The Fourth of July is a nice reminder about our personal independence.
When I talk about independence with my female friends, what we mean is that we are very much OK on our own. I adore my husband, Ray, but I am also an independent woman. I think that is part of what he loves about me.
No matter what our marital or boyfriend status may be at the moment, it is a nice weekend to reflect on the fact that each of us is already complete, by ourselves.
Viva Independence!
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Tina and Marie Claire: Thank you very much. Very well put. You've helped me to explain my point.
Evie, Thank you.
I can understand where you are coming from. The word "independence" can be taken several ways. The point we are making is that to have a man is great, but he does not define who we are. I am very supportive to my husband and he to me but we are both unique individuals. Our lives are enhanced by each other but we are also complete unto ourselves. We also spend a huge amount of time together because we enjoy each other's company.
I was married from 19 to 23 and then single from 23 to 43 when I met my husband so I am very familiar with single life. I think that when we fully embrace ourselves, we are more attractive to others. It's also helpful to make ourselves available by being out and active. I met my husband on a tennis court.
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July 7, 2008 - 8:02pmInternational Women’s Lifestyle, Work & Empowerment by Linda Sherman
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Easier said by someone who has someone significant in their life. Independence has it's pluses and minuses. Remember, the grass is always greener on the other side. We all want what we don't have.
I am single and after many years of being single I have come to the realization that having someone significant in my life is important. Leave it to a long,independent holiday weekend to remind me of that.
It is nice to be able to have quality time to yourself. But don't overlook the importance of a good relationship with your partner. Holidays are meant to be spent with someone,not alone.
Hope you all had a wonderful Independence day.
July 6, 2008 - 7:54pmThis Comment
I agree, I hope none of us never needs another to 'complete' us, a la that line from Jerry McGuire..."you complete me." It's nice and romantic and all that but really, how dangerous is it to hand that kind of power over to another person?!
I am also married and am not one to tout my 'independence' all over the place but I am still a full human being, regardless of my marital status. I hope I'd still feel that way if I were not married.
And I agree with you about husbands admiring a woman who has her own job/friends/hobbies/activities that don't always include him. A clingy woman is scary to a man! (as is a clingy man to a woman). Everyone likes to be needed but we all need to remember that we're ok by ourselves too.
July 5, 2008 - 8:01amThis Comment
I absolutely agree. Women need to develop identities, skills and friendships that don't hinge on their significant others. We have too much to offer to defer to someone else. Viva Independence.
July 5, 2008 - 7:57amThis Comment