I was in an emotionally and physically abusive marriage for 13 years. We had two daughters. When my youngest was two, after trying every thing that I could think of to save our family, I gave up and left him. I was escorted out by the police and victim services. I supported my daughters pretty well on my own for 10 ten years. When my youngest was 13, he removed her from public education and illegally enrolled her in home schooling in his home. For many months I tried to fight him in court since I had all educational decisions. The law basically told me that she was of age to decide. Fast forward 12 years - her education stopped there and she is his farm hand and raises horses. Living her dream as he puts it. Sadly I am extremely allergic to animals and can't be part of her life. The older daughter lived with me for the most part and graduated from university. She is now a chartered accountant. I financially supported her education. When she was young he fostered a love of dogs and showing dogs in her. Sad for me - also allergic to dogs. Now they are both adults and the youngest lives at his home. The other spends a lot of time there because his new wife shares the dog show hobby. I rarely see them unless they need money or something done for them. I am a good person (by all reports) and can not understand why this has happened to me. I was encouraged to leave him for my safety and to empower my girls against following in this abusive life style. Sometimes I am so sad I doubt my choice about leaving.
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I was in an emotionally and physically abusive marriage for 13 years. We had two daughters. When my youngest was two, after trying every thing that I could think of to save our family, I gave up and left him. I was escorted out by the police and victim services. I supported my daughters pretty well on my own for 10 ten years. When my youngest was 13, he removed her from public education and illegally enrolled her in home schooling in his home. For many months I tried to fight him in court since I had all educational decisions. The law basically told me that she was of age to decide. Fast forward 12 years - her education stopped there and she is his farm hand and raises horses. Living her dream as he puts it. Sadly I am extremely allergic to animals and can't be part of her life. The older daughter lived with me for the most part and graduated from university. She is now a chartered accountant. I financially supported her education. When she was young he fostered a love of dogs and showing dogs in her. Sad for me - also allergic to dogs. Now they are both adults and the youngest lives at his home. The other spends a lot of time there because his new wife shares the dog show hobby. I rarely see them unless they need money or something done for them. I am a good person (by all reports) and can not understand why this has happened to me. I was encouraged to leave him for my safety and to empower my girls against following in this abusive life style. Sometimes I am so sad I doubt my choice about leaving.
May 7, 2017 - 4:46pmThis Comment
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