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Female Ejaculation: Myth or Reality?

 
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By: VibeReview / www.divinecaroline.com

Did women suddenly awake with sexual superhero-like powers? What is all this talk about women having the ability for liquid expulsion during climax? Why didn’t anyone teach me about this in Sex Education 101? And, more importantly, if female ejaculation is a natura

l response to extreme sexual stimulation, why have I not experienced it?

Is there something wrong with my sex life, since I have never ejaculated? Where does female ejaculate come from? Is it urine? Is female ejaculation normal?

VibeReview has received email after email on this very topic. The above questions are just a few of the questions we receive weekly. Men and women are fascinated with female ejaculation (also referred to as “squirting” or “gushing”). This growing fascination is having a profound impact on the sex life of many men and women. Interestingly enough, men have shown a tremendous interest in female ejaculation. For many men, female ejaculation provides a new sense of eroticism that extends beyond mental intimacy. In a way, female ejaculation is the physical illustration, for them, of a job well done. There are so many different avenues of discussion that we could travel together; however, this brief article will serve as introduction to female ejaculation. I will also recount my personal experiences with female ejaculation. Yes, I am a proud squirter. And, yes, my sex life has never been better!

Female ejaculation’s place in humanity’s sexual history cannot be denied. Art work in various cultures, from the annals of history to post-modernism, provide a glimpse at feminine sexual excitement—from orgasms to gushing femininity of love. Hinduism particularly captured the art of female emission many generations ago, illustrating the process in detailed sculptures. What is apparent is that female ejaculation, though only recently discussed and investigated, has been a part of female sexuality for years in many cultures. Put simply, just because we are now discussing it, it does not follow that it’s not always been there.

Before beginning any detailed discussion of female ejaculation, the G-Spot (also termed the Grafenberg spot or Skene’s/Paraurethral glands) must be discussed. In the early 1900s, Dr. Ernst Grafenberg identified the ventral side of the vagina, which is a part of the urethral sponge, as a source of intense female sexual gratification—the spot in which female excitability is brought to life at a greater intensity. Upon stroking of this vaginal surface, women experience orgasms of a different type that are equally satisfying, or more enjoyable than, clitoral orgasms. Like the prostate gland, the G-Spot’s sensitive fibers (a bundle of nerves, it has been described) react favorably to “rubbing” or consistent, yet comfortable pressure. Knowing where to find this pleasure button and how to stimulate it factors greatly in the potential for females to orgasm and eventually ejaculate. Experiment as a couple. Or experiment with your own body solo.

Knowing the location of the G-Spot and the type of stimulation needed for total arousal is important, but it’s merely a beginning. While most of the women (myself included) I know and have talked with admit that G-Spot orgasms are their main source of female ejaculate, clitoral and cervix stimulation can also influence or force a woman to ejaculate. I have found that clitoral rubbing aids in extending female ejaculation, but I rarely ejaculate as a result of clitoral stimulation alone. Every woman is different, so getting to know your own body is part of the process and, quite frankly, an abundance of fun, especially when shared with a communicative partner who is trustworthy. Find what works best for you. Don’t place too much pressure on yourself to perform in any particular way. When you hit the right spot in the right way, you will immediately know. Practice improves frequency and intensity. If you need assistance on technique or any other relevant questions, check out Holistic Wisdom.

Female ejaculate is the most debated aspect of female ejaculation. What is this liquid? Let me dispel the notion that female ejaculate is urine—it is not urine. Testing the ejaculate has provided evidence that it contains levels of glucose (sugar) and an enzyme (prostate acid phosphatase) that is a major component in semen. Similar to the prostate fluid within male ejaculate but lacking sperm, it is clear that female ejaculate is not urine. Trace amounts of urea and creatinine are found in the liquid; however, this does not mean that female ejaculate is urine. This is further backed up by the fact that the liquid is secreted by the Skene’s glands, which are located to either side of the urethra. These are pinhole-sized glands, making it seem as if the liquid may indeed be expelled from the urethra, but rest assured it is not.

The debate rages over the exact composition of this liquid, but the general consensus is that this liquid is not urine. In my experience, when I have “squirted,” I have found no evidence of urine in my own ejaculate. After ejaculating, I have never sensed any lingering urine-like smell or stained color on the bed. The liquid is always clear, more like water than anything else. Some doctors and health practitioners have dismissed ejaculate as urine, which explains the mis-education of the public. Plus, when, as humans, we observe a fluid expelled from the same tissue that releases urine, it seems common sense to conclude that the fluid is, indeed, urine. I assure you—it’s not urine. There is a significant difference between urine and female ejaculate. If you are concerned, examine the fluid for yourself.

Since orgasmic potential varies among women, it follows that female ejaculation will be different for every woman. Some women produce a high volume of ejaculate, while others produce a limited amount. Every woman is born with the biological equipment necessary for female ejaculation. Unlocking the fountain within may be a frustrating process, but be patient. As a result of learning the secrets of female ejaculation, my orgasms have improved. They last longer, are more intense, and feel more intimate. Remember, there is nothing wrong with using the equipment biology blessed us with. There’s no shame in female ejaculation. While you and your partner might be surprised at the results, be sure to communicate with one another.

