Holly Carroll and I were first introduced at a fundraiser, where ladies-who-lunch were bidding on a silent auction and streaming into an expansive, 900-seat dining room shimmering with china and crystal.

A seat had opened up at a friend’s table — her $1,000 table — garnering me a last minute invitation. I vaguely understood myself to be at a fundraising event for cancer treatment, and that there would be a children’s fashion show.

My concerns that morning were whether my dress was fancy enough and that my purse matched my shoes. Then, a mutual friend introduced me to Holly, a beautiful woman in a cocktail dress in a sea of beautiful women in cocktail dresses.

When we took our seats, my friend told me that Holly’s son, Andrew, 11 years old, had just completed treatment for skin cancer. He would be walking in the fashion show along with other children who had survived, or who currently had, cancer.

It was then that I realized that for many people, this formal event was actually a matter of life and death.

Andrew’s cancer journey started with a seemingly innocuous mole on his back.

The mole was symmetrical with smooth borders and even coloring. It did not immediately raise the alarm bells indicated by ABC’s of skin cancer detection: