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I'm recently married and my new husband and I have started talking about having a baby together. Not right away, but maybe we'd start trying in the next year or two. I have a couple of teenagers from my previous marriage and this is his first marriage (no kids). The problem is timing - we're not getting any younger!! We're both in our 40's - I'll be turning 45 later this year, and when I had my last baby at age 31, I thought I was totally done having kids. I never would have dreamed I'd even be thinking about another baby, but of course I never ever dreamed I'd get divorced and then remarried.
My question to other moms out there is what your opinion is on having a baby later in life. I'd love to know ALL your feelings on this. At the moment, I'm so enjoying my teenagers and love the fact that they're each becoming so independent and that we can do so many fun things together. I love my independence as well, and how much easier this part of my life is. As much as I'd love to have a baby with my husband at some point, I'm wondering if adding a new baby into the mix would be completely insane at this "middle-aged" stage of the game. What do you think? I could sure use some advice!
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Do not have any children at this point. The risk to have a child with a severe disability, and the amount of pressure it would put on your aging system, is too high.
If you child was born with autism/ down syndrome, it would be your fault.
Adopt a child together. DO not risk your life, or the quality of life of the child.
October 17, 2015 - 7:38pmThis Comment
Adopting is a wonderful idea, however, if you look into it then you might discover that it far more difficult to adopt if you are older parents. It is more desirable to place children with younger parents.
December 4, 2015 - 11:40pmThis Comment
I remarried five years ago. My second husband had no children of his own. I was extremely hesitant to have more children for two reasons, my age (I am now 44), and seeing the light at the end of the tunnel with raising the children from a previous marriage. At 43, I decided that my husband deserved to know what it's like to be a father as he desperately wanted to be one. He is a great man with a giving, caring heart. What kind of selfish person would I be to deny my best friend and life partner such a rewarding and life-changing experience? I would be living with guilt on my shoulders. I loved raising my two babies. So I decided to have another. I got pregnant very easily at 43 and now have a 7-week-old baby boy whom we both completely adore. I exercise regularly, eat fairly healthy, and, despite being diagnosed with gestational diabetes, my pregnancy was event-free. Our son was not heavy at 7 lbs 11 oz. I say, do what feels right for you and your husband.
October 14, 2015 - 1:50pmThis Comment
Congratulations! That's awesome! I remarried 8 years ago and although my husband and I both had kids from previous relationships we wanted one of our own. I became pregnant with our daughter at 39 and then we had a son when I was 42. We are now expecting our 3rd together. I am 47 and he is 48. This was a total surprise but we are happy! I am glad that you decided to have a baby with your husband! Good for you both!
October 14, 2015 - 3:14pmThis Comment
This story is wonderful, thinking about having a baby with my husband in about 5 years I'll be 43 than! This story gave me hope!!! Thanks
November 6, 2015 - 9:48amThis Comment
I am 45 and just found out I am pregnant. After years of struggling with infertility, my husband and I did have two boys, ages 10 & 9 now. I wasn't expecting this, but feel blessed. My only prayer is for a healthy little one!
October 12, 2015 - 6:47pmThis Comment
I am in shock at the age of these "new moms"......congratulations though to all of you....respect.
October 1, 2015 - 10:28pmThis Comment
In 2013, at age 43, I got pregnant. It wasn't planned. My youngest at the time was 21. The only issue I had with being pregnant was that I was high risk. High risk due to age and weight; however, I'm so in love with my now 2 year old. My overall experience wasn't to bad. Yes, we had a cpl of scares (due to my age, weight, and short cervix), but OVERALL, I honestly ENJOYED my last pregnancy. More so than the three I had in the late 80's and early 90's. Have I loss my baby weight? Of course not. Is my body crappy? Just a lil. Does my toddler wear me out? Definitely, but I would not trade him OR the experience for the world. Quite honestly, I'd do it again except now I believe I'm going into perimenopause.
September 24, 2015 - 12:37pmThis Comment
I'm 45, I'm pregnant. Shocked yes, scared yes, alone ... kinda, what will my kids think idk?
September 9, 2015 - 12:21pmMy ex husband came to be with me during his hard time and we ended up pregnant. He thinks I'm crazy for wanting our child but how could I not?
Physically I'm exhausted, after 4 hours of work i'm ready for a nap. I'm living on antacid tablets because I'm so nauseated. i've got an appt with my Dr. to make sure things are ok. One day at a time right? Wish me luck, and some prayers wouldn't hurt either.
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You are a beautiful person . I pray for God to richly bless you , the baby and father. Keep us posted.
November 24, 2015 - 2:45amThis Comment