Why Doesn't my boyfriend want to have sex with me anymore?

I'm glad everyone gave out the medical opinion of things instead of being straight up with the answer. Their is absolutely nothing wrong with watching pornography or acting it out. If their is one thing you learn about pornography is that it isnt routine as most relationships have become. In the adult industry they spend years trying to bring new ideas and new places into the bedroom. The confidence of the star and the new experience for us to try. We didnt always learn from just having sex how to have good sex. Their is a difference. The sex can be as good as it wants to be but it can always be in the bedroom or you can move around the house or go into public or private places. Most men are orally educated. I honestly believe if women would put more attention into oral sex and actually enjoying it. Their relationship would be 100 times better. It is nothing worse than a guy sitting there wanting to have a woman all over him but the particular woman is so self conscious to not give them oral pleasure. Most women turn a guy off by saying I dont want to do that all the time, but the other woman ever time that they see them is willing and ready. They normally tell a guy that they want how much they enjoy doing it. The best answer is. If you have so much of a problem in the bedroom. How about adding 50 percent more oral to the sexual diet. When a man you love walks through the door. How about doing it than. How about in the car. How about in the movies. How about as soon as he is in the bedroom or shower. Dont do it like its a obligation but do it as if you love each inch and taste of him because that is what you love. It is better relationship 100 percent for sexless people that complain. It doesnt mean do it once a day. Maybe if you are doing it once a week how about adding 4 times a day to it. Most men do want to make love, but sometimes want to get wild and freaky. I may not be able to use the word that most men want on a regular base, but also those men become better love makers also. When sex feels like you can do anything and everything with the one that you love. It is truley enjoyable, but when both partners are self concious of trying new things or being wild than it turns on or both off. I'm sorry to say but I believe the woman man did cheat on her. The person who the man was cheating with relationship didnt work out. In turn he had a back up plan but the next time the relationship becomes sexless than its because you should have spent more time being his woman and his other woman than just being his wife. A man wants a lady in public and a freak in bed consistantly and not half way. If you are just half way than expect for him not to be all the way with you. If you love getting oral sex than you should love giving it as much also. If you think about sex or oral sex. You should approach him with not just talk but with action. If your man gets to the point he is worried about pulling his penis out because their maybe no action than you will have problems in the relationship. When your man pulls out his penis. He is wanting you to know what to do as well as you want him to know what to do when you pull your virgina out. Trust and believe most of these relationships went 20 percent oral to 80 percent just routine sex. Switch the roles and your man wont want to cheat or be tired at work. What man wouldnt want to come home knowing their is a hot woman behind the door just waiting to please him orally. He would come home everyday. Too bad women forgot that somewhere when they wasnt watching pornography.

DEAR MS KITTY,
I AM CURRENTLY GOING THREW THE SAME THING AT THE SAME TIME YOUR LAST ENTRY YOU DIDNT MENTION THAT YOU TWO MADE LOVE. I KEEP HAVING THE SAME HEART TO HEART TALKS WITH MY MAN AND TO ME HEARING THE WORD STRESS IS A COP OUT. IM SOOO TIRED OF HEARING EXCUSES FOR A MAN WHO WAS MAKING LOVE TO ME BEFORE AND NOW IT SEEMS AS IF HES LOST HIS DESIRE THATS IS TRULY A PROBLEM, I MEAN HOW MUCH SPACE AND TIME DO YOU HAVE TO GIVE SOMEONE THAT HAD NO PROBLEM DOING IT BEFORE? HE SAYS IT MONEY ISSUES-WELL WHEN WE HAD XTRA MONEY WE STILL WERENT MAKING LOVE AS WE WERE BEFORE. SO WHAT THE EXCUSE NOW. DONT GET ME WRONG I LOVE HIM, BUT LIKE TINA TURNER SAYS WHATS LOVE GOT TO DO WITH IT. HES NOT FULLFILLING ME ANYMORE, IM DO ALL THE CATERING TO HIS NEEDS AND I CANT GET SEXUAL ATTENTION FROM THE MAN I LIVE WITH AND HAVE BEEN WITH FOR OVER A YEAR. I MEAN SHIT IM STRESSED ABOUT SOME THINGS TO BUT WHEN YOUR IN A RELATTIONSHIP YOU STILL HAVE A RESPONSILBILITY, AND I HAVENT STOPPED MINE JUST CUZ IM WORRIED ABOUT MONEY...YES IVE TOLD HIM IF THINGS DONT GET BETTER I WILL BE LEAVING IM NOT GOING TO SETTLE FOR LESS WHEN HE USED TO GIVE ME AND TREAT ME WITH THAT TYPE OF ATTENTION THAT WE USE TO HAVE. ITS GOTTEN SO BAD DAYS THAT I WORKED ON HIS DAYS OFF HED FALL ASLEEP ON ME BEFORE 9PM I WOULD JUST SLEEP ON THE COUCH, IM SLEEPING ON THE COUCH BUT OF COURSE HE SAYS IT NOTHING WRONG, AND WHY AM I MAKING SUCH A BIG DEAL OUTOF IT. WELL WHAT EVER! IM SO OVER IT NOW, BUT I MEAN I KNOW WHAT ITS LIKE TO LOVE SOMEONE AND BE IN LOVE BUT AT THE SAME TIME IN MY SITUTION ITS BEEN LIKE THIS FOR A BOUT 5 MONTS NOW AND WHY SHOULD US AS WOMEN HAVE TO WAIT FOR THE SEXUAL ATTENTION WE DESERVE?

Does he look at pornography? I had a boyfriend who had a porn addiction and was so into it that he wasn't into sex with me. The porn was more exciting to him than sex with me was. Can you ask him if this is an issue? My guy eventually quit looking at porn and now we have great sex almost every day, way more than we did when we met over 4 years ago! He told me that he is way happier now too as the addiction made him depressed and defensive.

I had this same problem with my boyfriend, except I was the one uninterested in sex. I wanted to want to, but when it came time, i just didn't feel like it. I have since solved the problem. We were spending too much time together, and not being romantic enough. I went to another city to have "girl time" for a few days with a close friend, and when I came back, we missed each other so much, it felt like we had that intial spark back. Sex has been awesome ever since.