Yes I went to therapy when I was a teenager but I lied because I knew they would tell my parents. I felt like they never gave me any tools to help me cope and be independent and confident.
I would say that it took time. I have read many self-help books, written in my journal, painted, and talked to family and friends.
The hardest part is wanting to fastforward forgiveness. It will happen when you are ready for it. After I blamed him and hated him I tried to think about it from another perspective. Yes it was his decision to do what he did but it was also how he was raised, how his parents were,etc. This helped me see it from another perspective.
There were times when I thought I was done with all that turmoil only to have someone bring him up and me cringe. It wasn't easy but it helped to talk to my mom. She didn't know till I was in high school because I never told her. She blamed herself but she knew it wasn't her fault.
My sister called him "The One Who Should Not Be Named." We all laughed but she never understood why I disliked him. She is younger and wasn't and isn't ready to understand.
I am not religious but have been discovering my spirituality and that has helped me to forgive and be happy with myself and my life. Those incidences were gifts. I would not be as strong as I am today without those tests.
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Yes I went to therapy when I was a teenager but I lied because I knew they would tell my parents. I felt like they never gave me any tools to help me cope and be independent and confident.
I would say that it took time. I have read many self-help books, written in my journal, painted, and talked to family and friends.
The hardest part is wanting to fastforward forgiveness. It will happen when you are ready for it. After I blamed him and hated him I tried to think about it from another perspective. Yes it was his decision to do what he did but it was also how he was raised, how his parents were,etc. This helped me see it from another perspective.
There were times when I thought I was done with all that turmoil only to have someone bring him up and me cringe. It wasn't easy but it helped to talk to my mom. She didn't know till I was in high school because I never told her. She blamed herself but she knew it wasn't her fault.
My sister called him "The One Who Should Not Be Named." We all laughed but she never understood why I disliked him. She is younger and wasn't and isn't ready to understand.
I am not religious but have been discovering my spirituality and that has helped me to forgive and be happy with myself and my life. Those incidences were gifts. I would not be as strong as I am today without those tests.
May 1, 2008 - 3:27pmThis Comment
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