I can really understand the reason behind someone who is going through this problem with their man not being able to talk to friends, but are willing to broadcast it in the internet which can be seen worldwide. You are anonymous on the internet, and you get so much more advice or opinions or point of view, not to mention you hear from people who are in the same boat as you, therefore might understand your pointo of view more and more understanding than someone not going through the same situation/problem. If one does not understand the reasoning behind this, then it's likely one isn't going through the same kind of problems with her guy.
I've talked about my situation to two of my close real friends, and they helped out a lot even if it's just talking about it without a quick remedy. They are not in the same position as me, and both are married, but I can tell they really care about my problem. However, not all people are blessed with such trusty friends. They are not easy to have, find, and keep around as these take great care to flower. Also, the other part is some so-called friends at least the ones who are not trustworthy or not real friends will just tell you to move on without a bat of the eye, they tell you that there are other fishes in the sea...or, they are just interested for the entertainment value of your problems, they don't have a stake at it. So what if someone in her town will see this? She's anonymous! How can they prove it's reallly "her"?
One more thing...the stereotypical hunch is the guy is getting it somewhere else or is cheating. If they can't get it on with you, I think they''ll have trouble with other women as well. Just my hunch...and basing from what women here writes, who are in the same position as I am...I "get" what they are saying when they say, he's not cheating. It's just a "knowing" that we have, a gut instinct. Also, we shouldn't worry about letting the whole world in on our "business". I think it's healthy to talk about it on the internet. Therapy isn't cheap, especially in the United States. Woooooo, people will know I live in the U.S. OMG! my bf will find me out! :) Women need support, if nothing else by knowing that other women are going through the same problems and situations. And that they shouldn't feel abnormal, when good meaning friends say, OH MY THAT IS NOT NORMAL! We women going through this already have been bruised emotionally by the situation and by our own thinking, we don't need friends or acquaintances to make us feel worse. There are all kinds of problems in the world, and we shouldn't blame ourselves for it, and where relationships are concerned, there is a high percentage sexual problems arise. That is not rocket science! People are not being realistic when they tell you that is not normal. What is normal? The majority? In reality, you have no idea how many women go through this problem. They are just embarrassed to talk about it because you can be seen as a failure. I think it's really good to talk about this on the internet.
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I can really understand the reason behind someone who is going through this problem with their man not being able to talk to friends, but are willing to broadcast it in the internet which can be seen worldwide. You are anonymous on the internet, and you get so much more advice or opinions or point of view, not to mention you hear from people who are in the same boat as you, therefore might understand your pointo of view more and more understanding than someone not going through the same situation/problem. If one does not understand the reasoning behind this, then it's likely one isn't going through the same kind of problems with her guy.
July 29, 2009 - 7:37amI've talked about my situation to two of my close real friends, and they helped out a lot even if it's just talking about it without a quick remedy. They are not in the same position as me, and both are married, but I can tell they really care about my problem. However, not all people are blessed with such trusty friends. They are not easy to have, find, and keep around as these take great care to flower. Also, the other part is some so-called friends at least the ones who are not trustworthy or not real friends will just tell you to move on without a bat of the eye, they tell you that there are other fishes in the sea...or, they are just interested for the entertainment value of your problems, they don't have a stake at it. So what if someone in her town will see this? She's anonymous! How can they prove it's reallly "her"?
One more thing...the stereotypical hunch is the guy is getting it somewhere else or is cheating. If they can't get it on with you, I think they''ll have trouble with other women as well. Just my hunch...and basing from what women here writes, who are in the same position as I am...I "get" what they are saying when they say, he's not cheating. It's just a "knowing" that we have, a gut instinct. Also, we shouldn't worry about letting the whole world in on our "business". I think it's healthy to talk about it on the internet. Therapy isn't cheap, especially in the United States. Woooooo, people will know I live in the U.S. OMG! my bf will find me out! :) Women need support, if nothing else by knowing that other women are going through the same problems and situations. And that they shouldn't feel abnormal, when good meaning friends say, OH MY THAT IS NOT NORMAL! We women going through this already have been bruised emotionally by the situation and by our own thinking, we don't need friends or acquaintances to make us feel worse. There are all kinds of problems in the world, and we shouldn't blame ourselves for it, and where relationships are concerned, there is a high percentage sexual problems arise. That is not rocket science! People are not being realistic when they tell you that is not normal. What is normal? The majority? In reality, you have no idea how many women go through this problem. They are just embarrassed to talk about it because you can be seen as a failure. I think it's really good to talk about this on the internet.
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