Hi Anonymous,
Thank you for sharing your story, and for finding EmpowHER. I know it's a lot of paperwork, and can be overwhelming. Do you have a friend or trusted adult who could help you figure it all out. If not, look to the staff at the school. They likely have financial aid counselors--it is their job to help you with filling out paperwork, and knowing your options so you can pay for school. I had to go through all that when I was in school--filing as an independent, and doing all that paperwork. I can attest that it isn't any fun. You will get through it.
I'm sorry you're still grieving the loss of your mom. Do you belong to a church where you could seek support? You also could talk with your doctor's nurse to ask if they know of any local resources that may help. Writing can be cathartic (good to purge emotions), keep doing it, even if it's just a little bit to help you keep control and not get completely overwhelmed. Do you have a good friend whom is a good listener? She or he may be able to provide some support too. I'm sure that your Mom is proud of you for trying to get back into school, and for carrying on after losing her. I couldn't imagine losing a parent at your age, and am deeply sorry you are having to go through this. Try to keep moving forward as best you can, and if you truly feel depressed, call your doctor. They will be able to help with medication (if necessary), and resources for support.
At some point, you will need to establish an adult relationship with your Dad. I understand things may be very stressful for both of you and hope that you can continue to remain in touch despite the pain you both no doubt feel.
Good luck, and let us know how you're doing. Also let us know if you have more questions or need resources. We can try to help find you some in your area.
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Hi Anonymous,
March 3, 2011 - 9:18amThank you for sharing your story, and for finding EmpowHER. I know it's a lot of paperwork, and can be overwhelming. Do you have a friend or trusted adult who could help you figure it all out. If not, look to the staff at the school. They likely have financial aid counselors--it is their job to help you with filling out paperwork, and knowing your options so you can pay for school. I had to go through all that when I was in school--filing as an independent, and doing all that paperwork. I can attest that it isn't any fun. You will get through it.
I'm sorry you're still grieving the loss of your mom. Do you belong to a church where you could seek support? You also could talk with your doctor's nurse to ask if they know of any local resources that may help. Writing can be cathartic (good to purge emotions), keep doing it, even if it's just a little bit to help you keep control and not get completely overwhelmed. Do you have a good friend whom is a good listener? She or he may be able to provide some support too. I'm sure that your Mom is proud of you for trying to get back into school, and for carrying on after losing her. I couldn't imagine losing a parent at your age, and am deeply sorry you are having to go through this. Try to keep moving forward as best you can, and if you truly feel depressed, call your doctor. They will be able to help with medication (if necessary), and resources for support.
At some point, you will need to establish an adult relationship with your Dad. I understand things may be very stressful for both of you and hope that you can continue to remain in touch despite the pain you both no doubt feel.
Good luck, and let us know how you're doing. Also let us know if you have more questions or need resources. We can try to help find you some in your area.
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