Is it normal for my boyfriend to masturbate in the middle of the night.. Even though we had sex before we fell asleep??

My boyfriend does this all the time i catch him but pretend to be asleep simoly because i want to sleep but cant but of the annoyance this causes i wouldnt worry about it. Men are all the same self obsessedpigs. I love my bf to the end of this world but if he has issues he will havebto learn to deal with them alone im not losing sleep over it. We have sex over 3 times a night on good weeks. But he still feels the need to masturbate at stupid.am in the morning. I say let him crack on or do it back do it when hes asleep but make sure wake him just to let him know how it feels. I have great pleasure in reasuring him of his own moments. That way your not only involved he will feel gutless just like we do.

I fear that my boyfriend is doing the same thing. I wake up multiple times in the middle of the night thinking i feel the bed shake but it ends up being my own overthinking. So we talked about it and mutually decided that instead of sex with each other one night we would watch each other masterbate to ourselves. I feel like it will make you more compfortable when he does it and you can see how he does it to make himself feel good and visa versa.

It gets on my nerves most times cuz i do start to feel like why am i here? esp. If he does it regularly, i mean he doesnt choose it ovr sex but he does it then lies abt it, thats what blows me. It just sucks cuz my old boyfriend nvr did it because he knew we could have sex when he had his urge ANYtime & i love the feeling of when my man loves how i please him better then hisself... The Always Wanted feeling.

My boyfriend has similar activities that I just found out about and am not very happy about to be honest. This weekend (the whole four day weekend) we had sex about 3 or 4 times per day and last night I woke up in the middle of the night and caught him masterbating (laying right next to me in the bed). I couldn't believe it! I was upset for so many different reasons that I didn't say anything because I barely knew where to begin. The bad thing is that after he was masterbating for a while (and I pretended to be sleep) he proceeded to roll over and finish off inside of me. I was pissed off by that because of course he came very quickly after masterbating for about half an hour. I have a very high sex drive so I'm always ready for it, but I felt a bit weird and a little used when he decided to "wake me up" just so he could climax. I don't even know what it means that he did that!

As far as your situation goes, the only issue I would say you should have is that he is lying to you about doing it. My boyfriend said he wasn't doing anything wrong, so I asked if that is true then why did he sneak around and do it? That is definitely something you should get him to understand. You can't stop him from doing it when you're not around, but there is no need to lie and make it worst!

Thanks for the quick response Susan! It has def helped me at least look at things differently. I am not against anyone pleasuring themselves.. But I do see it as something you do on your own personal time. Like porn for example, I know guys watch it.. But I don't want to open up our home computer to a stream of porn sites popped up.. If that makes any sense? I understand that it may be a way for him to relax now but I still don't know how to talk to him about it. The reason why it keeps me up its because it's not like he just wakes up and " handles his business" and then goes back to sleep... It last hours! And what catches my attention is that he actually is asleep, snoring and everything! He'll wake up, do it for a bit and then fall asleep and then all over again! I went to bed with an open mind last night and after I practically put on a show with fireworks for him I figured I could get a good nights sleep. That wasn't the case :/ he was doing it again so I figured .. I'm awake, I might as well help and possibly help both of us get a good sleep. He was in one of his sleep "pauses" when I made a move and I let him know I was awake.. If you get my drift. He opened his eyes, got closer to me.. And then turned over on his belly. And remained on his stomach asleep! Time passes and I was awaken to the familiar sounds again. Def did not see that one coming. :/