Why Doesn't my boyfriend want to have sex with me anymore?

Am in a relationship with my boyfriend we are gay and we use to have sex every time we could but recently he has not touched me we haven't had sex for three weeks he just wants head or wants to jack off. I asked him Wat was the problem and he said he is just stressed with the new business we are starting up. And he says he has not been hanging out with his family and friends and has no social life this makes me feels as if I am not attractive and makes me feel insecure :( we have been on and off for two years

IM A GUY, I WORK WITH ALOT OF GUYS AND WE TALK ALL THE TIME AND ME AND ALL MY FRIENDS WE KNOW THAT WHEN WE DON'T HAVE SEX WITH OUR GIRLFREINDS IS JUST BECAUSE WE DON'T FIND HER ATTRACTIVE AT ALL OR FOR SURE WE ARE HAVING WAY BETTER SEX SOMEWHERE ALSE.
SO, IF YOU WANT THE TRUTH AND NOTHING ALSE BUT THE TRUTH-------------> 1.- HE DOESN'T WANT YOU IN BED.
2.- HE LIKES MAN AND HES GOING GAY.
3.- HE IS FUCKING SOMEONE BETTER THAN YOU.

99.9% OF THE TIME IS A COMBO BETWEEN 1 AND 3.

sounds to me like he is addicted to pain kiilers, at least between me and my wife that was our problem. everything you are saying was exactly what happened to us. there are alot of signs to see if he is, i will list some for you to help see if this is what is going on.

1. does he ever have problems sleeping at night
2. when he runs out of pills and cant get any for a few days he might always be tired or say his back hurts.
3. from one min to the next he can go from not wanting to talk to talking to much. this would happen if he just toke one.
4. does he tell you that he fills sick more often then ever before. this would happen if he hasnt taken any for like a day or two.
5. does he complain of headachs more then he used to. this would also be if he didnt have any for a few days sometimes a day.

and there are alot more, but you can do a web search to find out the rest. I hope this is not the problem but if you do find out that it is. you cant leave him, you have to help him get off of them, becouse the withdrawls from getting off is like getting the flu x 100, but he will need your support if he is ever going to get off of them. but again i hope that this is not the problem, Im jsut telling you what my wife and I went thew.

sounds to me like he is addicted to pain kiilers, at least between me and my wife that was our problem. everything you are saying was exactly what happened to us. there are alot of signs to see if he is, i will list some for you to help see if this is what is going on.

1. does he ever have problems sleeping at night
2. when he runs out of pills and cant get any for a few days he might always be tired or say his back hurts.
3. from one min to the next he can go from not wanting to talk to talking to much. this would happen if he just toke one.
4. does he tell you that he fills sick more often then ever before. this would happen if he hasnt taken any for like a day or two.
5. does he complain of headachs more then he used to. this would also be if he didnt have any for a few days sometimes a day.

and there are alot more, but you can do a web search to find out the rest. I hope this is not the problem but if you do find out that it is. you cant leave him, you have to help him get off of them, becouse the withdrawls from getting off is like getting the flu x 100, but he will need your support if he is ever going to get off of them. but again i hope that this is not the problem, Im jsut telling you what my wife and I went thew.

It sucks that something like this has just turned into a bashing. Look, my boyfriend and I have a similar problem to the original posters. Only we've beent together for two years and live together. Reasons for our problems?
1. We live with his parents and brother. Cant be having sex around them.
2. He works, and when he comes home he's tired.
3. We havent been working out, TRUST ME working out is a BIG sex drive factor.
4. When we ARE alone, he's still tired and has a hard time waking up. (Dont be mad, if your boyfriend is like this, your man is making the money, working hard and has a right to be tired. Make him feel relaxed. Get him a beer, a nice back rub, and something to fill his tummy.
5. We're both good looking people, and thats not being vain, because im not saying we're the hottest or anything, but we're highly attracted to eachother, always have been, and we also have to deal with the problem of other people hitting on us. speaking of that
6. Other people TRYING to flirt with your spouse (It pushes you slightly apart...instead, make fun of the person, and stop talking to them)
7. Comming off pushy or greedy. You have to be giving to your spouse. And in time when theres an oppuntunity to, they'll give to you.

