaging, touching
- masturbation
- body rubbing, humping or "going through motions" of sex while fully clothed (genitals are fully covered)...most commonly called "dry humping"
Outercourse can not include:
- penetration of penis into vagina, anus or mouth
- body rubbing while clothed, but some "slippage" of clothing (underwear, specifically)
- ejaculation near vagina, even while covered, with chance of semen spilling over clothing
3. No, Outercourse would not lead to pregnancy
As explained above, outercourse does not involve the contact or exchange of any bodily fluids, and therefore, would not create a risk for pregnancy
4. Yes, Outercourse may still carry the risk of spreading or contracting an STI/STD
The word "dry" is important when talking about pregnancy and STIs/STDs, as Outercourse is a Good Safer Sex Option, but is not 100% "safe".
Safer Sex is any sexual behavior that reduces your risk for infection or pregnancy. Although most STDs/STIs are spread through exchange of bodily fluids, some are transmitted from skin-to-skin contact (meaning: you don't have to have intercourse/penetration to become infected with an STD/STI). The skin-to-skin contact through outercourse can be a risk for STD/STI.
Lastly,
What are the Benefits of Outercourse (for two consenting adults?)
- Pleasurable form of sexual expression and intimacy
- Type of "safer sex" without need for contraception (for pregnancy prevention)
- Lower risk for contracting or spreading STIs or STDs (sexually transmitted infections or diseases)
- No risk for pregnancy
- It can be a sexual behavior that is pleasurable, exciting and not stress-inducing (from the point of view of women, wondering if they are pregnant)
Let us know your thoughts on these terms "dry humping" and "outercourse".
If you have a specific question about a recent sexual episode that you are wondering about, please click on the Community page above, and ask your question by clicking on the orange ASK button to post your question. This space is for discussion related to this topic, and we are able to answer your time-sensitive questions faster when posted at the ASK page. Thanks!
All user-generated information on this site is the opinion of its author only and is not a substitute for medical advice or treatment for any medical conditions. Members and guests are responsible for their own posts and the potential consequences of those posts detailed in our Terms of Service.
Add a Comment665 Comments
My girlfriend and I wear dry humping, I was wearing underwear, and she wasn't wearing any. I was rubbing against her butt, however, the tip of my penis might have very briefly grazed her vagina, but I can't be sure. There also may have been pre-cum. Can she get pregnant?
June 11, 2017 - 7:48amThis Comment
Hello Anonymous,
The vagina is inside of the body. You were wearing underwear. There was no way your penis grazed her vagina.
No risk for pregnancy.
June 13, 2017 - 9:41amMaryann
This Comment
Hi there. So I'm freaking out atm bec my period was late than usual. Just recently, me and my boyfriend were dry humping and he wasn't wearing any underwear at all but I am. It came in contact with my undies, and I was wet after that not knowing who is who with that fluid. Will I get pregnant? And also, does oral sex has the possibility to make you pregnant too? Plus he also ejaculated on my stomach and thighs, will that count ? I really need your help right now
June 10, 2017 - 2:40amThis Comment
Hello Anonymous,
There is no risk for pregnancy with oral sex or if he ejaculated outside of your vagina or during dry humping as long as one of you was wearing underwear or pants.
Regards,
June 13, 2017 - 9:45amMaryann
This Comment
I was dry humping with my new boyfriend. He had his boxer on . But me nothing. Should i go get tested for stds ? I am so worried.
June 9, 2017 - 9:10pmN.b: we didnt exchange any body fluids.
This Comment
Hello Anonymous,
No need to test because there was no risk for becoming pregnant.
Maryann
June 13, 2017 - 9:51amThis Comment
this girl and i were dry humping, i had underwear on and shorts on but she had nothing on. We were dry humping and i do pre cum a lot. Is there a chance that the pre cum can seep through my two layers of clothes and get her pregnant?
June 4, 2017 - 10:10amThis Comment
Hello Anonymous,
No, there is no way any fluid got past your underwear and shorts. No risk for pregnancy.
Regards,
June 5, 2017 - 9:29amMaryann
This Comment
Hi, I was humping my girlfriend or moving my penis in her butt .we were fully clothed she had undies and sport/tights .i had jeans and boxer shorts. After we finished she noticed a wet patch in my trousers (i think i cumed )and she is now really worried she will be pregnant . So am I , is there any chance she can get pregnant
June 3, 2017 - 1:15pmThis Comment
Hello Anonymous,
No risk for pregnancy because you were both fully clothed.
Regards,
June 5, 2017 - 9:32amMaryann
This Comment