I agree with you - this topic is OFTEN over-simplified. I'm now a stay-home mom and I love it, but a year ago our circumstances were different and I HAD to work. It was so hard to leave my daughter every day...and moms who had what I wanted and then sat judging me did not make that easier. i think a mom should be home, but not all women think like me. and many woman want to be home with their kids and can't. I think a mom at home is best, but a mom at work isn't wrong or bad or selfish. In fact, in our case it was just the opposite. I was daily laying down what I really wanted so that my husband to finish his masters degree - which is now better for our whole family. We are a team and it is give and take.