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We've been dating for over a yer now but in the last few months our sex has drastically decreased at first started to go down from at least 1-2 times a day for at least 5 months and then it went down to 1-2 times a week and then to 1-2 times a month and now it's been a month and a half since we've had sex. I've read a few articles about this allready, but none seem to fit my problem exactly. I was worried for a while that it might be me that was the problem and but he told me it wasn't and i know he wouldn't lie to me. I've asked him about it but he says theres nothing wrong. I just don't know what to do anymore. He's only a year older than me and he's suppose to be in hes prime. Is there anything I can do? I Haven't pressured him or anything because I dont want him to do it just to shut me up. I want him to want to. and I'm just not satistied anymore and im not asking for everyday, at this point once or twice a week would be nice. A far as I know there's nothing he's stressed about at work or school, could it be a cobination of the 2? or something else going on that I don't know about? and please keep in mind that im am searching for help and advice and I don't want to hear find a new boyfriend. I love him and im not leaving him, even if it means were not going to have sex anymore. But it's frustration for the time being as I find it a tad odd that I want it more than he does. and I don't really want to talk to any of my friends abotu it because I live in a small town and this is personal and I don't need everyone talking about it. and the last thing I want him to feel is embarassed. I havn't told anyone of my friends but I'm in need of some advice. Any Ideas?
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oh my god, it's like i'm reading my own life. i am just the way you are, we never EVER have sex and we're always fighting and im drinking alot too.. i'd do anything to keep the pain away..
February 11, 2010 - 6:49pmThis Comment
Umm have you tryied coming home to him just pretenting even is okay that you had a great day be extra sweet to him and make dinner or rent a movie he wants to see after he sees you are in a good mood hell take notice and if you dont feel like doing that just come home in a jolly mood(pretent) and go up and kiss him on the cheek stoke him the way he likes and start to seduce him. Hold his hand . sit down on the couch or bed and just wedge some of your self on him lean on him. trust me as sad as it is the way you two have sex takes a big effect on the overall relationship. Just start to be good to him seduce him somehow start off simple and have sex with there is no invisible brick wall between you two, even though it may feel like it sometime, that will stop you from kissing him or taking his hands and placing them on you it works try and if you tell me if this works. Good luck and just in there; you be there for him and he will start to be there for you be the bigger person and make that choice.
March 21, 2010 - 2:43amThis Comment
Umm have you tryied coming home to him just pretenting even is okay that you had a great day be extra sweet to him and make dinner or rent a movie he wants to see after he sees you are in a good mood hell take notice and if you dont feel like doing that just come home in a jolly mood(pretent) and go up and kiss him on the cheek stoke him the way he likes and start to seduce him. Hold his hand . sit down on the couch or bed and just wedge some of your self on him lean on him. trust me as sad as it is the way you two have sex takes a big effect on the overall relationship. Just start to be good to him seduce him somehow start off simple and have sex with there is no invisible brick wall between you two, even though it may feel like it sometime, that will stop you from kissing him or taking his hands and placing them on you it works try and if you tell me if this works. Good luck and just in there; you be there for him and he will start to be there for you be the bigger person and make that choice.
March 21, 2010 - 2:43amThis Comment
I have been with my fiancee for 6 years. I am ready to throw in the towel. I have tried everything but he isn't interested in anything. I tried talking sweet massaging and pampering him trying to cuddle kissing him to to totally iniating sex I get pushed to the side.I've tried sending sexy pic to his cell even talking dirty. He tells me I sound nasty and to please stop. I putting on lingere everything and I get the same answer NO tomorrow. Tomorrow never comes. I've asked if there's a problem. I've caught him masterbating. I don't have a problem with that but when im being denied and to see him doing that it pisses me off. We haven't even slept in the same bed for a few months. I done. I already looking to start seeing someone else.
October 22, 2010 - 10:48pmThis Comment
I have been with my fiancee for 6 years. I am ready to throw in the towel. I have tried everything but he isn't interested in anything. I tried talking sweet massaging and pampering him trying to cuddle kissing him to to totally iniating sex I get pushed to the side.I've tried sending sexy pic to his cell even talking dirty. He tells me I sound nasty and to please stop. I putting on lingere everything and I get the same answer NO tomorrow. Tomorrow never comes. I've asked if there's a problem. I've caught him masterbating. I don't have a problem with that but when im being denied and to see him doing that it pisses me off. We haven't even slept in the same bed for a few months. I done. I already looking to start seeing someone else.
October 22, 2010 - 10:48pmThis Comment
I have been with my fiancee for 6 years. I am ready to throw in the towel. I have tried everything but he isn't interested in anything. I tried talking sweet massaging and pampering him trying to cuddle kissing him to to totally iniating sex I get pushed to the side. I putting on lingere everything and I get the same answer NO tomorrow. Tomorrow never comes. I've asked if there's a problem. I've caught him masterbating. I don't have a problem with that but when im being denied and to see him doing that it pisses me off. We haven't even slept in th same bed for a few months. I done. I already looking to start seeing someone else.
October 22, 2010 - 10:45pmThis Comment
I have been with my fiancee for 6 years. I feel like I want to call it quits. I have tried everything but he isn't interested in anything I tried the suttle hint but talking sweet massaging and pampering him trying to cuddle kissing him to putting on lingere everything and I get the same answe NO tomorrow. I've asked if there's a problem. I've caught him masterbating. I don't have a problem with that but when im being denied and to see him doing that it pisses me off. We haven't even slept in th same bed for a few months. I done. I already looking to start seeing someone else.
October 22, 2010 - 10:32pmThis Comment
I've done (edited for language) like that before, I'll be good, I'll be all happy and fine with him ignoring me for WoW for a couple of hours and just do my own thing, treat him to subway and try to be sexy and stuff and nothing ever works! He always has excuses like he's tired, he's just not in the mood, his body is being weird, etc...it's annoying! He doesn't understand that it's not the sex I'm looking for and that this is destroying the little bit of esteem I have left..I cry like almost every night because he's always rejecting me..I don't know what to do, I'll pretend to be fine with it, I'll be happy, I'll be upset and try to talk to him about it, I've done everything and nothing works, he tells me what turns him off and on and I'll avoid the off's and do the on's and it STILL DOESN'T WORK! I'm desperate here..I don't know what to do anymore..I want to be with him, I don't want the year we've been together to be a waste, I just want to settle down and everything but I can't be in a relationship where there's no sex..
May 21, 2010 - 10:37pmThis Comment
wow sexy. you changed thingd between me and my husband, just from tht one comment, and for that, i thank you.
March 24, 2010 - 4:34pmxxx
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OMG girl your so pretty how can your man not want to have sex with you???!?!?!
February 17, 2010 - 7:19pmyou know what??... dont blame yourself or drink because of this, talk to him and really tell him how you feel. Dont be drinking all crazy dont hurt body with this.. if anythin smoke a blunt. lol. But really if you guys are fighting a lot is prob because your not having sex and your prob fighting a lot because your not having sex. Talk to him and make sure he understands that you have needs too if that doesnt work ask yourself is this how i really wanna go threw my life.. with out sex and fighting all the time?? if not than sometimes its better to let go and find something better.
good luck.
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