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Is 45 too old to have a baby??

By Anonymous April 9, 2009 - 11:14am
 
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I'm recently married and my new husband and I have started talking about having a baby together. Not right away, but maybe we'd start trying in the next year or two. I have a couple of teenagers from my previous marriage and this is his first marriage (no kids). The problem is timing - we're not getting any younger!! We're both in our 40's - I'll be turning 45 later this year, and when I had my last baby at age 31, I thought I was totally done having kids. I never would have dreamed I'd even be thinking about another baby, but of course I never ever dreamed I'd get divorced and then remarried.

My question to other moms out there is what your opinion is on having a baby later in life. I'd love to know ALL your feelings on this. At the moment, I'm so enjoying my teenagers and love the fact that they're each becoming so independent and that we can do so many fun things together. I love my independence as well, and how much easier this part of my life is. As much as I'd love to have a baby with my husband at some point, I'm wondering if adding a new baby into the mix would be completely insane at this "middle-aged" stage of the game. What do you think? I could sure use some advice!

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Anonymous (reply to Anonymous)

You don't think that the risks are higher with people who are old? If you are 40 you shouldn't risk it. If you smoke, your risk of having a child with autism and ADHD are 8x higher. All I am saying is that if you are 40, don't add to that risk. You are selfish if you do.

December 20, 2015 - 10:43am
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Anonymous (reply to Anonymous)

I feel sorry for your children coming from such a negative individual. You know everything do you, well I'm a nurse and I have seen very healthy babies born of women over 40. Stop being a jerk and trying to bring others down.

December 26, 2015 - 12:11pm
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Anonymous (reply to Anonymous)

thank you. your reply is a super big encourageme t to me. I tuning 45 soon and want to have my 1st pregnancy.

December 10, 2015 - 8:11pm
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Anonymous (reply to Anonymous)

Congratulations we must of had our Triplets around the same time... I was 48 also when I delivered too and they just turned 2 in July . When were yours born?

November 16, 2015 - 12:39pm
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Anonymous (reply to Anonymous)

Were they your eggs?

November 15, 2015 - 6:31pm
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Anonymous (reply to Anonymous)

Yes I had eggs of a 35 year old!!!! Carried till32 weeks babies were perfect just small. The uterus never gets old did you know that? PS the best part is I got pregnant the night before naturally, the next DAY I had my IVF done implanted two eggs that took too!! My email is [email protected] if you need advice and a positive ear :)

November 15, 2015 - 7:04pm
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Anonymous

Just turned 46 October 24th & I just gave birth 3 weeks earlier to a beautiful healthy baby boy. It's our first child and probably our last but we feel incredibly blessed.

I'm outraged by the disparaging & discriminating comments about older momma's. I was told repeatedly throughout my pregnancy about all the issues...and I ignored each & every guess. Because that's what it is...a guess. And I am holding my wonderful boy in my arms now as I type this.

I encourage the woman who wrote this & any other over 40 to stay away from these boards. They are opinions and opinions only. Only you & your husband can decide if it's a good choice for you. It was the right thing for my family but it may not be for everyone.

November 6, 2015 - 2:10pm
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Anonymous (reply to Anonymous)

thank you so much. I am turning 45 soon and want to gave my 1st pregnancy. Do you exercise regularly before and during your pregnancy?

December 10, 2015 - 8:14pm
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Anonymous (reply to Anonymous)

Congratulations Mom of Triplets at 48 :) I agree with what your dying people are so quick to judge!!!!

November 15, 2015 - 7:06pm
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Anonymous (reply to Anonymous)

My spell check is drunk ... I am a Mom of Triplets at 48... I agree with what your saying....

November 15, 2015 - 7:22pm
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