Ever have a great idea - an idea so big and grand that, for a split second, it makes the universe feel full of possibility? Maybe it’s an idea for a business you could start, or a dream to spend a year traveling around the world, or a vision that you could be an artist or writer. For just a moment, all limits and rules drop away and it feels as though anything can happen.

I can’t tell you how many times I’ve asked a question like this to someone: “What do you REALLY want to do?” or “If money were no object, how would you spend your time?” And I can’t tell you how many of those times, what follows, in a spontaneous moment of unguarded clarity, is an answer that is so brilliant, so natural and makes so much SENSE.

And just as soon as the idea pops into your mind - BAM!!! The dreaded voice of reason rears its ugly head. It starts to tell you why this won’t work. Maybe it gives you a litany of reasons why the economy is bad or you’re not talented enough. Perhaps the critical voice that lives in your head is well-versed in statistics (mine is) - it will start to recite all the names of people you know who have tried and failed. Maybe the critical voice can’t think of anyone who has even tried - so it tells you that that is proof why it can’t work.

We’ve been taught to believe that the voice of reason is the objective one. We trust it. We think it’s rational. So we quiet our big dream, and it scurries away into the recesses of our mind, never to be heard from again, except in quiet moments, in the empty space (which is sometimes why we avoid the quiet, empty space, but that’s another blog posting for another day).

When we don’t allow ourselves the opportunity to linger in possibility, we miss finding out what might happen. Most of the time, there are ways to make it happen. Most of the time, when people stay in that empty space long enough, open to exploring the idea, they see that there are resources and helpful people all around them - the fear just blinded them to realizing it. Once this happens, the idea starts to seem more feasible. In fact, things start aligning into place. A plan can be created. The idea no longer seems so unfeasible.

How can we do this?

Pay attention - Sometimes when we get insight about something, it starts to dissolve immediately. When you notice the rational voice come in to throw cold water on your big ideas, just notice it and think, without judgment, “Ok, that’s what’s happening. I'm scared and I'm shutting myself down."

Take notes - Carry a notebook with you everywhere you go. Write down anything that makes you excited - ideas, visuals, objects. Review the list when you’re feeling confident, safe and happy.

Music - Listen to music that emboldens you as you spend time daydreaming about what you want most. One of my clients always listens to the theme song to Rocky when he’s psyching himself up for something.

Give yourself permission - Create a sense of safety for yourself. For instance, tell yourself, “I don’t have to act on any of this. I’m just giving myself permission to explore. I’ll figure out the how later.” Sometimes it allows you to take enough pressure off yourself long enough to explore these ideas.

##$% Fear! - Just decide that you can feel scared and explore your ideas anyway. Who says you can’t survive discomfort? Challenge that fear. Talk back to it. When you notice it, get rebellious. Think to yourself: “I don’t care. I can think about anything I want to.”

Think about it - what’s the worst thing that could happen? You could fail. So what? People fail all the time. To me, it’s better to stick your neck out and risk failure than it is to stay safe, bored and unchallenged. In the far lovelier words of Anais Nin:

“Life is a process of becoming, a combination of states we have to go through. Where people fail is that they wish to elect a state and remain in it. This is a kind of death.”