Why dont I get real pleasure from sex?

theres a pill for this problem??

Yeah!

Women generally take longer to have an orgasim then men do. It takes me anywhere from 10 to 30 minutes sometimes, and frankley I don't know any men that can last that long! Who knows, maybe if he could i could cum during intercourse! My husband goes down on me first. He says "I cum first" LOL, then he enters inside me, then we're both happy. Try it. IT'S AMAZING! ;-P

Anti Depressants, What got you on it, now if sex is not working think for a moment what triggered you to take the pills for your condition. Now this what I am saying is not supposed to make you feel uncomfortable. If you can remember what got you on the tablets you will be able to help yourself to have better sex with your partner. If that does not work you could see a sex therapist for advice and she or he can lead you in the right direction for a fullfilled sex drive with your partner. This is only a suggestion ok, good luck.

when on top its not about the thrusting motion its more of the grinding that will get you stimulated (your rubbing the clitoris and G-spot)...when going up and down it mostly stimulates the man...the only way i can describe the motion that might work for would be to make circular motions while he is completely inside of you...once you explore this you can try grinding back and forth...some women like this style fast others like it slow but in the end you won't be as exhausted...if you still can visualize this you can always watch some porn of women who do this style...also if you just can seem to get the motion down ask him to help guide your hips for you...if you do prefer the up and down motion try doing some exercises, like lunges and squats, because will help strengthen your quads which you use a lot by doing that up and down motion...

Hi CazAnne-

The first thing I want to tell you is that this is not an uncommon issue, especially at your age.

Did you feel this way before you were taking antidepressants? Sexual difficulties including low libido and trouble with orgasm are common side effects of many antidepressants. If you think this might be part of the problem, I suggest you talk to your prescribing provider.

Another possibility is position. Many women cannot have an orgasm in the "missionary" position. It just doesn't hit the right parts of the anatomy for them. You might consider experimenting with different positions, for instance with you on top, to see if that helps.

Some people just don't have the high sex drive that others have. Everyone is different. Some want sex several times a day, some people are happy with once a year. Have you ever had a strong sex drive?

We get a lot of discussion on sex here on the site. Reading what other people have said may help you: https://www.empowher.com/condition/sexual-well-being.

Good luck and if you want to discuss this further, please let us know.