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i'm newly married but i always keep myself away from being intercourse with my husband because I'm scared of sex for the first time. He sometimes angry with me but i'm totally helpless. Whenever we proceed for intercourse but i feel fear of pain and resist him doing intercourse. Please help me so that i can remove this tension and keep my husband happy. I don't want to be scared of sex.
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but i just don't want to do this. i want to live single, free and relax.
October 8, 2016 - 9:41amthis is not good for me. this is just painful and nothing else. all problems start with having sex.
get pregnant for 9 month and then delivery problem. it's bad thing for me.
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I remember comming in here 2 years ago with the same problem. Thank you to the people that takes the time to read every single comment. I post as "Anonymous" when I post about my problem. Some one comment and told me to take therapy. I did and everything change. Now I have a baby and he is almost 2 months. If I did it anyone can. Dont give up!!!! It takes time but is possible.
September 2, 2016 - 11:22amThis Comment
I have same problem my dear please tell me some advices. also i wanna baby soon
June 20, 2017 - 8:59pmThis Comment
Hi! I now have been with my current boyfriend for 5 years and I cannot seem to be able to get over my fear of sex. I'm so scared to nevwr be able to have a baby or even be able too have sex with him, what kinf of therapy did you go to? I really hope like you I can be able to do it as well!
November 7, 2016 - 7:33amThis Comment
At some point you'll need to take a leap of faith. Practice healthy sex and use contraceptives. Have fun.
June 26, 2017 - 5:51pmThis Comment
I do have a same problem .i don't want to hurt my husband but I m h
November 5, 2016 - 7:10pmelpless.plz help me how to come out from this
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Which therapy? Plz tell me I m also facing same prblm I've been married 6 month but can't do sex
October 8, 2016 - 12:23pmThis Comment
I am also facing same problem.. please help me to suggest which therapy will help.. I live in Delhi..
September 18, 2016 - 11:53amThis Comment
After being married for 4 years and with my husband for 8, I got frustrated with my situation. I visited a reputed gynaecologist who firstly assured me I was not alone. She spoke about a few other cases (anonymity intact) and told me how they were able to have intercourse and children, when they decided to. She also gave me confidence that most of the deliveries were normal.
July 19, 2016 - 7:44amShe examined me (I was very reluctant but she was an angel) and used a thin rimmed examining tool (lets call it a pipette, about a 1.5cms in diameter) told me everything was fine down there and this fear is easily addressable. She also made me insert the apparatus and asked me to slide it a few times so i get comfortable doing it. She explained how the vagina is very elastic and stress and fear can make it contract and cause the pain to increase. The pipettes came in increasing diameters and she put me on the narrowest 2 to start with. I have to consult her to get larger ones She also gave me some lubricants to work with. After using it, and using the techniques to relax i can imagine crossing this horrible phase soon. since my progress, I highly recommend anyone to seek help. Theres no awkwardness to this and we need to move forward with our lives after all.
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same problem with me.. my husband is very good nd always support me.. nd i feel very frustrated that i can not make him happy.. love him but do not know why do i fear with sex..please help me.. And tell me about therapy.
January 9, 2016 - 9:27amThis Comment