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By Anonymous June 17, 2019 - 5:34pm
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Hi me and my bf were together today he started off by giving me oral on my vagina and then fingered me during that he got done with his other hand semen went on floor that hand never went inside me after some time i gave him a oral then i think he got done after second time on floor ... so we were both naked and im a virgin he wasnt so he tried inserting inside me after clleaning up his penis and stuff he washed hands and penis several times he put it inside me and used “pull out” method this happened three times so basically we had like unprotected sex it was my first time out of those times once he got done on my stomach and thigh we cleaned up directly it wasnt that much because most went on towel during these times he also peed and i also peed cleaned up also there were times he spit on his private part to insert it into mine im just so scared about pre-cum i dont know please help and we both took a shower after everything at all times he cleaned my vagina with towel and when i got home i took a shower again more thoroughly im about 5-6 days away from my period im freaking out so much and so scared do i need to take plan b he says dont worry about anything but im an overthinker idk what to do... please please help.

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HERWriter Guide

Hello Anon

Thank you for writing.

If you're not comfortable or unclear in these situations, tell your boyfriend to stop.

Pre-ejaculate itself does not contain any sperm. Sperm may be inside the urethra if a man ejaculated recently and did not urinate since. If he urinated since he last ejaculated, there is no sperm at all. Pregnancy is very uncommon from pre-ejaculate and the urethra would have to contain sperm at the same time.
A woman would also have to be ovulating and engage in unprotected intercourse with ejaculation.

Taking a shower or cleaning the genitals will not prevent pregnancy.

Wait for your period and stay calm. There isn't anything else you can do. We can't tell someone whether they will be get pregnant or not. Use a condom in future and take control of your body.

June 17, 2019 - 5:56pm
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Anonymous (reply to SusanC)

Hi thank you should I take Plan B my period is like 5-6 days away

June 17, 2019 - 7:09pm
HERWriter Guide (reply to Anonymous)

There is no reason to take Plan B if your period is 5-6 days away. You will not be ovulating.

June 18, 2019 - 6:30am
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Anonymous (reply to SusanC)

Since he used pull out method and I was 6 days away from period there isnt much risk right? I didnt take plan b either yet .. im thinking maybe I dont need to? Please help.. and thank you so much. Im just so scared it was my first time

June 19, 2019 - 9:29pm
HERWriter Guide (reply to Anonymous)

Hello again

The pull out method is only dependable if he knows what he's doing and you know your cycle extremely well and your cycle is very regular. Otherwise insist on condoms. You're not making a smart decision by allowing the pullout method. I'm sure you boyfriend prefers unprotected sex but you need to look out for yourself. Was the experience worth all this stress? You are your first priority!
But since you are so close to your period, there is very little risk. We can't guarantee a woman won't get pregnant. All we can say is based on your information, there is very little risk. Try not to worry, I'm sure your period will be along within a week. Keep us posted!

June 20, 2019 - 7:47am
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Anonymous (reply to SusanC)

Hi sorry to disturb again but I need some help again please its been 7 days now since that situation thing yesterday was my period date (the situation happened 7 days before period) and now i saw some brownish tint discharge on my pad when i came home then after shower i wiped and there was pink color on tissue light pink is my period starting? I also feel cramps.. like how I feel before period.. Is it period.. or .. implantation bleeding please help

June 24, 2019 - 4:49pm
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I won't repeat what Susan has already told you. It sounds like your period is on its way. Worrying about it will only delay it further. There is nothing else we can tell you. If you are still concerned a pregnancy test will ease your mind.



June 24, 2019 - 5:13pm
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