When embarking on this wet journey, VibeReview recommends that towels are used to absorb any love liquid relased. Doing so will limit the amount of clean-up necessary, and there could be a lot!

www.divinecaroline.com

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Anonymous

That's my question too skyeblue! I am 41 and 4 months pregnant and never EVER squirted. I have been with my boyfriend for a year now and i experienced this with him for the first time last summer. HE noticed. He said, "oh, I didn't know you were a squirter". I said "a what?" Then he told me. I was shocked and embarrassed! I did think it was urine. No stains, just really watery. I can feel myself getting to a point where it's going to happen, but it doesn't FEEL like a clitoral orgasm or deep vaginal orgasm. Am I urinating or ejaculating? Being new to this I am embarrassed but I can't control it. Especially being pregnant I am questioning if it is urine since it happens nearly every time we have intercourse. He on the other hand gets extremely aroused and thinks it is sexy as hell. Am I normal?

September 14, 2009 - 11:29am

Hi. Im glad I found this and that i am not alone! The first time this happened to me I was shocked...i thought something was wrong. Im a 33 yr old woman who has had approx 15 sexual partners and this just started happening a year ago with a new guy. I have to admit, he is definitely the largest in size that I have had sex with could this be why it had never happened to me before? He loves it, and even will go "down there" when its happening. I would say I ejaculate about 75% of the time.. and it is always alot. If he keeps going, I keep going. To the point where I get extremely dehydrated after. We make the towel jokes too! The thing with me is, I dont always orgasm with intercourse, but I do still ejaculate. I know every woman is different but is that normal?

August 30, 2009 - 3:41pm
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Anonymous

this happens to me too.i am trying to figure out how to make it happen on a regular basis.it doesnt feel like a "real" orgasm unless i ejaculate.it is a little weird when im with someone new often they are surprised,my last boyfriend was kind of freaked out so i told the new guy so i wont scare him but it hasnt happened yet. im a little shy about it now though i hold back a little because i dont want to freak him out im thinking we may not be at that level trust-wise yet if i cant let go.But for someof the others-it hasnt happened with every guy sometimes even though hes not doing anything wrong it just doesnt and if i think about it then it usually doesnt.i have to be really free and relaxed.

August 23, 2009 - 10:09pm
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Anonymous

Hi. My girlfriend told me that she has ejaculated in the past and she used to do it frequently. The last time she did it was approximately two years ago. We have been in a relationship now for 9 months and so far she has been unable to ejaculate. We've tried all the positions that rub the right area to ejaculate but despite her pushing, she can't do it. Or I'm not doing something right. Instead, she gets a pain in her lower abdomin that builds up and up with the pressure but without the release. The longer we continue the more the pressure builds up until she can't take it anymore. I'm not sure if it's me, she tells me it's not. We are very open with each other and she says I'm not doing anything wrong and it's her. We both agree our sex life is amazing, we do it everywhere and have great orgasms. Is this normal and will she do it again? Thanks. P.

August 21, 2009 - 12:32pm
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Anonymous

My second wife discovered Ejaculation for herself and that it is not a myth, before we even had intercourse. In the early days of our relationship she had been celibate for a couple of years after her husband left her and she rarely masturbated. During a "phone sex" session she told me that she had made a "big mess",whilst penetrating herself fairly briskly, with an average sized vibrator (switched off) which happened on several subsequent occassions (much to our mutual fascination). Soon after we became (physically) sexually active and I experienced this for myself first hand. We perceive it as a very intimate and erotic act and we include it in our sex life fairly regularly.
Fluid emission varies greatly in both volume and density, from clear urine like fluid,via milky runny stuff, to white sperm textured fluid, anywhere from a spoonful to a cupfull.
Having spent Three weeks in France working, After reacquainting ourselves, I look forward most to what should be a fairly spectacular event in both volume and density and an expression of our intimacy. She has also expressed her anticipation and enthusiasm for this to happen ASAP.

August 14, 2009 - 9:06am
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Anonymous

It is good to know that this in normal, and happens in other women!! When it first happened my boyfriend thougt that I had peed. I tried to assure him that I did not. Since then my husband likes it when it happens and always brings the towels to bed. Sometimes I joke and say that we need to order some sham-wows. The amount of fluid does vary from time to time, but it always seems to be a lot. This article was very informative and I appreciated it.

August 13, 2009 - 8:29pm
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Anonymous

when I experinced this for the first time, my husband, had read about it. so we knew what to expect or thought we did. after my first experiance I stayed on the bed for along time totally relaxed not wanting to move. I felt every nerve in my body tinging. the next day I felt HAPPY. I don't feel this way often I suffer from depression, this was a nice change for me. We are still learning how to make this happen and I do enjoy working on it together

August 7, 2009 - 1:28pm
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Anonymous

I'm glad to find out there are more women out there having these multi-ejaculations. However, my concern is knowing when enough is enough; how many times can my body ejaculate and stay healthy? Every time I have sex I ejaculate at least 10 to 15 times and my husband and I can not afford a 12th mattress. MY husband enjoys it, but he is concern about the amount of fluids that I lose. Also, the only reason why I stop at 10 or 15 ejaculations is because he is done. Should I drink more water?

July 24, 2009 - 12:25am
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Anonymous (reply to Anonymous)

I remember when I was masturbating for a while. I saw this stuff and I thought something was wrong with me. But I guess I'm just special. And my boyfriend finds it absolutely fascinating. I would suggest drinking lots of fluids and having a balanced diet, seeing as how a woman is capable of squirting almost 2 cups of fluid and its made up of glucose, which comes from food! But, of course, the amount varies with each woman. I was embarrassed at first. But i"m glad to see this is something to be somewhat proud of. Oh... and I'm also glad it doesn't come out of the urethra. lol

August 3, 2009 - 8:51pm
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