Why Doesn't my boyfriend want to have sex with me anymore?

I hope all has worked out for you so far.

I have the same problem.. The only difference is in our relationship we never started out having sex all the time, maybe three or four times a month (give or take). I thought it was because we hardly got to see eachother but we live together now and still no difference. I've asked him about it and he says that he just doesnt think it is the most important thing in a relationship he would rather "hold me in his arms and talk and just be together." But I dont know how much longer I can take this.. If we hardly have sex now, will it be worse later on? I dont want to cheat but what do you do when you dont feel like your relationship has any passion, and you dont feel like he wants you the way you want to be wanted? Everything in our relationship is great except this. But I cant have a boring sex life for the rest of my life!

I am a guy, and I realize your going through what my ex-gf went through after a year. After a while, a guy can start to lose the luster of sex, the excitement level may drop off. Example, I use to have sex about 2-5 times a day the first 4 months in the relationship. Then we'd find kinkier ways to do it, restroom, back seat of the car, in the trunk (hatchback), on the beach, on the balcony of the hotel, jacuzzi etc u get my point. Then after 7 to 8 months, we were looking to do it in public. So we kept pushing boundaries and it got to a point where our excitement had to keep going to the next level. Then I realized later on that our whole relationship was based on sex, even though we connected on a high emotional level too. At a point I was deeply in love for most of the duration of that year. But I was at a crossroads with my future, did I want to spend the rest of my life with this girl? Now this question only came after she gave me hints of moving in with her. So for me it was a combination of things, then I started getting angry at her so I could break up with her. I was 22 yrs old at the time, im 25 now. I knew in my heart after you fall in love with somebody, sometimes you have to look beyond the sex. I did so I left. I know this doesn't help at all, but if you want him to have more sex life before, your looking for the wrong answers.

Hello!
Have the same problem and it's been over a year now. It all started when he partially moved in with me... could that be the reason? I did not force him to move in he just decided to stay more often than he used to until he stays now almost every day but the sex had gone to one every three months and that's lucky... Help! should i kick him out? We both love each other very very much and we do everything together... what should I do? I cry everything time I think about it...

i do not know how he feels about us he is 36 years old

He is 23 and I am 21. I did not think that at this age either of us would stop wanting to be intimate. my boyfriend and I use to be extremely active and yeah it slowed down. But now he barely even has time to hang out with me. He says now that he hangs out with the women he works with( they are much older or married.) and now he knows how women think and thats why he dose not want to have sex or even oral. Before he got this job he would jump at the moment or thought of me giving him oral or us being active.
We have been together almost 5 years. He laughs when I ask him what happened because before he said" any man who dose not think about that or want that are not men or are crazy ." He also plays the sleep card to. What the heck is going on. Why dose He do almost everything to avoid me. He dose not kiss me or hug me. only when i ask him to. When we do hang out it's when we go to stores together. I don't even feel like he likes me like that any more. I want to know what happened. How is it possible for him to even think about passing on a bj.? And why dose he not want to be intimate with me? And why dose he laugh when I ask him why dose he not want a bj? I would not pass those things up and i am a woman. please help me!

im not sure if he still feel the same way he used to same as before..or maybe he have other girl already?he is always busy...and cant answer immediately to my messages..what happen to him??