There’s looking for love in all the wrong places, and then there’s looking for (and keeping) love with all the wrong head wear. Can a bald woman find, or better yet, be the recipient of romantic love? Therese wants to know, and I suspect there are a whole lot of other women with the same painful question.
Therese developed alopecia after tying the knot with her husband. Therese initially wore wigs, but found they were not right for her. She swapped her wigs for fashionable head scarves. Sadly, Therese’s husband confessed to her that it was when she stopped wearing her wigs that he officially lost interest. Her confidence shaken, facing life as a bald and now single woman, and embarking on a new job all at once temporarily drove Therese back to the safety of her wigs. Temporarily. Therese is one of those women who despite the struggles of just being a woman without hair, is simply not comfortable hiding her condition with wigs. As a result, Therese wonders whether she will ever find a man who accepts her as she is - bald, and not willing to hide it.
I too was married when I developed alopecia and lost my hair. While the adjustment process certainly put stress on my marriage, Jack has stuck with me through it all. In my case, I had a hard time with his efforts at proving to me that the hair loss didn’t matter to him. What do you mean it doesn’t matter!? IT MATTERS!!!! To me, anyhow, and at that most raw emotional stage in the process, I didn’t want anyone telling me it didn’t matter. It’s a fine line between letting a woman know you accept and love her as she is, and telling her that her appearance issues just don’t matter. Men, take note.
What if we are openly rejected due to our hair loss? How do we move on and find new love, love we can trust? While I know it’s easier to write than do, I would recommend that any woman in this situation imagine swapping shoes with their partner. Not with hair loss as the issue though, as bald men are oh-so-accepted in our society. Think of something that would be an equivalent appearance alteration for him. Would you still love and accept him? If the answer is yes, then he clearly didn’t deserve you. The good news? He and his kind are not the only available men on the planet. I believe, I know, that there are a lot of men out there besides my Jack who just want to be loved and to return that love. And they’re searching for women like you.
Have your own story about searching for or finding love as a bald woman? Therese and so many other women like Therese need to hear those stories, so please share.
Susan Beausang, 4Women.com
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I would like read more information about this, is very interesting! Thanks for the informationHairloss is common in men nowadays. The reason for that is high production of DHT in men. here are many drugs available in market for hairfall in men.Finpecia is one medicine which will control DHT and will grow hair.
November 1, 2012 - 11:57pmThis Comment
It's hard to believe perhaps, but then is it? Hair loss aside, I've met my share of shallow men, men who cheat on their wives (even when they have beautiful hair), men who need their wives to look a certain way, men who are less than complementary when it comes to their wives' appearance. I have customers who relate stories of husbands who insist they wear their wigs to bed, women who are bald because they're undergoing chemotherapy. But there are positive stories too. And it's those I want to collect in response to this blog. I received the following comment immediately after posting on my site. Hope it helps us all remember that there are bad AND good eggs out there.
From Chrissy"
"I struggled with this same thing. I had basically given up after quite a few failed attempts at hiding my hair loss and then finally telling the guy only to be rejected. I figured I could have a perfectly nice life without having a man to share it with. That said, I was only in my twenties and still going out and having fun with friends while wearing wigs. I was approached quite often by men and within minutes of talking would tell them of my condition. I did not want to invest time into anything when I would simply be rejected. Better early than later. I was rejected, but I began to feel much better about the situation because I was in control. I was able to think of it positively because I was not allowing my time, or his to be wasted. I think I could have made a different choice in emotions, but luckily this is how I felt.
I was out one evening with friends and a man approached me. As usual, within minutes I told him I was completely bald. His response was, “Ok. So am I. What’s the big deal?” We began dating and despite a few hurdles have been dating for 10 years this March, married for 8 years this August, and have 2 beautiful children. Men like this do exist! Alopecia is a hard disease to deal with, but without it, I would not be nearly as strong, confident, and bold as I am today. I consider it a blessing… and the no shaving part is pretty nice, too!"
January 23, 2012 - 12:13pmThis Comment