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My boyfriend is not sexually attracted to me could our relationship work?

By January 10, 2011 - 8:05am

My boyfriend and I meat online about a year ago, he is my first boyfriend and the first person I have ever had relations with, at the beginning of the relationship we had sex 1 or 2 times a day, but I got pregnant during the first month. During that time he didn’t want to have sex with me and I felt so unwanted, ugly, and depress I decided to ask him why, the first time he said that he didn’t want to hurt the baby and I explain to him that he wasn’t going to hurt the baby that it was normal to have sex during the pregnancy. One day, he was drunk and I asked him againg and he told me that he didn’t find me sexually attractive; he made me feel so bad I cried all night, the next morning hoping that he would say that he was drunk and that he was sorry I asked him why would he be so cruel and hurt me that way, he said that if I didn’t want to hear the truth I shouldn’t of asked. I still feel bad about it its making me think about ending our relationship even though he said he doesn’t remember because he was drunk and even though he said it because he was mad, I don’t believe him. But is not just because of the sex is the carelessness I told him I was going to leave him and he doesn’t care, he never looks for me I always go back to him even if it’s his fault, he shows me in lots of ways that he doesn’t care but he say he loves me and that is not that he doesn’t care is just that he doesn’t like to show that he does. At this moment we are having so many problems, I can’t stop bringing up our pass problems specially this one, we were suppose to get married after our daughter was born that was two months ago on Nov -7-10, but we didn’t he now wants to get married when we find our apartment and who knows when that’s going to be, I think he doesn’t want to get married, he says he does, and he says he loves me, I do believe he loves me but he is not in love with me, I don’t believe he is sexually attracted to me or that he want to get married. Do you think that our relationship could work? Do you think he is lying about not remembering what he told me because he was drunk, or that he said it because he was mad? Do you think he want to get married? What is stopping him I told him ill live with his parents until we get our own place? Could it be me?
Extra info: He told me that he was going to show me how sexually attracted he was to me when we get our own place that he was just afraid that his mom would walk in on us, she has walked in on us having sex about 3 times, but I still don’t believe him. He is 24 and I turn 22 two month ago.

By March 22, 2011 - 4:39am

My grandmother would always tell me, "There's plenty of fish in the sea." I met an older woman at a party when I was breaking up with my first husband. She was on her fourth husband, but I was still devastated by my breakup. When I told her about it, she said merrily, "On to the next one." She was right - my current husband is great.

March 22, 2011 - 4:39am

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