babibubbles - thanks so much for your comment. Yes he does watch porn and he can ejaculate whilst masturbating to porn, but he doesnt masturbate that often, i'd say 1-2 times a week (so he tells me, but i do believe this)
I've spoken to him, mainly about being concerned for his health more than anything as i do think an underlying health issue could be to blame. He is adamant that nothing is wrong with him and he doesn't need to see a doctor. I keep telling him it's not normal and i am worried! But he thinks that because he can ejaculate through masturbation then he is fine. He also said that it is probably a mental issue and he 'has things playing on his mind'. He vaguely mentioned things such as feeling pressured, needing to try different things, needing to feel more excited, disliking his job and wanting a new one. I tried to talk to him about these issues but he didnt want to discuss them further. He said he felt like he was letting us both down. Now i feel really awful for making him feel this way and feel like the situation will worsen! We have sort of left it in an awkward way now, and im sure another conversation will be had - it's needed to fully sort this out.
Cassie - i feel the same, it is strangely comforting to know that someone else is going through this too. There is always an excuse with my bf, usually that he is tired. But even on his day off when he has just woken up he is tired! It's so frustrating.
We have talked, and i have found out that he wants to try new things, feel more excited - maybe talk to your bf about things he likes/ wants to do and tell him you would be open to trying different things.
Also my bf has told me that he prefers sex in the morning/ day time than to evening/ bed time as he is way to tired for it then. We are both at work in the morning/ day, but maybe on days off we'll see what happens. Maybe your bf is the same way? Book a night away in a nice hotel together and see what happens?
Good luck!
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babibubbles - thanks so much for your comment. Yes he does watch porn and he can ejaculate whilst masturbating to porn, but he doesnt masturbate that often, i'd say 1-2 times a week (so he tells me, but i do believe this)
I've spoken to him, mainly about being concerned for his health more than anything as i do think an underlying health issue could be to blame. He is adamant that nothing is wrong with him and he doesn't need to see a doctor. I keep telling him it's not normal and i am worried! But he thinks that because he can ejaculate through masturbation then he is fine. He also said that it is probably a mental issue and he 'has things playing on his mind'. He vaguely mentioned things such as feeling pressured, needing to try different things, needing to feel more excited, disliking his job and wanting a new one. I tried to talk to him about these issues but he didnt want to discuss them further. He said he felt like he was letting us both down. Now i feel really awful for making him feel this way and feel like the situation will worsen! We have sort of left it in an awkward way now, and im sure another conversation will be had - it's needed to fully sort this out.
Cassie - i feel the same, it is strangely comforting to know that someone else is going through this too. There is always an excuse with my bf, usually that he is tired. But even on his day off when he has just woken up he is tired! It's so frustrating.
May 14, 2011 - 7:03pmWe have talked, and i have found out that he wants to try new things, feel more excited - maybe talk to your bf about things he likes/ wants to do and tell him you would be open to trying different things.
Also my bf has told me that he prefers sex in the morning/ day time than to evening/ bed time as he is way to tired for it then. We are both at work in the morning/ day, but maybe on days off we'll see what happens. Maybe your bf is the same way? Book a night away in a nice hotel together and see what happens?
Good luck!
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