By alluragrace November 18, 2010 - 11:55am

Why is it that some women struggle with attaining sexual satisfaction? Why do some women have difficulty achieving orgasm? It has been reported that over 50% of women have some concerns about their sexuality and are not completely satisfied in this area. Most women have a sexual ‘problem’ at some point or other in their lives. Some issues are short-term, and some may be long-term concerns. As women get older, or have been in a relationship for a long time, some women may feel a lack of interest in sex. Perhaps they have less sexual desire and fewer fantasies, or maybe feel reluctant to engage in sexual activity because of certain insecurities or hang-ups about physical intimacy. Most of these issues generally boil down to issues in personal relationships and emotional components which, in turn, dictate how comfortable you are with your own sexuality.

A sexual ‘problem’ could be anything distressing for you and/or your relationship with a partner. However, if you perceive a symptom that doesn’t necessarily trouble you or your partner and puts no strain on your relationship, then it is not considered a sexual ‘problem.’ A lack of interest in sexual intercourse is not necessarily a cause for alarm, as there are many other ways to enjoy intimacy and connection. But if your partner desires sex much more often than you and you are simply uninterested and fake your way though for appeasement purposes, it will affect your relationship on many levels. It is important to be true to yourself and have a mutually enjoyable sex life.

Because it varies from woman to woman, there is no “normal” level of sexual response. Your sex life and perceptions may change depending on who you’re with. Other factors include age, physical condition, and emotional health. Hormones play a role in our sexuality. And, as all women know, their levels and intensity can vary from week to week. This is especially true for women in a perimenopausal stage. Some women experience a decrease in arousal, feeling unreceptive to sexual suggestions and are not able to feel or maintain sexual excitement. There are many great progesterone creams such as Internal Harmony to relieve menopausal symptoms. Also certain herbal supplements such as Add Lib can help balance hormones and increase libido.

Most women have a strong need for closeness and intimacy. Ideally, sexual interaction is one way for couples to fulfill each other’s emotional and physical needs. However, there are many factors that may hinder one’s ability and desire to experience physical intimacy. Some of these include stress, relationship problems, depression or anxiety, a memory of sexual trauma, unhappiness with your body, among others.

Intimacy can be shared in many ways. Regardless of any physical or emotional issues, there are countless ways to maintain a strong connection with your partner. You can enjoy private personal conversations, share expressive eye contact, give or receive sensual massage, or just snuggle in bed. Sometimes instigating a loving exchange may help rekindle the passion and attraction between you and your partner. When you make it apparent that you need more affectionate interaction to feel ‘in the mood’, it may spark more desire to go further. Passionate foreplay leads to more passionate love-making.

When you and your partner choose to embark on a sexual escapade together, it can be a truly magical experience when you allow yourself to enjoy the moment. Let everything else go, release your inhibitions and fully embrace the opportunity to deeply connect with one another. Communicate what you want – that which you take pleasure in most. Get out of your head and get more into your body. Focus on your breathing, the sensations, and on the intimate connection between you and your partner.

There are no rules when it comes to sex. There is no right or wrong way to do anything as long as you both enjoy whatever experience you choose to co-create. Even if you don’t have sexual intercourse, there are infinite ways to satisfy each other. Be sure to have some good lube on hand for improving any intimate contact. I recommend The Natural Personal Lubricant, as it glides over the skin and soothes your most sensitive areas. Most importantly, enjoy yourself! The more fun you have, and pleasure you derive from a sexual experience, the more your partner will feel more satisfied as well.