Jealousy

AmyLei, I'm so very sorry for your loss. I'm with Susan on this -- the grieving process takes time and at some point the intense feelings of jealously, anger, etc., that you're feeling will eventually fade. I know because I've been there. And don't beat yourself up if it takes a long time to work through your feelings. Everyone's different.

I must say that I don't agree with the anonymous commenter who advised you not to think about your loss as a bad thing. Of course it's a bad thing to lose a baby. I can't think of anything in life that is worse, quite frankly. I've lost a baby, so I know how horribly devastating it is to lose the life that represented your hopes and dreams for the future. The baby I lost was a twin, and for the longest time, whenever I saw twins, I would feel literally sick to my stomach. I would be in a grocery store, see a woman pushing her twins in a stroller, and have to run to the restroom where I'd become physically ill or start crying hysterically. It seemed so unfair that I would lose one of my baby boys when other women seemed to easily have healthy twins. I occasionally have a hard time when I see teenage boy twins (my son is now 14), because I still wonder what it would be like for my son to have his identical twin in his life.

Please don't try to ignore or bury your feelings. They're a necessary part of your grieving. Let it out. And if you don't feel like you can be happy for your cousin right now, don't try to fake it. Be honest. Grieve. I don't know why you lost your baby just like I don't know why I lost mine. It's a cruel thing for a parent to have to survive. But you will. And in time you'll be able to celebrate your cousin's baby. It could be weeks, months or longer, but you'll work through your feelings. And we're here whenever you need to vent.

Im sorry you lost your baby!
I know a couple who lost their baby too, and so did my cousin, but both of them got pregnant again just a few months later. Maybe God did this to you to show you that it is possible for you to get pregnant but this just isnt the right time.Try not to think about it as a bad thing because its not. Im sure you are going to get pregnant later and if you think about it since your cousin is pregnant before you are when you get pregnant your baby will be the younger one, and your whole family will turn to him because your cousin baby will no longer be the youngest. I dont know if that help you, but i hope i did! I just hope you do get pregnant.