Questions abound regarding dry humping, dry sex and dry intercourse. It is most often a question asked by girls and women, wanting to know if they can be pregnant when engaging in "dry sex".
The terms has been defined in many ways, depending on the person asking, and I wanted to break through the barriers and actually talk about the "embarrassing" aspects of what these terms actually mean.
What are you actually doing with your partner when you are doing anything "dry" in the sex-realm? Let's take the slang out of our questions, and talk about these taboo topics in the name of sexual health and wellness.
Sexual Health Quiz: Test Your Knowledge on this "Dry" Subject!
1. How would you describe/define the following terms?
- Dry Humping
- Dry Sex
- Dry Intercourse
2. What specific behaviors am I engaging in if I do any of the following?
- Dry Humping
- Dry Sex
- Dry Intercourse
3. Can you "get" pregnant from any of the following sexual activities?
- Dry Humping
- Dry Sex
- Dry Intercourse
4. Can you spread or contract an STI/STD from any of the following sexual behaviors? (STI/STD = sexually transmitted infections or diseases)
- Dry Humping
- Dry Sex
- Dry Intercourse
ANSWERS:
1. Dry= No Bodily Fluid Contact
The word "dry" means that there is no bodily fluid exchange or contact, including fluids or lubrication from the penis, vagina, anus or mouth. These specifically can include pre-ejaculatory fluid ("pre-cum"), ejaculatory fluid or "ejaculation" or "cum", vaginal lubrication or vaginal secretions.
"Dry humping" and "dry sex" can be summed up by using the term: "outercourse".
There is actually no such thing as "dry intercourse", as penetration can never be considered a "dry" activity as there is natural lubrication from your body that is considered a "bodily fluid".
2. Outercourse can include:
- massaging, touching
- masturbation
- body rubbing, humping or "going through motions" of sex while fully clothed (genitals are fully covered)...most commonly called "dry humping"
Outercourse can not include:
- penetration of penis into vagina, anus or mouth
- body rubbing while clothed, but some "slippage" of clothing (underwear, specifically)
- ejaculation near vagina, even while covered, with chance of semen spilling over clothing
3. No, Outercourse would not lead to pregnancy
As explained above, outercourse does not involve the contact or exchange of any bodily fluids, and therefore, would not create a risk for pregnancy
4. Yes, Outercourse may still carry the risk of spreading or contracting an STI/STD
The word "dry" is important when talking about pregnancy and STIs/STDs, as Outercourse is a Good Safer Sex Option, but is not 100% "safe".
Safer Sex is any sexual behavior that reduces your risk for infection or pregnancy. Although most STDs/STIs are spread through exchange of bodily fluids, some are transmitted from skin-to-skin contact (meaning: you don't have to have intercourse/penetration to become infected with an STD/STI). The skin-to-skin contact through outercourse can be a risk for STD/STI.
Lastly,
What are the Benefits of Outercourse (for two consenting adults?)
- Pleasurable form of sexual expression and intimacy
- Type of "safer sex" without need for contraception (for pregnancy prevention)
- Lower risk for contracting or spreading STIs or STDs (sexually transmitted infections or diseases)
- No risk for pregnancy
- It can be a sexual behavior that is pleasurable, exciting and not stress-inducing (from the point of view of women, wondering if they are pregnant)
Let us know your thoughts on these terms "dry humping" and "outercourse".
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well he said he didn't cum. and i was aware of it. but both of our genitals are rubbing against each other. that kinda worries me because i was fertile that day.
July 4, 2011 - 5:08amThis Comment
Hi Anon,
If you didn't see anything wet or any sperm, then you are safe. If you want to avoid any future scares, use a condom next time even if you are just rubbing genitals.
Best Wishes!
Rosa
July 4, 2011 - 6:32amThis Comment
hi! i was wondering. my bf and i had an outer course w/o pants, underwear or anything. well he didn't have any penetration. i'm scared because before we started to have outercourse he already cum. but he washed it thoroughly, and after our every outercourse, i always wipe my genitals with tissue because i'm fertile in that day. HELP!:((((( ASAP.
July 3, 2011 - 5:25amThis Comment
If your boyfriend did not ejaculate inside/near/on or anywhere on your genitals, you would not have a risk of pregnancy.
July 3, 2011 - 3:35pmThis Comment
A guy & I were dry humPin, fully dressed. Bu I realized I had a cum stain on my sweat pant. First can I get pregnant & can I get an STD? There was no skin to skin contact.
July 1, 2011 - 2:50pmThis Comment
Hi,
June 28, 2011 - 4:51pmNo, sperm cannot pass through fabric.
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My partner & I were both wearing underwear & basketball shorts and he ejaculated. Could the sperm pass through the shorts and our underwear and swim into my vagina and make me pregnant?
thanks.
June 28, 2011 - 4:41pmThis Comment
Hi Anonymous,
Sperm on your pants will not make you pregnant. I hope that helps.
Missie
June 26, 2011 - 9:49amThis Comment
A guy & I were dry humping and he "came" we were fully clothed I had sweatpants on & noticed a penny sized spot...I just need a straight answer can I get pregnant?
June 25, 2011 - 7:29pmThis Comment
Hi Anonymous,
No! There is no way that sperm will absorb through clothing. You will certainly not be pregnant from what you explained. Good luck.
Missie
June 25, 2011 - 9:54amThis Comment