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I have a female friend who constantly requires others to make decisions for her and has people take care of her well being. She is 20, is quite attractive, and regularly has guys fall in love with her and look after her. She is careless with others emotions and moves from relationship to relationship. She has a hard time letting go of men that lose interest in her.
She quite often sabotages herself seemingly to have people come to her rescue. She is currently planning on moving in with me and I am encouraging her to enroll in post secondary education.
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Hi Anonymous,
January 4, 2011 - 9:31amThanks for your question and for finding EmpowHER. Being a friend can be tough sometimes. As you know the damsel in distress act can only get a person so far. You are good to push her in the right direction. But recognize that ultimately, there isn't a whole lot you can do if she persists in her behavior. You can stand by her side, and keep trying to inspire her to fly straight, and get help from outside resources as needed (such as counseling, etc.). But eventually, it's got to be her to take control. Make sure helping her doesn't come as a detriment to your own well-being.
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Good luck and let us know how you're doing.
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