HSDD?

Hi Anon,

Thank you for sharing your question with the EmpowHER community! I am pleased that you were able to find some great information on our site about HSDD. I urge you to join the community and reach out to other women who are also suffering in the same ways.

To reassure you, you are not alone. More than 40% of women in the US suffer from sexual conditions. 

It can be complicated and there is no prescription drugs to treat it, so women are often left with seeking counseling for the condition. Often doctors rely heavily on behavioral therapy to address psychological issues. 

HSDD has to do with brain functions that regulate sexual desire-Experts suggest that an imbalance between the stimulating signals and the inhibiting signals is likely one of the causes of HSDD. At this time there is no FDA approved therapy for HSDD, although there is a drug waiting for FDA approval. 

If your low sex drive is the result of diet, chemical or hormonal imbalances, then usually a supplement to restore your body to it's natural levels will often be quite successful. Anon, you can search online for natural herbal remedies, but I am not sure how well they work and if your doctor would approve that you take them. As always, ask your doctor first before taking any pills, even natural remedies. Your doctor can run simple bloodwork to check your hormone levels to see if there's a hormone imbalance.

I think seeing your doctor is the first step. Be sure that he or she gives you their full attention and cares about your circumstances. I would also suggest asking for a referral to a behavioral specialist that is trained in HSDD matters. Sometimes talking about things with a third party who is not biased in any way can help you to relieve the stress and pressures that you are feeling.

I hope that you find some resolution. A sex-less marriage offers itself a fair share of challenges and it seems like you really love and care for your spouse and want to get help that will benefit the BOTH of you. 

Anon, if I may ask, why are you so overwhelmed and tired? Do you have young children who require all your attention? Maybe talking about what overwhelms you will help :-)

Best,

Kristin