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When did menopause start for you?

By HERWriter Guide July 31, 2010 - 5:25am

I'm not near the stage yet but I know she's a comin' at some stage! Based on the women in my family, I'm about 15 years away from menopause but one never knows.

I wonder how old other women were when menopause began and what were the first signs that this part of life had begun?


By April 1, 2012 - 3:38pm


I has been thyroid diease when i born my baby, my doctor told me,you will have failure malfunction ovary in the future. I was 28 year old and has hypothryoidism for long time, right now, end up I found it out I was 42, perimenopause because i has go thru awful hot flash, hard time to sleep and everything blow me out. I went doctor and say its perimenopause and say its depand on 3 to 15 years between depand on, now I just officially menopause im 44 now no more hot flash and everything back normal . I remembered that day during perimenopause and cause my hair fall off lot and was something wrong with my hair. now more thinner hair.. My doctor recommend me to do is every day exercise and regular food so far I did but sometime YOYO weight I cannot deal with weight problem. can you tell me some how to stay stable with my weight:((
my age is too early but now menopause :(

April 1, 2012 - 3:38pm
By January 8, 2012 - 7:25pm

At age 48, I think I may have come to the path of menopause, few more months will be 49. Only change I have noticed at time is the flow of my periods and I just dread when they do decided to show up...they come every month still or close to every 30 days. My period only last 3 days but go through a whole box of tampons because my flow is that heavy. I'm so wiped out for that entire 3 days and then some. That period just takes everything out of me and just can't wait till the day comes that I don't get them at all. I'm not sure if some of my depression is linked to this suppose could be possible. I did get little concerned last month when I passed huge blood clots with my period then read up on menopause and it said this can be common with a heavy flow. No hot flashes yet and some of story's read here that sorta spooking me out. Won't have a choice but to deal with whatever comes my way.

January 8, 2012 - 7:25pm
By November 6, 2011 - 1:24pm

Yes, it does sound like menopause.  I would strongly encourage you to see a physician.  Your symptoms sound pretty severe with painful intercourse and bleeding.

Your vaginal walls could be thinning.  That is common for many women.  I don't know if this would be of any value to you, but I use testosterone pellets for achy joints and pain. 

Testosterone is a natural anti-inflammatory.  It is also a substrate for estrogen (your body produces estrogen from testosterone....among other things) which adds more estrogen back into your body.

One of the pleasant side-effects of testosterone is that it increases the libido (WOW!!), helps with vaginal dryness and builds tissue....all of which can benefit you if you are experiencing paint, dryness and bleeding during intercourse.

I understand you're on a lot of pain meds for your back (I also have bad back pain in the same area), but, you would be doing yourself a huge favor by seeing a physician who can help you balance your hormones.



November 6, 2011 - 1:24pm
By November 6, 2011 - 9:19am

Sure-I have a gyn appt coming up soon. Will try to remember to let you know!

November 6, 2011 - 9:19am
By October 29, 2011 - 11:09am

I was thrusted into menopause when I had serious pneumonia & was hospitalized for 3 weeks. That was in Oct. 2009. Before that, I had many symptoms, but was still having a period ea. month. I haven't had a period since & still haven't talked to my GYN because I haven't gone in to see her. That's because I also have severe advanced DDD in my L5-S1/S2 & I'm on alot of meds due to that. I still get the hot flashes, mood swings, and it hurts to have sex. Last time I tried to have sex, I bled a bit, & it hurt bad. So I thought, oh boy, my period is back. But by the next day, I wasn't bleeding anymore. My primary doc has given me a slew of herbals to take, but not taking them due to taking so many other Rx's. I do have some serious hot flashes, have gained serious weight and am easily fatigued. Does this all sound like menoupause to anyone? By the way, I was only 38 when this all began.
Thank you!

October 29, 2011 - 11:09am
By October 27, 2011 - 8:11am

I love the strength and clarity of mind that comes with menopause, Connie.....it just gives you a boldness doesn't it?

I wish we could have this kind of tenacity of life during our younger years. But then, I guess that's what those years are for.....figuring out who you are and then standing by it. :)

October 27, 2011 - 8:11am
By October 21, 2011 - 1:03pm

Not sure when it really began, but know when I went into full fledged menopause. That was about three years ago. I do remember about 18 years ago asking a doctor about the signs, symptoms, etc and he just handed me a brochure. The we tried HRT, ewwwww. Did not make it past the first week. That is when I began asking and researching.

In the last three years I have found only a couple of reliable resources on menopause. One fills in the blanks, like dry vagina, leaky bladder, stomach discomfort, digestion, itchy skin that is not due to dryness, hair falling out, fatigue, and all those other wonderful changes women get to go through. :)

Now I embrace the change, took a crones year away, well a year and half, to rest and get comfortable with me. I use nature, safe supplements, and my house is toxin free. No brand is safe with me, it is not a resident in my house. Cleaners, detergents, skin care, all of it is gone. Because those ingredients effect your mood and health.

I love being a crone. I wear it proudly. I am in year 3 or 4 now.


October 21, 2011 - 1:03pm
By October 18, 2011 - 4:03pm

I agree. Better to live in our generation than our mother's and grandmother's. God bless those women. Such oppression!

October 18, 2011 - 4:03pm
By October 9, 2011 - 9:12pm

I took some things, Susan.

But, I know more now than I did then. Loads more. I wish I had been more diligent in trying to get help. I'm actually more pro-active now than I was during the worst of my symptoms. I use bioidentical progesterone and testosterone. I also take lots of supplements for various things.

But, I don't have any serious symptoms anymore. I use the hormones to help with sleep and a few other things. but, I don't have mood swings any more or any of that other intense stuff.


October 9, 2011 - 9:12pm
By October 2, 2011 - 11:13am

I was 42 when I began to enter perimenopause. I had a phantom period which reset my menstrual cycle and I unexpectedly conceived my third child. I was nearly 43 when she was born. Shortly after her birth, I went into full-blown perimenopause. It was a hell I would not wish on my worst enemy. I'm now 54, nearly 55 and I'm nearly completely menopausal. I've had one cycle in 12 months, so, I'm almost there. I feel so much better and I'm glad that hormonal ride from the devil is over. Whew!

October 2, 2011 - 11:13am

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