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IVE BEEN MARRIED TO A MAN FOR THE LAST 12 YEARS. PROBLY 3 OF THE 12 HE HAS HAD A JOB(HES A CARPENTER) sorry caps) iam so tired of being the only one with a job. the men in my family do whats ever necessary to support their families but he just isnt concerned about it and its killing me. i pay 80% of the bills and we possibly will lose our house because i cant afford to pay for everything. we fight a lot because ive just lost all respect. i cant discuss anything with him that isnt positive or he yells at me very loud and gets scary. i dont want to leave him but he is sucking the life out of me. iam so sad, what do i do?
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Hey I was in a relationship with a guy since 2years. Im 18 years. He left me few days ago because he said he wants to live his life, at the same time he wants me asweel. He says to be friends. But i love him so much and tht make us awkward friends. He is doing this because his dad has his fourth heartattack and my boyfriend had an accident last year in which he broke his back. and still he cant walk properly. I know hes going through a reallly tough time. I told him to come back to me but he says he doesnt wanta relationship and hes being rude to me aswell. He cleaard that to me that hes not leaving me for any girl and stuff. he says he wants to live his life. I have been really depressd, i dont know what to do. He hurts me so much i gave him 2weeks time. so that he can tell me his decision. He said next year when he is done with his studies he will askk me out again. Tell me what to do?
October 13, 2012 - 4:11amThis Comment
Hello Anonymous, we have free therapy Q&A at Identity Magazine. It's anonymous, please feel free to take advantage of it.
This is tough because two years is a long time and I remember that love when I was that age. It may be tough to understand now, but you will in time. You are young and there are many men out there. Give him his space, take each day one day at a time and move forward with your life and do things that you want to do. You two may come together again. You don't want to force something that may night be right at this time.
Find an outlet for you to express daily, righting, dancing, singing, working out.. spending time with family and friends. Stay strong and take the time to focus on you. :)
October 13, 2012 - 6:31amThis Comment
(the above comment was from me, Susan Vernicek -
Hello Anonymous, we have free therapy Q&A at Identity Magazine. It's anonymous, please feel free to take advantage of it.
This is tough because two years is a long time and I remember that love when I was that age. It may be tough to understand now, but you will in time. You are young and there are many men out there. Give him his space, take each day one day at a time and move forward with your life and do things that you want to do. You two may come together again. You don't want to force something that may night be right at this time.
Find an outlet for you to express daily, righting, dancing, singing, working out.. spending time with family and friends. Stay strong and take the time to focus on you. :)
October 13, 2012 - 6:33amThis Comment
Thankyou, means alot :)
October 13, 2012 - 12:29pmThis Comment
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Fantastic!!!! Keep on keeping on ;)
October 5, 2012 - 8:34amThis Comment
Hello Becca2,
You have received some wonderful feedback from @SusanCody and others. See how much support you have here and now. Take each day one step at a time and move forward ensuring everything you do is in the best interest for your well-being.
I agree, take charge, but start in small steps so you aren't overwhelmed, and back down. Do you have an "A" team? Your support team to call and vent/ask for help? I have a few girlfriends that are my go-to for support and ears, etc. If you don't have this, I'm sure a few of us here can be that for you. :) You have made an amazing step with putting this message out. Keep going.
Feel free to email me if you need anything and our website may be of assistance for you..? We have free therapy on our site as well...
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October 3, 2012 - 12:42pmSusan :)
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THANK YOU SUSAN FOR CARING. IAM DOING BETTER. RECENTLY MY HUSBAND GOT A JOB AND HE LOVES IT. I JUST HOPE IT LASTS...BUT UNTIL THEN, IAM GOING TO KEEP ON KEEPIN ON. HAVE A GREAT DAY! (sorry for the caps, looked up and there they were :) )
October 4, 2012 - 7:29amBecca
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dearest becca2,
August 16, 2012 - 5:35pmI admire you. You have a wonderful career. You took care of your children and set an incredible example! I am in a situation where my husband turned out to be depressed and have anxiety. I have raised my daughter during our whole 21 year marriage. My parents helped us financially, until a few years ago. I had to leave my daughter when she needed me and get a minimum wage job...no degree , no skill and no experience. That lasted about 4 years til I had a nervous breakdown. We went bankrupt and got evicted from our house of 18 years...my husband still has no job, blames me and I am HOPELESS with nothing to live for. You have POWER....I can not go back...but YOU are in charge of your future because you have OPTIONS!!! BELIEVE IN YOURSELF!!!
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you do have an option. never say never. my husband just got a job 2 month ago. it was only suppose to last a couple weeks but he is still there. you do have power...its within you. work for yourself and NEVER give up. he might need to go his own way if he keeps bringing you down. please take care and thank you for you kind words.
October 4, 2012 - 7:22amThis Comment