Why Doesn't my boyfriend want to have sex with me anymore?

To correct last comment....actually it's more like a lamb enjoying the slaughter!

I just DON'T understand why so many women put up with porography watching men. It is INCREDIBLY offensive to women and negative to a relationship. And as for women who say they like it!? This is like a murderer liking the death penalty. Many men(and this is from experience) end up prefering porn to having sex with their girlfriends or wives. For most people it is better to keep it out of the realtionship and if your man lies about watching it, you need to cut him out of your life as it shows he respects you and women in general very little.
I live a porn free existance and have a fabulous relationship and great, intimate, meaningful sex.

Yes, and sometimes when I do talk to a "so-called" friend(s) about it, I almost regret it afterwards, because it becomes central to how they see you, i.e., pretty much a victim, and it kind of automatically puts you in that victim role. When they see you it's the first thing that comes out of their mouth, like it's intriguing. Goes something like- So are you still with your boyfriend? (Implying that you are hopeless and you should dump him). It's almost as if they are just waiting for the next juicy scoop...and sometimes you just want to forget about your problem, and you don't want to be reminded everytime you see that friend. So there are many reasons as to why anyone would prefer discussing it online.
I learned to trust myself more, and rely less to what people say, because no one know me better than me and my situation better than me. If I am misguided by my own thinking then it's a lesson for me and it makes me feel great to believe in my and trust my decisions.

I think women who are going through these kind of problems are warriors, eventhough that's the last thing they think of themselves to be...

...and Hope is what keeps us going.

I think talking about it online is easier for me cause when i talk to my friends or family about my problems it is like u said, find someone else. When you love someone you want to do whatever u can to keep them and don't need negative responses. I feel when i ask people i dont even know i get more out of it. There seems to be hope.

I can really understand the reason behind someone who is going through this problem with their man not being able to talk to friends, but are willing to broadcast it in the internet which can be seen worldwide. You are anonymous on the internet, and you get so much more advice or opinions or point of view, not to mention you hear from people who are in the same boat as you, therefore might understand your pointo of view more and more understanding than someone not going through the same situation/problem. If one does not understand the reasoning behind this, then it's likely one isn't going through the same kind of problems with her guy.
I've talked about my situation to two of my close real friends, and they helped out a lot even if it's just talking about it without a quick remedy. They are not in the same position as me, and both are married, but I can tell they really care about my problem. However, not all people are blessed with such trusty friends. They are not easy to have, find, and keep around as these take great care to flower. Also, the other part is some so-called friends at least the ones who are not trustworthy or not real friends will just tell you to move on without a bat of the eye, they tell you that there are other fishes in the sea...or, they are just interested for the entertainment value of your problems, they don't have a stake at it. So what if someone in her town will see this? She's anonymous! How can they prove it's reallly "her"?
One more thing...the stereotypical hunch is the guy is getting it somewhere else or is cheating. If they can't get it on with you, I think they''ll have trouble with other women as well. Just my hunch...and basing from what women here writes, who are in the same position as I am...I "get" what they are saying when they say, he's not cheating. It's just a "knowing" that we have, a gut instinct. Also, we shouldn't worry about letting the whole world in on our "business". I think it's healthy to talk about it on the internet. Therapy isn't cheap, especially in the United States. Woooooo, people will know I live in the U.S. OMG! my bf will find me out! :) Women need support, if nothing else by knowing that other women are going through the same problems and situations. And that they shouldn't feel abnormal, when good meaning friends say, OH MY THAT IS NOT NORMAL! We women going through this already have been bruised emotionally by the situation and by our own thinking, we don't need friends or acquaintances to make us feel worse. There are all kinds of problems in the world, and we shouldn't blame ourselves for it, and where relationships are concerned, there is a high percentage sexual problems arise. That is not rocket science! People are not being realistic when they tell you that is not normal. What is normal? The majority? In reality, you have no idea how many women go through this problem. They are just embarrassed to talk about it because you can be seen as a failure. I think it's really good to talk about this on the internet.

Sounds like it sucks. Just because he's a man doesn't mean he's supposed to want it more than you. If it isn't work or home that 's stressing him, there could be something else that is and he might not feel comfortable talking about it.(like you for example). Maybe your stuff isn't the same, maybe you hounding him about it makes him rebel, maybe he's getting it from somewhere else, or maybe he's an undercover. Regardless, if you're not satisfied then move on. It's better to move on and get some from someone who'll give it to you, rather than cheat, harass him or male bash him. I'm just confused that you can't talk to friends but you can get on the Internet and invite millions of strangers into your business. Chances are someone in your town will see this. Maybe you shouldn't worry so much about him when the problem could lay in you. Do some soul searching sweetie.

I wish we all live in the same city and go out for coffee, like a support group or something. I already have a title for our group: LackSex Anon.

Wow. I am thankful that the couple last posts here are so open and honest about what they are going through. So much of it rings true for myself. It's like we all have the same story. What seems to be common is the men we are with are in love with us, and we are with them. Which makes me think--does true love and passion not coexist together? I am so tempted to walk away from the man I love (my boyfriend) because it hurts so much to love someone without the physical intimacy. Sure there is affection and cuddling, and emotional intimacy, but that is different from what I'm craving. But what I'm afraid of is the next guy I meet and fall in love with...what if the same thing happens with him? Then I will seriously have to think about joining the nunnery.