By joliinshanghai February 10, 2011 - 8:23pm

My boyfriend and I have been dating for 2.5 years, and for 2 of those years we were long-distance, seeing each other for a few weeks at a time every 2-3 months. He's now moved to my city and it's fantastic finally being together. The only stress point is that we seem to be off sexually. He gets hard, but can't orgasm when we have sex, when I give him oral sex, or at all unless he's masturbating. His theory is that he's been masturbating and watching porn on his own for the past two years, and it's hard for him to be turned on in any other situation. It's stressful for him, but it's also really hard on me, and I'm not sure how to overcome this with him. I'm trying to be patient and supportive but I feel undesirable and like a failure as a sex partner. I understand this issue probably has nothing to do we me, but I'm finding it difficult to deal with and I don't know how to help him. Any advice?