Why Doesn't my boyfriend want to have sex with me anymore?

i don't mean to be rude icurhuman2 but did you even read anything i wrote... i found so many mistakes that you accused him of where as i had statements in my previous posts that prove your conclusions wrong.i was very disturbed by your comment and i know for obvious facts that your wrong, he wouldn't, not to mention couldn;t cheat on me as im with him allmost 90% of the time. when he works i go see him for his break when he's at school i come see him for lunch and he picks me up after school, my boyfiend is verry loving and i wouldn't trade him in for anyone else. And i believe that i sid in my first post that i don't want to hear get yourself a new boyfriend... it's just like a guy to accidentally miss verry important details about the main subject their talking about. At least my boyfriend listens to what i say and acctually remember stuff. and has a valid input while we talk.

Allright now i'll update the girls on what happened the other night, sorry i've been busy and havn't had time to give you guys an update...As to how the other night went, it went great we talked about it and we came to many conclusions. everythigns been goig much better. he told me he was stressed about workign and school, and that it just hasn't been on his mind lately, and i can understand that because i don't think anyone wants sex 24/7. i dont even want that i was just concerned, as to what was the cause and if he wanted to talk aout it. we figured things out. if anyone else is having this problem, all i can say is that if your relationship isn't strong enough for you two to be able to talk about things like this then you need to talk about being open with one another because i can't think of anyother way that i could have fixed this. i stayed clam i didn't freak on him i didn't want to stress him out i gave him his space about it and that acctually made it better, think about how stressed he would have been if i was on his ass about it all the time. I'm glad i subconsiously made the right decigions and i hope anyone else with this problem can try my advice before things get out of hands. it worked for me, hopefully it will work for anyone else with this problem, thank you to everyone who replied to my posts and for being interested in my problem and helping me through it.

special thanks goes out to Diane P and Alison B. thanks!

Dear Miss Kitty,
I will be brutally honest because I'm a male and we are brutal compared to women, so I'm allowed. We males are like females in many ways when romance is concerned, but in some ways we are also like aliens.

All men start with a 100% ability to love (the same as women), but, because of our promiscuous nature and minimal romantic education (most sex education, as limited as it is, does not include the most important thing for a woman - romance). We want to sow our oats until past our prime, and that's the trap that loses us our ability to love.

Each time a male has a sexual relationship with a woman, that doesn't include romance, a percentage of that ability to love is lost(the same, again, applies to women, though a female loses most to begin with and holds on to the last few percentiles whereas a male is exactly opposite).

Some of us have sex with as many women as we can, caring not for the woman's feelings because another is just around the corner, but in doing this we become cold-blooded regarding the "use"of women. Therefore I would ask you a number of questions to ascertain your boyfriend's current loss-ratio and the amount of love he's still able to maintain.

Sex is irrelevant without love to a woman who can still feel and need love. If all you want is sex then keeping this boyfriend can't be that important, and I suggest you start looking for a male who wants love and romance, who will do anything for you - this person has the only way for you to regain that ability. (Hard to find I'm afraid - these individuals stick with their partners and can only be separated by the death of their mate. You sound like you might be young so I suggest you go for a widower or a young and gallant male who is less likely to stray once he has invested his love in you.)

Does your boyfriend, when he has made love to you, get up straight away after sex without a long kiss/cuddle-period (to bring you slowly down from your arousal)? If he is a considerate lover he will ALWAYS do this, if he did do this before but doesn't now, then you have lost him, and any wish of yours to keep him is futile. You may already be his alternate sex-interest - if he can't get it somewhere else - and romance is not in his mind anymore (at least with you).

In a typical romantic relationship that begins as "permanent", a three year sunset-clause is attached. The bright and shiny stomach-achey love of the best relationships cannot breech this period - if the love is great then a comfortable and relaxed romantic friendship with follow (often it is only during this period that a woman will experience a total climax as she can feel safe enough to abandon her inhibitions with the trust such a solid relationship brings - funnily enough, a romance spike occurs if this happens as ALL males DREAM of producing a total climax in a female. By the way, most males are extremely sensitive to a female's REAL climax and most males know when a woman is faking it, but they go along with the act because to so otherwise would embarrass them.).

Anyone who expects to have a torrid and hot relationship forever is going to be disappointed. Those who wish to have romance for as long as possible (men or women) will dump their partner every three years and get a new one (I call them love-junkies) - but doing this will erode their abilty to love until a permanent life-long relationship becomes impossible.

It sounds like he's not concerned that after only one year his libido has dived, which means he doesn't care about you or your concern. I'm sorry to be blunt but that is life, if you can't deal with the truth of the matter you will only further hurt yourself. My advice is, as a male who believes women are better than men at most things that are important, DUMP HIM and move, he's a thoughtless slug who should be sensitive enough to either explain himself or find help. Personally I think he's getting sex somewhere else and you are being cheated out of your ability.

If you were my missus (girlfriend or wife) the first time you suggested you wished a little extra sex I'd have had you in every room of the house by weeks end - but not before nominating each room in advance and telling you what you were going to be in for (anticpation heightens satisfaction.).

By the way, with a little imagination and a deft hand with onés maintenance masturbation, a male can do it every day way past their prime and reach a level of rigidity that could rival a sex-toy - like me at 55 (use it or lose it).

maybe he is gay now. he doesnt want to tell you becuase he knows it will upset you. he still loves you but u can not please him the way he wants anymore. im kiddin. but its possible