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By November 19, 2014 - 2:10pm
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i met my boy friend last year in late october and i was going through a tough time he offered assistance but i wasn't into him and wwe were only talking getting to knw each other he met my mom in November of last year and she liked him. he fell in love with me but i didnt realize it. around December my ex boyfriend came by me i thought i still had feelings for him and i realized tht i didnt any more at the moment while we were both naked he was on top trying to insert his penis in my vagina there was penetration but i stopped him cause i realized i had started liking this new guy i met. i love ths dude but he loves me more than i do he pays for my school he literally does everything we talked abt cheating and he said if i did cheat he would not want to continue the relationship im feeling a little guilty and im scared to tell him but wat i did is it considered as having sex with my ex boyfriend

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Thank you very much Pam i feel much better

November 19, 2014 - 8:31pm


Hi Keisa -

Basically you seem to be asking for someone else to make a judgement as to whether getting naked and close to having sex with your ex-boyfriend was really having sex with him or if it was something else. What else would it be? You can play games and say that technically since there was no penetration there was no "sex" but there is far more to "sex" than the act itself. Intimacy is a key part of healthy sexual relationships between adults. 

In any case, you seem to have only recently started an ongoing relationship with the new boyfriend and apparently have some type of agreement now to only see each other. You didn't have that agreement before and what you did before this agreement is your business, not his. Try to focus on your future and stop feeling guilty. You will have a much healthier relationship with the new boyfriend if you stick to what you have now agreed to rather than worrying about the past.

Hope that helps,


November 19, 2014 - 5:24pm
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