It's amazing isn't it? It helps so much to know we aren't the crazy ones and that we are just responding to the issue. My ex would yell, put me down, tear apart everything I did (including telling me he didn't like the way I walked) and I went through every phase possible to fix things b/c I was so determined to 'fix' him - he would continue until I got mad and then I became the abuser. It was insanity in the making and it took me down. I questioned everything until I could be pushed no more. It might help if you research the cycle of abuse b/c there really is a process to this and that will help you know that you are in a cycle and that you are simply reacting to a bully. Be gentle with yourself, fill yourself up with the good and find some therapy. It'll help you continue to learn new skill sets. Sending a hug.
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It's amazing isn't it? It helps so much to know we aren't the crazy ones and that we are just responding to the issue. My ex would yell, put me down, tear apart everything I did (including telling me he didn't like the way I walked) and I went through every phase possible to fix things b/c I was so determined to 'fix' him - he would continue until I got mad and then I became the abuser. It was insanity in the making and it took me down. I questioned everything until I could be pushed no more. It might help if you research the cycle of abuse b/c there really is a process to this and that will help you know that you are in a cycle and that you are simply reacting to a bully. Be gentle with yourself, fill yourself up with the good and find some therapy. It'll help you continue to learn new skill sets. Sending a hug.
April 20, 2016 - 4:04pmThis Comment
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