Tis’ the season once again and for many people it really is the most wonderful time of the year. But not everyone has visions of sugarplums dancing in their heads. It’s very difficult to explain to holiday lovers that not everyone is tickled pink about all the festivities. You might as well not think a puppy is cute or refuse ice cream on a hot summer day. But it’s true, for some people the holiday season is something less than joyous. In fact there are quite a few people who go through the month of December depressed. Getting the blues at any other time of the year seems to be acceptable but at this time of year everyone wants you to cheer up, make the best of it and get into it, “it’s only once a year” they say. It’s almost as if your not being happy threatens to spoil other people’s holiday experience.
There are dozens of reasons why Christmas can be tough on people but that doesn’t make them a Scrooge. It is a season that accentuates family, friends and love but not everyone has those things. It is also a very expensive, materialistic time of year, but not everyone has unlimited funds. It is a time of tradition, but not everyone is traditional. Even those who have friends, family, love, and wads of cash that enable them to participate in the event, can get overwhelmed by the emotional high tide the Yule tide brings. Bad holiday memories, running ones self ragged, or just having an out of balance brain chemistry can make the holidays difficult. And that’s okay.
Bouts of depression and even suicide at this time of year are more common than happy-go-lucky holiday-loving people realize. And to make matters worse most people can’t accept the fact that not everyone loves all the hoopla. Suggestions that include everything from “cheer up and have some eggnog” to “count your blessings” are somehow supposed to jar one out of their malaise but it doesn’t work that way.
If you’re one of the many people who just don’t enjoy shopping, wrapping gifts, decorating and baking cookies it’s okay. Not everyone wants to sing carols, write out greeting cards or run up their credit card. Not everyone feels that red and green work well together, and not everyone wants to go to Christmas parties. And that’s okay.
Despite the colored lights everywhere and onslaught of enormously fattening food everywhere you go, the holiday season isn’t everyone’s favorite time of the year. And you know what? That’s okay.