I totally agree with you guys, i have a LDR, and we are in differenn countries!!! But we've been through for almost a year and a half, and we are stronger than ever, we talk every day, several times, phone, msn, email, sms, its almost like we were together (i feel it that way, because we are part of each other lives no matter the distance between us. We have plans, but we dont want to rush it, like someone said, we are not playing around this is a long term relationship, we both know what we want and we both are sure of our feelings, so its just a matter of time and ill be moving in with him, but we've learned to know each other, its not based just on sex or the need of having someone to hang out. And the most important thing we trust each other i've never ever had a single bad thought about him.
I agree with Susan "Cheating is a reflection on someone's character and has nothing to do with mileage." My ex-husband justified his cheating by the fact that on his day off he was "lonely" at 3 PM and I wasn't going to get home from work till 6 PM. My LDR checks in regularly and the e-mail headers confirm whether he's telling the truth about his location -- work desktop, home desktop, laptop or Blackberry. If he tells me he's home, I can trust that he's home and not at a club. If he says he's working late, the headers confirm it was sent from his work desktop. He hasn't lied to me yet.
When you are in a local relationship, it's easy to spend all your time DOING. In a long-distance relationship, there's got to be a lot of COMMUNICATING: I have talked more in a few months to my LDR than I did in the year-plus that I dated my ex-husband -- it was always "let's see a movie", "let's go to a concert", "let's have s*x", let's do anything EXCEPT talk so you don't find out what a rotter I am. Hence, I know my LDR as a person -- know what he thinks and how he thinks and what he thinks of other people's actions. And that's a lot more important to the success of a relationship than whether you can sit silently next to each other at the movies!
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I totally agree with you guys, i have a LDR, and we are in differenn countries!!! But we've been through for almost a year and a half, and we are stronger than ever, we talk every day, several times, phone, msn, email, sms, its almost like we were together (i feel it that way, because we are part of each other lives no matter the distance between us. We have plans, but we dont want to rush it, like someone said, we are not playing around this is a long term relationship, we both know what we want and we both are sure of our feelings, so its just a matter of time and ill be moving in with him, but we've learned to know each other, its not based just on sex or the need of having someone to hang out. And the most important thing we trust each other i've never ever had a single bad thought about him.
June 19, 2010 - 10:17amThis Comment
I agree with Susan "Cheating is a reflection on someone's character and has nothing to do with mileage." My ex-husband justified his cheating by the fact that on his day off he was "lonely" at 3 PM and I wasn't going to get home from work till 6 PM. My LDR checks in regularly and the e-mail headers confirm whether he's telling the truth about his location -- work desktop, home desktop, laptop or Blackberry. If he tells me he's home, I can trust that he's home and not at a club. If he says he's working late, the headers confirm it was sent from his work desktop. He hasn't lied to me yet.
June 16, 2010 - 11:16amThis Comment
When you are in a local relationship, it's easy to spend all your time DOING. In a long-distance relationship, there's got to be a lot of COMMUNICATING: I have talked more in a few months to my LDR than I did in the year-plus that I dated my ex-husband -- it was always "let's see a movie", "let's go to a concert", "let's have s*x", let's do anything EXCEPT talk so you don't find out what a rotter I am. Hence, I know my LDR as a person -- know what he thinks and how he thinks and what he thinks of other people's actions. And that's a lot more important to the success of a relationship than whether you can sit silently next to each other at the movies!
June 16, 2010 - 10:33amThis Comment