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I'm recently married and my new husband and I have started talking about having a baby together. Not right away, but maybe we'd start trying in the next year or two. I have a couple of teenagers from my previous marriage and this is his first marriage (no kids). The problem is timing - we're not getting any younger!! We're both in our 40's - I'll be turning 45 later this year, and when I had my last baby at age 31, I thought I was totally done having kids. I never would have dreamed I'd even be thinking about another baby, but of course I never ever dreamed I'd get divorced and then remarried.
My question to other moms out there is what your opinion is on having a baby later in life. I'd love to know ALL your feelings on this. At the moment, I'm so enjoying my teenagers and love the fact that they're each becoming so independent and that we can do so many fun things together. I love my independence as well, and how much easier this part of my life is. As much as I'd love to have a baby with my husband at some point, I'm wondering if adding a new baby into the mix would be completely insane at this "middle-aged" stage of the game. What do you think? I could sure use some advice!
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Please no one flag as offensive. I am in my 40's and wanted to have another baby and my teens said it was weird. I had to step back and look at the best for ALL of us and not just meeting my needs and that was NOT having another baby, that I might not be around for or be at a different mind-set in my life that I could not raise appropriately. When making such a big decision in your life ask yourself if it is good for ALL INVOLVED.
September 19, 2015 - 4:07amThis Comment
When you decided to have your kids, did you choose to live your life for them too? Teenagers grow up and move out. They then do whatever they want in their own lives. Whether or not to have more children should NOT be hung up on whether your current kids approve or disapprove. I can understand, if you had more children and were financially struggling, how it would negatively affect your current family, but I don't really support your statement...
October 14, 2015 - 1:40pmThis Comment
I don't think 45 is too old to have a baby,, sometimes due to circumstances, we reach our "best" life later in life and why not want to have it all? I was divorced after 21 years of marriage ,had 5 children. Three years later, I reunited with a former classmate from 3rd grade. He had been married, divorced and no kids of his own, though he did raise a foster child. At 41, I had our first child, a son and earlier this year at 43 we had a daughter. Both pregnancies were uneventful, healthy and the babies are perfect! There is a 26 year difference between my oldest and youngest child, but life is as good as can be for all of us. At first the idea of having a child later in life was a bit scary, I mostly worried about not being around as long for the baby given my age. I also thought of how I would be the older parent at Dr. appts, and later on at school events. In the end I had to consider how much my husband wanted to be a father, and how I wanted to have a full life, no limitations, with the amazing person who chose me to be in his life. I prayed for the best outcome and here we are,, busy parents to two babies under 2 and my 7 year old. If you decide to have a baby, don't delay.. We were fortunate to get pregnant easily but that's not always the case. I wish you all the best,, life is what you make it, age is but a number..stay healthy, be happy!
August 4, 2015 - 1:53pmThis Comment
AMEN....LOVE IT!!!! TO EACH ITS ON. MY SON IS 24 AND IM 44 I AM CONSIDERING HAVING ANOTHER BABY N IF ITS GODS WILL IT WILL HAPPEN AND BE SUCCESSFUL!!! NORMALLY I DONT REPLY TO THESE TYPES OF THINGS BUT PEOPLE NEED TO REALIZE THAT EVERYONE SITUATION IS SO DIFFERENT!!! BUT I CAME ACROSS UR MESSAGE AND I TOTALLY AGREE WITH WHAT U SAID!!! :-)
October 3, 2015 - 8:38pmThis Comment
I'm 45 and thinking about having a baby I have 3 girls and I want a son I haven't been a relationship in some time but my baby we have been messing around for a couple months and I want a baby and so does he do y'all think it possible when we try every few days I hope and pray that it happen
June 1, 2016 - 3:21amThis Comment
Sorry, I have to disagree with you at 45. Some of us have to look after our dying cancer mother in our late 20s and part if our 30s. So, our lives were on hold. Then you go dating again after loosing a loved one just to find asshole damaged baggage jerks from a slut who screwed him out of money and gets pregnant to trap him for more money.
August 13, 2015 - 6:27pmSo, having a baby when the situation is perfect, your not the only opinion that matters. Some of us women don't force men to marry us and have a baby. Wake up 2015, women are very independent we can do it on our own, get with the times.
Katy
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If you decide to have a baby, don't delay by a single day. Try, pray, hope...
July 31, 2015 - 12:54pmThis Comment
I am 45 and currently trying with my partner/soon to be husband. I wanted more children despite my two boys being 25 and 26. My last partner was selfish and during the four years I was with him he didn't want children and he didn't have any from any other relationships. In the end I just knew our needs were different. I met my partner with children from another marriage also in their twenties and he is 54. The best job either of us have ever had is being a parent and soooo hoping we can seal our love together by having a baby together . I suppose I am saying don't waste time, its time you could be spending with your new baby.
July 30, 2015 - 12:18pmThis Comment
I have just found out I'm pregnant a week before I turn 45 . It is a complete shock!! My husband and I have been together since I was 15 and have 6 children ranging from 25 down to 7 , also a granddaughter . At the moment I am scared stiff and we have decided not to keep the baby. I feel.i just have my life back after all these years but my heart is breaking at what could be
August 25, 2015 - 12:04amThis Comment
While you may be shocked and scared, think about the gift you've been given. This is not a mistake but an amazing miracle as most women can not get pregnant at your age. This little one was meant to be. I hope that you will take the chance and go forward, despite your fear. Sometimes the best things in life are unexpected.
September 18, 2015 - 6:10pmThis Comment