Questions abound regarding dry humping, dry sex and dry intercourse. It is most often a question asked by girls and women, wanting to know if they can be pregnant when engaging in "dry sex".
The terms has been defined in many ways, depending on the person asking, and I wanted to break through the barriers and actually talk about the "embarrassing" aspects of what these terms actually mean.
What are you actually doing with your partner when you are doing anything "dry" in the sex-realm? Let's take the slang out of our questions, and talk about these taboo topics in the name of sexual health and wellness.
Sexual Health Quiz: Test Your Knowledge on this "Dry" Subject!
1. How would you describe/define the following terms?
- Dry Humping
- Dry Sex
- Dry Intercourse
2. What specific behaviors am I engaging in if I do any of the following?
- Dry Humping
- Dry Sex
- Dry Intercourse
3. Can you "get" pregnant from any of the following sexual activities?
- Dry Humping
- Dry Sex
- Dry Intercourse
4. Can you spread or contract an STI/STD from any of the following sexual behaviors? (STI/STD = sexually transmitted infections or diseases)
- Dry Humping
- Dry Sex
- Dry Intercourse
ANSWERS:
1. Dry= No Bodily Fluid Contact
The word "dry" means that there is no bodily fluid exchange or contact, including fluids or lubrication from the penis, vagina, anus or mouth. These specifically can include pre-ejaculatory fluid ("pre-cum"), ejaculatory fluid or "ejaculation" or "cum", vaginal lubrication or vaginal secretions.
"Dry humping" and "dry sex" can be summed up by using the term: "outercourse".
There is actually no such thing as "dry intercourse", as penetration can never be considered a "dry" activity as there is natural lubrication from your body that is considered a "bodily fluid".
2. Outercourse can include:
- massaging, touching
- masturbation
- body rubbing, humping or "going through motions" of sex while fully clothed (genitals are fully covered)...most commonly called "dry humping"
Outercourse can not include:
- penetration of penis into vagina, anus or mouth
- body rubbing while clothed, but some "slippage" of clothing (underwear, specifically)
- ejaculation near vagina, even while covered, with chance of semen spilling over clothing
3. No, Outercourse would not lead to pregnancy
As explained above, outercourse does not involve the contact or exchange of any bodily fluids, and therefore, would not create a risk for pregnancy
4. Yes, Outercourse may still carry the risk of spreading or contracting an STI/STD
The word "dry" is important when talking about pregnancy and STIs/STDs, as Outercourse is a Good Safer Sex Option, but is not 100% "safe".
Safer Sex is any sexual behavior that reduces your risk for infection or pregnancy. Although most STDs/STIs are spread through exchange of bodily fluids, some are transmitted from skin-to-skin contact (meaning: you don't have to have intercourse/penetration to become infected with an STD/STI). The skin-to-skin contact through outercourse can be a risk for STD/STI.
Lastly,
What are the Benefits of Outercourse (for two consenting adults?)
- Pleasurable form of sexual expression and intimacy
- Type of "safer sex" without need for contraception (for pregnancy prevention)
- Lower risk for contracting or spreading STIs or STDs (sexually transmitted infections or diseases)
- No risk for pregnancy
- It can be a sexual behavior that is pleasurable, exciting and not stress-inducing (from the point of view of women, wondering if they are pregnant)
Let us know your thoughts on these terms "dry humping" and "outercourse".
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Hello please help me answer. I was near to ovulation when my boyfriend and I were hugging and humping each other but I was wearing a panties and legging while he was wearing pants (3 layers of clothes). He did not penetrate or ejaculate on my clothes or anywhere near my vagina at all. He only ejaculated when I gave him hand job and ejaculate on his stomach while I was still fully clothed. Later, we washed our hands and everything. Is there a single chance of getting pregnant through this method? Thank you
May 14, 2017 - 4:22amThis Comment
Hello Anonymous,
There was no risk for becoming pregnant.
Maryann
May 15, 2017 - 9:31amThis Comment
I gave my boyfriend oral sex and he came before we had dry sex and we were both naked. There was no full penetration but I am still afraid I might be pregnant. Nothing has changed or happened since, it's been 2 days since then.
May 8, 2017 - 12:23pmThis Comment
Hello jime23,
Without penetration and no ejaculation, there was no risk for becoming pregnant.
Maryann
May 9, 2017 - 12:01pmThis Comment
help ... me n my bf was havin dry humping n he ejacuate in his jeans .. i never had penetration sex till now .. but i do masturbate at times so is it possible mee toh get pregnant through clothes on .. and he also ejaculate in his jeans ?? m quite worried
May 21, 2017 - 7:06pmThis Comment
My boyfriend and i were doing some dry humping stuffs like i was wearing my panty and he is wearing brief. Doing motion stuffs, after that i get wet at the same time but he pre cm little bit. But no penetration occur..Could i get pregnant? But i have second question it is possible to have pregnant if im wearing my underwear and i took off his brief and rub his penis againt my vagina?
May 8, 2017 - 5:08amThis Comment
Hello Anonymous,
There was no risk of becoming pregnant during dry humping.
However, inserting his penis which still may have had semen on it, into your vagina did pose the risk of pregnancy especially if this happened close to or on the day you ovulated.
Regards,
May 8, 2017 - 10:34amMaryann
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Hello! My boyfriend and I dry humped last month and this month, my period is late. We're fully clothed back then. And then, last May 1, I engaged myself into working out. Is that the cause why my period is late?
May 7, 2017 - 7:01pmThis Comment
Hello Anonymous,
If you have really had an increase in your level of physical exercise, that could be the reason your period is late.
Regards,
May 8, 2017 - 10:30amMaryann
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My boyfriend and I were rubbing our genitals together but we did not have sex because no penetration took place, we aren't both virgins. He also did not ejaculate at all. He did not ejacualte that whole day. Also, I am polycystic. Is there a way I can be pregnant?
May 5, 2017 - 2:18amThis Comment