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I'm recently married and my new husband and I have started talking about having a baby together. Not right away, but maybe we'd start trying in the next year or two. I have a couple of teenagers from my previous marriage and this is his first marriage (no kids). The problem is timing - we're not getting any younger!! We're both in our 40's - I'll be turning 45 later this year, and when I had my last baby at age 31, I thought I was totally done having kids. I never would have dreamed I'd even be thinking about another baby, but of course I never ever dreamed I'd get divorced and then remarried.
My question to other moms out there is what your opinion is on having a baby later in life. I'd love to know ALL your feelings on this. At the moment, I'm so enjoying my teenagers and love the fact that they're each becoming so independent and that we can do so many fun things together. I love my independence as well, and how much easier this part of my life is. As much as I'd love to have a baby with my husband at some point, I'm wondering if adding a new baby into the mix would be completely insane at this "middle-aged" stage of the game. What do you think? I could sure use some advice!
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I will pray for you. You're a great woman and your child is lucky to have you
October 15, 2015 - 8:40pmThis Comment
I think your wonderful for going through with your unplanned pregnancy!! I believe it will be nothing but joy and happiness for you in your future and you will be so glad that you did ...do not let what others think or say bother you in the least you are doing the right thing for yourself and your Baby..... I am in my late forties and remarried and trying very hard to become pregnant we just found out that my husband has fertility issues we still have a long road ahead of us but I am praying for a miracle... congratulations to you babies are a blessing
October 12, 2015 - 7:31pmThis Comment
Good luck hun am 41 had a little boy 27/08/15 bur not my husbands as we split for 11 month then I split with the dad and know back with my husband who want to bring baby up as his but i feel guilty and considering getting pregant again by my husband reason being it me and my husband lost a son in 2010 know I have a son but so so feeling guilty , it not that i think another baby will make it all better but we allways wanted a child together , so I can say even if I hadn't had my son we would of still tried again .
September 14, 2015 - 9:35amThis Comment
Please don't! I'm 16 and my mom gave birth to two children in her forties, a boy when she was 40 and a girl when she was 44. We LOVE THEM TO DEATH, but if I could go back in time I'd erase at least the baby girl that my mom had at 44, as you get older your body changes, pregnancy destroyed my mom's body! When the baby arrives the fun truly starts! Breastfeeding, staying up late ALL THE TIME, and all the other things that come with having a baby. I want you to think about THIS point, if you have this baby when you're 46, when he or she is 15, you're gonna be 61! Can you handle a teenager at 61?! What guarantee do you have that you won't die when the baby is still young? Do you think it's fair to bring a child to this world when you're already 45?
September 2, 2015 - 10:13pmThis Comment
hey there...maybe you shouldn't dump so hard on older moms, it could be you one day...or not...maybe you have a kid at age 18 and die young. life is a box of chocolates, idn't that what they say?
December 11, 2015 - 6:22pmThis Comment
You are only 16 and have no idea about the journey to motherhood. 1st life is not guaranteed to anyone from one day to the next. You can die at any age. So to bring up a "what if" she dies while the child is young has no bearing on her wanting to be a mother. My mom was older when she had me and she is now 81 and still active. Most people think she isn't a day over 60. AND she handled me as a teenager at 60 just fine. She said I kept her active. Never rain on someone else's dream.
November 6, 2015 - 11:19amThis Comment
Well said! Thanks for your lovely heart! I'm 42, and I had miscarriage two days ago! My husband said that I'm too old that's way! He was unhappy when he kewn I had his baby!I'm still sad and pain for lost this baby! I ask my husband that could we try and plan to have a baby since the baby was unplanned! But he said NO! He told me I'm too old and also he has two kids with his ex girlfriend already! That's really heart me a lot! So, I really think he doesn't know what is love! Or, is really I'm too old :(
December 6, 2015 - 10:08amThis Comment
Keep in mind that all women are different. One might have more energy than another at any given age in life. Another might work out and keep fit while the other has a baby and doesn't work on losing the weight. It's up to the mother (your mother) what she does or doesn't do to maintain her youth, health, and fitness in order to keep up with her baby. And it is up to her whether she wants to have more babies. It is ultimately her life to live and, if she is like me, she loved being a mother to little ones. It is not the same when they grow into teenagers. And no one really knows when their life will end.
October 14, 2015 - 1:25pmThis Comment
It's your opinion but you are a child and need to be disciplined for having a potty mouth. Please continue your education because your going to need it.
October 4, 2015 - 9:00pmThis Comment
I love your answer! A very wise 16 year old!
September 27, 2015 - 1:26pmThis Comment