If you live with other people, You might be thinking heyyyy, why's he always get it and I dont? Well the answer is, its easier to hide his errection then it is to hide his fingers, or penis inside of you if someone walks in. Also, if your comming off pushy, or needy then it seems like thats all you want and you dont care about how they feel. Also, dont ever listen to the idiot boys who try to say there isnt a man in the world who would pass up sex. Guys dont always want it either. Especially if their in love. Your problem, the reason why your having less sex, could just be that hes THAT in love with you. He wants to enjoy quality time with you without having to touch or kiss or f***. Enjoy that! Dont try to always touch him, or grab him, dont try to always kiss him or tell him how you feel. Just lay or sit there with him, FEEL IT, and savor the quiet moment. You both feel it, your both in love, you dont always have to say it. Look the point is, talk to him. set it up, say hey, can i talk to you about something. im nervous to cause i think you might get mad or upset and i dont want to do that, im just confused. and when he says yes (if he says no or something similar say okay and tell him you'll talk about it another time) just see if you can ask him some questions or something. but keep the conversation short and sweet. dont be bitchy and dont keep going into it. be like, do you still think im beautiful? Do you still think im sexy? Do you still like touching and kissing me? Do you still like being inside of me? Sometimes I feel like you dont anymore, i feel like you never wanna make love to me (PS. DUMB A** LITTLE BOYS, GIRLS ARE ALLOWED TO SAY MAKE LOVE, MEN ARE TOO. SOMETIMES THEY DO, they just think its a funny way to say it. but saying it that way shows you dont wanna just all out f*** that you wanna make a meaningful connection..anyway) Is there something im doing, or something going on thats causing you to want to less? Is there anything I can do that will make you want to more? or to help you relax? make sure he knows its not all about sex, but sex and foreplay is a key part in a woman feeling wanted and sexy and beautiful. Plus, one day, when your alone, have the house together. dress up real pretty, maybe have a date together inside the house, and dont plan for sex. make romance, gentle kisses, sweet whispers. let him know how much you appreciate him, and something i learned recently, thats a major point in being attractive, not only confidence, but one major thing that is sooooo simply easy to do SMILE!!! When you smile your man wants to kiss you more. He gets more enjoyability out of it. Treat him gently, because your a woman, you should be gentle. You wanna have rough sex, go for it, but when your having problems like this sometimes gentleness is perfect. oh yeah most major reason he doesnt wanna have sex....HE'S SCARED OF GETTING YOU PREGNATE. YOUR NOT READY FOR A KID. MOST PEOPLE ARENT. HES NOT READY FOR A KID AND EVEN THOUGH HE MAY WANT ONE HE DOESNT WANT ONE YET. So especially if you've had scares before, that could be a major reason. okay well I hope this helps. and i hope you trash talking idiots learn their your lesson and ciate la boca! ps. dont even try saying my boyfriend is cheating, he is with me ALL the time. the only time we're not together is work and school, and trust me, im positive he doenst have time to be banging the girls he works with. Plus half of them are fat and neither of us are attracted to fat people (for those fat people having these problems. im sorry, and i mean no offence, but if you dont like it, work out. theres a great program called insanity. cry through it, want to die, but tough it out and you'll look great in the end. good luck...but seriously loose some weight...and burn that swim suit)

Well, I am having the same problem with Danny. Now, He won't make love to me anymore period.Our sex life has ended. He always says he is in pain or depressed so I feel you.Everytime he ejects me cold I just go in my bathroom and cry b/c I feel like he doesn't love me anymore. I mean us women have needs and desires and the men can't fufill our desires then they don't love us. I am sorry but it is how I feel b/c Danny doesn't love me anymore. I tell you if It was a choice between him the man who doesn't want me or a man with all sex drives in the world and can then I would choose the other man.

You cannot have a full relation/ship without sex and if you’re not getting it from him then he's getting it from someone else, the same thing goes for the women too. I have been in relationships that I got cheated on, and have cheated on some men in my past relationships. Sometimes when you have sex to much with a guy, he can get burnt out, one of my relationships ended due to the fact that we had way to much sex, if you have gone months without sleeping with your significant other someone has left the relationship whether he keeps denying that it has anything to do with you. There are plenty of fish in the sea, to keep trying to keep a man who doesn’t want you. Kick his ass to the floor, unless he can prove to you that he hasn’t cheated. Other things that can make a male not want to have sex there are certain illnesses, and guilt of sleeping with someone else.

You cannot have a full relation/ship without sex and if you’re not getting it from him then he's getting it from someone else, the same thing goes for the women too. I have been in relationships that I got cheated on, and have cheated on some men in my past relationships. Sometimes when you have sex to much with a guy, he can get burnt out, one of my relationships ended due to the fact that we had way to much sex, if you have gone months without sleeping with your significant other someone has left the relationship whether he keeps denying that it has anything to do with you. There are plenty of fish in the sea, to keep trying to keep a man who doesn’t want you. Kick his ass to the floor, unless he can prove to you that he hasn’t cheated. Other things that can make a male not want to have sex there are certain illnesses, and guilt of sleeping with someone else.

HIMpower!

Unfortunately, I think many of you are missing the obvious! When a man does not want to have sex with you anymore folowing a veracious sexual appetite it is because he is cheating and/or too cowardly to end the relationship! He inevitabily cruises on the verges of normality/ acceptable behaviour in order to get dumped! Also, if you also notice changes in the rapour you once had then this is another nail in the coffin that was your relationship. It is usually a way of saying that you do not have that much in common. This may also be an indicator that someone SEEMINGLY more exciting has turned his head. There are exceptions to this rule such as bereavements or other serious/obvious disruptions to our lives! However, if they are not willing to share this aspect of their lives with you then you should question the extent of your relationship

Do not let your SH-ego get the better of you and waste time fighting over a man that is not fighting for you... cut your losses and move on!
With respect, if there are children involved you should try counselling and other professional services not a website of any kind!

Do not think about your age or the age by which you wanted to be married/ settled down. These are media milestones that have no real meaning. Also, men do not generally have these insecurities as we are encouraged to chase younger models adinfinitum and also we do not have a biological clock! Subsequently, finding a man on your level is your biggest challenge... Please note: I said "finding" not 'moulding'!

Don't blame yourselves and follow your instinct!

PLEASE NOTE: This is not meant to patronise any person. It is one man's subjective observations and opinions.

Hello well I am amazed about how this topic can get blown out of porportion however I have the same issue ;( and well its only been a week with no sex but I still have oral sex with him and satisy him but does anyone know why he wouldnt wanna put it in me? weird and its pissing me off actually cause it makes me feel not wanted o and we live together so its weird we used to do it all the time lol