My boyfriend and i have been going out for a yr come this march. In the beginning we had lots of sex all the time everywhere anywhere....the lust of a new relationship i guess, but after about a month the amount our sex started to decrease rapidly. It went from 3 times a day every day to once a day half-asses in the middle of the night to early morning, to 2 times a week to maybe once every 7-8 days. I have been in constant struggle and battle with him for sex ever since. Iv brought it up before but it's to the point now where he just says "the more you talk about it the more it makes me never want to touch you ever again"
Iv thought about different things that could be causing this strange behavior. Yes, he is super stressed about work and now finances b/c we are about to have a baby. When we first started dating we found out that he had contracted Chlamydia and Herpes from a one night stand he stupidly had unprotected....we found out when i was rushed to the hospital 7 days after our first unprotected intercourse due to an out break so sever i couldn't move and going to the bathroom from either end was so painful i was afraid to do so and would keep it in for as long as i could. He doesn't show symptoms, in fact he had his first sign of an outbreak last month, and so is skeptical about weather or not he even has it or what it is. He has even tried to blame it on me, saying hes never had problems before...when he has slept with at least 50 girls most of them w/o protection and when i had met him i had only had PROTECTED sex with one guy, and only 2 times with him, and to top it off said guy was a virgin as well and i was abstinent for 2yrs after we split. Yet my boyfriend is in a constant state of denial. He admitted at one point that this "condition" freaked him out and was a turn off. He also carries a lot of emotional baggage, so i thought he might have ED of some sort, he also doesn't exercise a lot...or ever. He is 6 foot 4 265lbs currently. One of his ex girlfriends told me that he was always begging her for sex she never had to ask, said they did it at least 8x a day....and she was cheating on him! (and he knew) but while talking to her she also added that she and him had a lot of 3somes w/o rules. I don't want to feel like i have to let my boyfriend and the father of my baby have sex with other women just so he will have sex with me, and right now b/c of our health condition even if i wanted to i couldn't let him risk the health of another girl like that....or worse contract something new! My boyfriend even turned me down on the night of my birthday, he instead came home and played video games for 2hrs and left me to go to sleep...when he came into the room he asked why i was still awake, i told him i was waiting on him and my birthday sex he replied with "its not your birthday any more you should have just gone to sleep" (he had to work form 10am-10pm so it was after midnight) i started crying instantly, he even had the nerve to ask why. I just don't know what to do....I'm 19 and he is 25 there is no reason for our sex life to be this dry. I constantly feel neglected and unwanted by him, he would rather watch family guy re runs than have sex with me. He says he loves me, but im afraid that's just a cover up b/c im having his first and only kid, although i do feel loved at times i never feel "wanted" anymore.
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I am vary attached to both my boyfriend and the baby we have created together, i don't want to part from either of them. He seems to almost have a split personality at times, im just trying to figure out a solution.
February 25, 2011 - 12:46pmThis Comment